Hey guys! I’ve been wanting to attend the self compassion group meetings for a few weeks, but because I’m based in the UK, they’re usually pretty late at night for me and so I’m pretty much asleep by then! I would love to hear some of the tips and tricks that people have picked up in those sessions for those of us who are missing them!
hi! im not in the compassion group but my therapist recommended a book for me called "The Self Compassion Workbook for OCD" ive been really really liking it!
I second the recommendation above ^^. It’s by Kimberly Quinlan. There may be articles and tips about self compassion on the NOCD website, as well as the IOCDF (which may also offer international resources, but I’m not sure). We’ve watched talks by Kristen Neff in the groups too. Overall, some recurring tips are: Talk to yourself like you would a friend (if your friend was struggling, would you be critical of them? Or would you extend them grace and understanding)? Remember that you’re doing really hard work in navigating OCD. Be gentle with yourself when you’re tired, down, frustrated. Don’t forget that it’s ok to reach out for support from loved ones when you’re struggling. One exercise we did was to write down how self-criticism helps us, and how it holds us back. I couldn’t think of one way it helps me, and that was eye opening. And we also talked about how doing ERP, and doing this hard work in recovery, is also a form of self-compassion, because we care about ourselves to better our recovery. I hope this helps
I recommend that workbook as well. Self compassion takes work because it does not come naturally to me but just the awareness of how I talk to myself has been helping. With practice, I'm sure I'll get even better at it. The workbook helped me for sure
Thank you guys! I really appreciate those comments and will definitely look into those tips and the work book ☺️
Do you ever have a situation in front of you and you genuinely don’t know the best way to get through it? Like a difficult situation but the question is do you grind it out or use self compassion and give yourself breaks? There are so many different philosophies to follow, even if they’re not formal philosophies. For example, I have watched a lot of David Goggins and Jocko Willink on YouTube. Both of them have very extreme philosophies of discipline and how to handle hardship. Both of their philosophies have helped me during times of hardships in my life. But other philosophies have also helped me at other times of hardships in my life, philosophies that have more to do with self kindness and self compassion. So sometimes it seems like there’s so many approaches to how to live life that it’s paralyzing. Were any of y’all able to overcome the seemingly endless amount of choices towards mindsets to approach life with? How were y’all able to overcome this?
I’ve been spiraling for days I can barely sleep. I worked so hard to get into grad school and now i’m gonna fail because I can’t focus on anything else. The fact that my real events range from years ago and recently make me feel like I’ve always been a bad person. I keep trying to understand my intentions I feel like I don’t know who I am anymore. I’m looking into starting therapy and medication soon but I need some advice on some healthy coping skills in the meantime.
Hi everyone! I’m not sure if anyone has had any issues with sleep and anxiety but these past couple of weeks I’ve been suffering with anxiety when trying to sleep. My mind will latch on to the idea that I won’t sleep and I’ll continuously try to fall asleep and end up psychoanalyzing everything im doing . Usually I end up freaking out and not sleeping and waking up with maybe >2 hrs a sleep a night and have an awful day the next day. I’m lowkey hopeless in this situation, I’ve tried melatonin, sleeping early, limited screen time and nothing will work.. does anyone have any tips and tricks on what to do?
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