Wolfram

Date posted: 1y

Relationships in remission

Has anyone got stories to share? I've never had one without ocd. I'm not looking for anything other than to work on myself but would like to hear the before and after experiences with ocd and relationships. I've accepted it may take a little longer because I think a little different from most. I'm chatty and can pretty much talk to anyone but I'm not going to settle when I feel ready. It takes a lot for me to really connect with people on a deeper level. I don't mind if someone is going through something but can't be with someone afraid to do anything about it and it's painful to see it everywhere I go 😞

NotSoNewb82

Date posted: 1y

Bro I had a SZ diagnosis for over a decade. There was no cure and no way out. Then one day the Dr said I had OCD. Anything is possible and OCD recovery is especially possible, common even. I wish you positive vibes in your recovery.

Wolfram

Date posted: 1y

I consider myself recovered 😊 for now anyways. Who knows when it may strike again right? I just want to hear about success stories in relationships after they got better. I know anything different from what I've experienced before

s_____

Date posted: 1y

@Wolfram I’ve been in a couple “relationships” before and I also consider myself recovered for now. They went well, I didn’t get many intrusive thoughts and honestly I was so focused on the “relationship” and the person that I forgot I even had ocd. Not sure if that’s what you’re looking for but in my experience things went well.

Wolfram

Date posted: 1y

@shazey_k That's what I was looking for. Thank you. Its weird when you have nothing to compare to. I don't even know if I can be with someone who didn't go through similar struggles. I just don't relate

s_____

Date posted: 1y

@Wolfram yeah I can understand that. Honestly it feels weird to explain to someone what ocd is and what it does to you. But it is possible to be with someone who doesn’t have similar struggles. I have a friend who‘s boyfriend doesn’t have ocd (not sure if he’s been through similar struggles though) but he understands her and helps her through and overall they have a wonderful relationship.

s_____

Date posted: 1y

@shazey_k Helps her through it*

Wolfram

Date posted: 1y

@shazey_k I know people who have ocd and are in relationships with people who don't have it too, my mum included in that. I think I just feel differently from others. I love differently. Coming through the other side changed me. I don't know people who feels things like I do. Years of compsrtmenatlising emotions I guess🤷‍♂️

s_____

Date posted: 1y

@Wolfram That’s so real I genuinely don’t know how to be in a proper relationship 😭🙏

Wolfram

Date posted: 1y

@shazey_k Same. My relationship past isn't really normal 😂 I've always been able to be friends with exes but it hurts them to do it. I couldn't understand that. Only one stuck around and has been my best friend for 10 years now. I think I have the mindset to be able to cope in polyamorous relationships etc. I'm not one to sleep around, I don't understand how people do that, I mean I do understand, but how do you feel good about yourself? 🤷‍♂️ I think I'd feel empty inside if I didn't care about them. I used to be able to turn of emotions pretty much at will. Putting them in a box never to be felt again. But this was unhealthy and it was pretty much because I mastered the skill of avoidance by accident. I still don't feel jealousy, I'm not sure if that's related. I looked something up a year ago based on what I went through and there's probably less than 500 people in the 66million that inhabit my country that would've been able to go through what I did. I love everyone but I'm not fear I won't be able to fall in love. I know I am capable but I guess it makes me sad. Being independent is great and all but if you haven't got anyone to share life with, it just feels like something is missing

Wolfram

Date posted: 1y

@Wolfram But I fear*

s_____

Date posted: 1y

@Wolfram I’ve been going through the same thing regarding love recently and there’s so many things I wanna say but I’ll settle for love is complicated and so are humans. 😭

Wolfram

Date posted: 1y

@shazey_k Fair enough 😭

Wolfram

Date posted: 1y

I don't know anything different *

Deborah Ward

User type: Therapist

Date posted: 25w

Relationships and OCD

Relationships can be challenging for everyone. What are some ways OCD has come into your relationship and added extra struggles?

Canes12345!

Date posted: 24w

My life with ocd

I’m a good man and I know that. My OCD revolves around relationships. While dating someone a truly enjoy, I find myself needing to compulse everything on my mind or else I feel like I’m being a liar or keeping secrets. I also am pretty confident I suffer from false memory ocd. I don’t like to put a label on things but I’m 99.9% sure I do. My compulsions a lot of times come from things I’m not even sure are real. The more thought I put into them, the more I start to believe they are real. One of the worst compulsions I had in my relationship was I had a thought “what if I find my ex more attractive” and “what if I thought the sex with them was better”. I ended up compulsing these things to my gf. After lots of time to think and get a ahold of myself I was able to remind myself that these things weren’t true and I was just in a downward spiral. There was a 2-3 month period where every time I was relieved of something then I would instantly think of something else. These compulsions have caused insecurity in my gf and I feel like a terrible person. Never meant to hurt her at all and was just trying to find a sense of relief. While I know it is not true, I can’t fix things with words and I feel terrible. I would love to hear from people with tricks and strategies that can help. I love my gf and want to fix things and understand this is not a relationship fixer app but I would like to know what are some ways you are able to deal with these kind of things.

Anonymous

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 14w

Dating someone with worse OCD

I’ve struggled a lot with mental illness (severe social anxiety, depression, OCD), but have done a lot of work to get to the great place that I’m at now. I feel like a different person compared to how I felt a few years ago. Here’s my question: I started seeing someone really important to me. We’re not official yet, but we’ve been in each others lives for years and it feels like it’s the real deal. He struggles with OCD, and it’s much worse than mine ever was. My question is, do you think this is healthy for me, as someone who has done the work to get to a better place? He’s not in therapy, he’s against medication (I love my meds — they changed my life), and is generally in a different place than I am mentally.

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