Wolfram

Date posted: 1y

Relationships in remission

Has anyone got stories to share? I've never had one without ocd. I'm not looking for anything other than to work on myself but would like to hear the before and after experiences with ocd and relationships. I've accepted it may take a little longer because I think a little different from most. I'm chatty and can pretty much talk to anyone but I'm not going to settle when I feel ready. It takes a lot for me to really connect with people on a deeper level. I don't mind if someone is going through something but can't be with someone afraid to do anything about it and it's painful to see it everywhere I go 😞

NotSoNewb82

Date posted: 1y

Bro I had a SZ diagnosis for over a decade. There was no cure and no way out. Then one day the Dr said I had OCD. Anything is possible and OCD recovery is especially possible, common even. I wish you positive vibes in your recovery.

Wolfram

Date posted: 1y

I consider myself recovered 😊 for now anyways. Who knows when it may strike again right? I just want to hear about success stories in relationships after they got better. I know anything different from what I've experienced before

s_____

Date posted: 1y

@Wolfram I’ve been in a couple “relationships” before and I also consider myself recovered for now. They went well, I didn’t get many intrusive thoughts and honestly I was so focused on the “relationship” and the person that I forgot I even had ocd. Not sure if that’s what you’re looking for but in my experience things went well.

Wolfram

Date posted: 1y

@shazey_k That's what I was looking for. Thank you. Its weird when you have nothing to compare to. I don't even know if I can be with someone who didn't go through similar struggles. I just don't relate

s_____

Date posted: 1y

@Wolfram yeah I can understand that. Honestly it feels weird to explain to someone what ocd is and what it does to you. But it is possible to be with someone who doesn’t have similar struggles. I have a friend who‘s boyfriend doesn’t have ocd (not sure if he’s been through similar struggles though) but he understands her and helps her through and overall they have a wonderful relationship.

s_____

Date posted: 1y

@shazey_k Helps her through it*

Wolfram

Date posted: 1y

@shazey_k I know people who have ocd and are in relationships with people who don't have it too, my mum included in that. I think I just feel differently from others. I love differently. Coming through the other side changed me. I don't know people who feels things like I do. Years of compsrtmenatlising emotions I guess🤷‍♂️

s_____

Date posted: 1y

@Wolfram That’s so real I genuinely don’t know how to be in a proper relationship 😭🙏

Wolfram

Date posted: 1y

@shazey_k Same. My relationship past isn't really normal 😂 I've always been able to be friends with exes but it hurts them to do it. I couldn't understand that. Only one stuck around and has been my best friend for 10 years now. I think I have the mindset to be able to cope in polyamorous relationships etc. I'm not one to sleep around, I don't understand how people do that, I mean I do understand, but how do you feel good about yourself? 🤷‍♂️ I think I'd feel empty inside if I didn't care about them. I used to be able to turn of emotions pretty much at will. Putting them in a box never to be felt again. But this was unhealthy and it was pretty much because I mastered the skill of avoidance by accident. I still don't feel jealousy, I'm not sure if that's related. I looked something up a year ago based on what I went through and there's probably less than 500 people in the 66million that inhabit my country that would've been able to go through what I did. I love everyone but I'm not fear I won't be able to fall in love. I know I am capable but I guess it makes me sad. Being independent is great and all but if you haven't got anyone to share life with, it just feels like something is missing

Wolfram

Date posted: 1y

@Wolfram But I fear*

s_____

Date posted: 1y

@Wolfram I’ve been going through the same thing regarding love recently and there’s so many things I wanna say but I’ll settle for love is complicated and so are humans. 😭

Wolfram

Date posted: 1y

@shazey_k Fair enough 😭

Wolfram

Date posted: 1y

I don't know anything different *

Blumenkohl1

Date posted: 23w

I just want to be normal again

Ive been on this platform on and off for quite some time now. The last months have been quite challening. I started with erp but I still struggle to do it consistently. Idk if anyone can relate to what I am about to say, but sometimes when my anxiety is a bit hightened again, I get ocd dreams about my obsession and the feelings I have in the dream are lasting - so I feel them in reality as well - although I mostly feel them when I have nothing do to and I get hit with intrusive thoughts. That lasts probably for a couple of days and its an absolute nightmare. At the moment I am so sad that I feel like I am not able to date because I don’t really feel attraction towards men atm. This always changes but often times when ocd gets worse, my normal attraction fades away. A lot of people around me are getting into relationships and everybody seems to have their lives together and I feel like the odd one out. I wish to get married and have kids but it seems so far away from me right now and I feel quite depressed about it - and I get intrusive thoughts about this as well (that I don’t want to have a boyfriend etc) I wish to find some christian friends on here to talk about this journey, especially when you hope that God will deliver you from all this. I would be glad to connect with people!

justdiya22

Date posted: 18w

Will I ever be in a relationship that I don't ruin

I ruin every single relationship that I'm in with my OCD I admit every single thing I do even when it really isn't a big deal ,if I don't admit I feel unbearable anxiety and I don't know what to do about it , I'm always on edge worried I've done something wrong always searching my mind and actions for a slip up it's exhausting I keep spiralling wondering if I will ever actually be with someone and be able to have a happy and healthy relationship Please tell me I'm not alone I don't know what else to do

Anonymous

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 17w

Dating someone with worse OCD

I’ve struggled a lot with mental illness (severe social anxiety, depression, OCD), but have done a lot of work to get to the great place that I’m at now. I feel like a different person compared to how I felt a few years ago. Here’s my question: I started seeing someone really important to me. We’re not official yet, but we’ve been in each others lives for years and it feels like it’s the real deal. He struggles with OCD, and it’s much worse than mine ever was. My question is, do you think this is healthy for me, as someone who has done the work to get to a better place? He’s not in therapy, he’s against medication (I love my meds — they changed my life), and is generally in a different place than I am mentally.

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