Marriage

I've been with my husband for 9 years. I've had ocd intrusive thoughts about him being unfaithful or masturbating to pornography or unfaithful things like that. But never did I want a divorce. Back in January of this year my husband said he wanted a divorce, so my children and I left to families house because we had no where to stay. I ended up getting a job, and during this time apart from my husband I nearly, if not completely, forgot what most of my ocd intrusive thoughts were when I was with him. I felt good about myself, refreshed, and knew I could make it without him. Fast forward he ended up wanting to talk and here we are trying again being married and a family. Now that I'm back, the thoughts and feelings are back! I feel miserable with him. I feel anger, resentment, I can't seem to heal when I'm woth him. I don't want to regret getting back with him but it's almost like I do. I'm starting to believe that not only enjoy but LOVE being alone. I actually love the feeling and my life when I'm alone.

Aldenwill

Date posted: 39w ago

I guess you have to determine whether you want to be alone because it allows you to avoid your fears (a compulsion) or you actually just don’t like/love your husband. It sounds like the former to me but I don’t know you. It sounds like you should tell your husband what’s going on and then go from there.

one step at ...

Date posted: 39w ago

I’m so sorry for everything u have been going thru😢 do u have an ocd therapist that specializes in erp therapy? Talk with them about what u have been struggling with, they can help walk thru what can help with the intrusive thoughts that pop up when u are with ur husband and maybe if there is any possible other past hurts/ fears/ trust issues that might be there in addition to the ocd/ intrusive thoughts. Also, just want to encourage u to lean into your faith in this challenging time, it helps remembering we are not alone, God is looking out for us and our families 🙏🤗💝 hang in there and be kind to yourself you are going thru a lot💝

one step at ...

Date posted: 39w ago

@one step at a time😊🙏💝 The comment above is good advice too about taking with your husband about what u have been struggling with. Maybe he could come to an appt with your ocd therapist with you sometime and learn about ocd and the therapist can help you guys talk thru some stuff easier, they are trained to help for group sessions 💝

sgray4

Date posted: 21w ago

Relationship doubts

I’ve been struggling with relationship OCD and differentiating between what is an intrusive thought and what is a real doubt. I was really happy with my partner then I got one aggressive thought that I didn’t love him and this spiralled into noticing all his flaws. I struggle being around him because I feel a huge sense of guilt that these thoughts even come into my head and I cannot figure out if this is my brain lying to me or this is how I feel. It’s really impacting a relationship that is so important to me.

Relationship OCD

Anonymous

Date posted: 16w ago

Obsessing over coworker for months OCD

You know when you have weird thoughts about a coworker and because you have OCD these thoughts really stick and you panic and feel sick? Yeah that’s me and I’ve struggled with having intrusive thoughts about my coworker and now he just got in a relationship with my coworker and my intrusive thoughts are WORSE I thought they would be better? And initially they were because I was relieved that he couldn’t be weird with me now because he has a girlfriend. But this is the thought that i cannot get over- my OCD is like you’re jealous that he doesn’t like you and he’s not with you instead and i envy this girl he is with. Why the fuck am I having these thoughts while I’m in a healthy relationship and love my boyfriend to DEATH- like I know he is my forever. I couldn’t look at him today because I’ve been obsessing over this thought I’ve had in work and now I have to find a new job I hope no one will judge me for these thoughts or maybe someone has had this weird thought before? :(

Relationship OCD

bmaria

Date posted: 10d ago

Rocd?

My psychologist tells me because my thoughts are based off of facts/ broken boundaries which is why I am having thoughts of am i in love , am I settling , and feeling guilty I should let him go to find someone who wouldn’t doubt him that I do not have rocd. She states rocd is intrusive , irrational thoughts not based off of real facts and I may have ptsd not ocd. He kissed someone else before we were official and he finds a certain type of female attractive that I find disgusting . So I spin about these issues all day long to the point I’m so unhappy with him and had to break up . It’s been over a month now but I’m still severely anxious and depressed The thing is I can’t stop thinking about this 24/7 with severe anxiety and depression and nothing is helping me . Can someone please tell me their thoughts

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