I feel so sad I know my body is not the standard and my boyfriend used to watch porn almost every day and I cant stop thinking about it along with thinking of his exes and I feel so sick. I feel embarrassed for ever showing him my body what was he really thinking? I’m so so gross
I hope you know that another person’s porn use is NOT a reflection of you as a person at all. You are beautiful and I’m sure of it. I’m gonna put a quote from a page I follow on Instagram called @lovewouldnt: “Their addiction has nothing to do with you. Dieting or giving yourself an eating disorder, extensive workout plans, plastic surgery, or engaging in/initiating more sex, even when you may not even be in the emotional state to do so, is not going to cure their porn use. It will only make you feel worse. They have to do it on their own. It's up to them. Not you.” Another quote from one of her posts: “It didn't matter if I was the most beautiful girl. Even if I was exactly his type, he still would have chose porn. You know why? Because porn conditions the mind to ALWAYS need something more. If you have been or are in this situation currently, please know it IS NOT YOU. The amount of girls I get in my dms telling me they are currently considering plastic surgery to make their husband and boyfriends like them more is highly upsetting, and it's even worse cause I know how they feel. I've been in that position. I would have done ANYTHING for him to just think I was pretty. The truth is no matter what, unless they quit for themselves and because they know they are hurting you as well, they will always choose the porn. They will choose it over ANYTHING, not just you. I know how badly you want to be the one that can fix his addiction, trust me, but you are already extremely beautiful. You don't need to change something about yourself just because another person has been so blinded by their addiction that they can't see it. Other people can see your beauty. I see it.” I hope you realize it has nothing to do with you. You are beautiful and I hope you can realize that, your partners porn use had nothing to do with you and everything to do with him. Sending love 🫶
@JesusSaves424 Thank you so much. This made me cry. I really love him and I know he thinks I’m beautiful and he did before but its really hard thinking of how I’m abnormal compared to everything else he’s seen.
@Anonymous243 Of course. And I’m so sorry you are dealing with this type of pain. I hope you know you are so uniquely beautiful and so lovable. Porn is very unrealistic and oftentimes a lot of porn stars have been very heavily altered by plastic surgery and injections. Realistically, a very small amount of people on this Earth will even meet half of the societal expectations that the porn industry tries to put on us, because it’s all fake. Your natural beauty is more than enough and I hope one day you can see that <3 I’m here if you need a friend! (:
@JesusSaves424 Thank you I really really appreciate it ❤️
hi everyone 👋🏻 This is less of an ROCD post but I urgently need advice because i feel like i can't think straight. My bf and I are together for almost 3 years. Ive gained over 10kg over the last six months which led to him kind of commenting on my relationship with food. I always struggled with my weight and he knows. I also know that I eat very unhealthy and a lot but I have been having difficulties with my eating disorder in the last couple of months and its just not easy to snap out of it. Yesterday I showed him pants that I would like to buy myself and he said that my bum would be a little too much in those pants. It hurt me a lot and I immediately told him why he would say something like that and he just said that he didn't try to be mean and it just came out like that and he knows that it was wrong, so he apologised. But i couldn't let go of it because we've had another discussion like this over 2 months ago and he promised me to stop commenting on my body and my eating disorder. It just makes me feel like he generally prefers skinny women. So i asked him, i asked him if he prefers skinny women and he said that he would prefer if i would lose a few pounds. My heart shattered in that moment and I don't know what to do and how to deal with it. We've talked about it last night and he understands that he's in the wrong but i don't know how to cope and what to do. Please give me some advice
Does anybody else struggle with the fact, knowing that their boyfriend used to watch porn and makes it you feel jealous or super insecure about yourself? It’s weird because I knew my first boyfriend watched porn before we met and it never really bothered me and now I’m on my second boyfriend and he told me he watched porn and had an addiction about two years ago and is clean but for some reason, this just bothers me and makes me super insecure Way more than my first boyfriend. And I understand that he did two years ago, but the fact imagining him pleasuring himself to another girl and the fact that it’s a girl that has stuff that I don’t have just makes me feel super insecure about my own body, even though this was almost 3 years ago. I just don’t understand why all of a sudden I feel this way because anytime he mentions something like a girl popped up on Instagram. I automatically think oh like this is something he likes like he probably wishes I look like her or just the simple fact of knowing that it accidentally pops up and he sees it and then I hear about it and I just automatically like shut down and I get super insecure and have the time I don’t even want him to like, touch my body because I feel so insecure, knowing the fact that I don’t look like these Instagram girls that randomly just pop up. And it’s crazy because I never cared or thought this way but once I started dating my current boyfriend, I just can’t stop thinking about not being good enough because I don’t look like an Instagram model.
Ok guys this is so embarassing. I absolutely hate this. But pretty much I’ve been going through a breakup and now I’m getting intrusive thoughts/memories about us being physically intimate and cringing about it. I’m not sure why I’m cringing because it’s a normal part of a relationship, and he’s the first person I’ve ever been intimate like that with. I guess I’m embarrassed. I don’t know what I looked like and I’m embarassed I didn’t look perfect and that’s apart of why he broke up with me. I don’t know why my brain is doing this. I hate this
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