Cause of OCD family treatment. How likely??

How likely is it that the cause of my OCD is how I have been negatively treated by virtually all of my family since I was a child and still continue to be treated this way. I can give examples if anybody wants them but basically I have always been made to feel like the least important by my parents right through to my uncle and cousins. I have learnt over the years that they have a lot of there own issues and I think that is in part why they have treated me this way. Thanks in advance for any replies

Wolfram

Date posted: 1y

Yes, neglect is a form of trauma and trauma can trigger ocd. I was unfortunately neglected. (my parents are lovely people and love them to bits but they didn't pay attention). They had their own stuff going on. I blamed them for years, the majority of my life in fact. There was no ill intention though. Some people just don't know wtf they're doing and we are all guilty of that in some way, shape or form. Guilty of being human. So even if they were a contributor to the cause, would that change your decision to get better? Would it ultimately matter to your future?

Joe87

Date posted: 1y

Thanks for your answer and I totally agree with you. There are definitely mental health issues that run in my family and I think what I find most frustrating about the position I find myself in now mentally with all of this ocd and anxiety is that between the age of around 16-25 i was in a reasonably good place mentally. I had a secure job, exercised 4-5 times a week and didn't even know what mental health even was or meant if that makes sense...i just knew that I felt quite positive about myself and things in general most of the time despite any adversity I had in life but I also always knew that there were things and ways that my family behaved that weren't quite right at times but I used to just think 'oh there a bit crazy and I'm not like that so I don't need to worry' There also used to be occasions during them years that various members of my family including my parents would say things to me like 'do you never get bored going to the gym' or 'how do you keep yourself so sane' etc and i would always just think 'well i do and im glad that im quite different from you in lots of ways' There would be occasions that I felt jealousy from them when I was doing alright for myself and almost like they wanted me to screw up and that is what is massively frustarting for me now because for the past 4 years I have really struggled and because oflf that i have screwed a few things up and i actually get the feelimg that some of my family members have enjoyed this and I know that is the case because when i have spoken to some of them about my struggles they have laughed and even looked happy about it Sorry for the essay it's just you seem to know what you're talking about so I wanted to get your view a bit further

tin06

Date posted: 1y

I believe it could be a correlation. In my family there are a few cases of OCD, never treated, and the culture also contributed to making me very confused as a child while I developed OCD along with trauma. I think if your brain grew in that enviroment it's normal you struggle with that now. But the more you educate youself about It, the easier It gets to identify toxic behavious and value youself how you reserve despite what your family thinks

Joe87

Date posted: 1y

Thanks for your reply. Can I ask where you are in your OCD recovery journey? I have replied a bit more to wolfram above which explains my situation a bit more. Feel free to put your opinion to that if you don't mind as it is greatly appreciated

tin06

Date posted: 1y

@Joe87 Honestly I'm better than last year but haven't had the chance to go to a specialized therapist in my country, so I'm educating myself as much as I can and it has helped. Learning how they brain works was the key. I think accepting that some family members just have a mindset of puting others down is important too, sometimes even the culture we grew up in has a lot of rituals that are very toxic for people with OCD, that was my case. I notice that response prevention works but sometimes ICBT principles work better, specially with more mental compulsions, because it goes to the root of the problem and not the compulsión. I've only been looking into It recently but the website has lots of resources

Joe87

Date posted: 49w

@tin06 Sorry for such a late reply. Can you tell me exactly what icbt is and give me an example of a CBT exercise? I have had some erp sessions so in understand what that is but I am still confused by what CBT is exactly and I always have been

tin06

Date posted: 49w

@Joe87 There is an excellet free guide and lots of info about it on https://icbt.online/ basucally is not about the maybes but understanding inference of thoughts

Anonymous

Date posted: 24w

Question: What causes OCD. Nature and/or Nurture?

Why do some people develop OCD?

geodrimilis

Date posted: 24w

Can I be born with ocd?

So basically I didn’t know till my hocd started. But looking back at my life I had ocd since I was a kid. Like 6-7 years old. First time happening I remember that when I was doing stuff many times I had to say something like a little poem in my head to stop it. Then I had this thing were if I felt my left foot touch the floor 5 times I had to do the touch the floor with my right foot too. Then I had something I guess contamination??? Basically after washing my hands I had a sensation on my hand like I could still “feel” the germs and I had to wash them again. Then I started having thoughts of my family members getting hurt. I had intrusive thoughts about me hurting my dog. Then I had this obsession that a guy who used to be in my school is looking for me to beat me up. And how it’s this obsession about my sexuality even tho I never doubted or questioned it before. Is that possible??? Like can you be born with it? I’m pretty sure both my parents have it too. At least at some level. Take my father for example he had an obsession that he was going to die the moment he turned 30.

Anonymous

Date posted: 24w

How to react to family who does not understand OCD

I am married and neither,my husband or children understand what it feels like to have OCD. I have had it for some time now. Sometimes ig gets better while other times it acts up and feels just awful!! During these especially awful times I worry more, voice what I am worried about, and just feels depressed. I got even more depressed whwn my family members insult me because of my ocd. I know I should not voice my worries etc ask I am thinking that is a,compulsion but sometimes I do. I regret it afterward,cuz nothing food really happens as a result. More often I am judged, called names and then I really get depressed!!!! It sometimes tanes me days to feel better acter one of those wpisodes! I guess besides not viucing my worries what can I do in a family that does so ma y things that upset me....and it would wvwn if I did nit have ocd!!! I meant WE all have to live together and trust me....there are things they so that for sure woyld have bothered me way before I had o d! ,They would bother the father and son on the TV show Sanford and Son!!! How so I just,live in same house,all the,whike pretending those things,don't bother me? I meant I am the mom. Don't I get some say so without being called names etc?

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