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Obsession in relationships
I really need to know if this is ocd or a sign I should end my relationship so please let me know So my girlfriend has been struggling a lot over the last few months and specifically these last 3 weeks. And I think that’s what caused this because I kept getting slot of harm thoughts and just anxiety over how she was feeling. But basically over the last probably 2 or 3 weeks all day I feel so anxious over the thought of her but not her it’s more a fraction of who she is but mixed with so much anxiety and distortion. I’m constantly waiting for her reply back or constantly thinking about what she’s doing but not in a cute in love way in an obsession needing way. I feel so anxiously obsessed with everything about her. For example if she doesn’t tell me something she did that day but tells me later I get anxious wondering why she didn’t tell me. I feel like the genuine love I have for her is so distorted because all she is in my head right now is a source of anxiety. When I’m not with her it feels like my world is going to end. I love her so much but the relationship is getitng so hard it be in and I know both of us don’t have the energy to be in it in the way we should which she has admitted. Today we tried getting rid of the label of girlfriends and becoming casual and having an open relationship because I thought of the idea because the idea of that helped me a lot. And I felt good about this for about 30 minutes to an hour… until all the anxiety came bskc and I was frantically messaging her and waiting for a response. When I think of breaking up I feel violently sick and petrified, but I don’t know what to do because this isn’t healthy. Also when I think of out relationshuo even just a few weeks ago it feels like an eternity ago like that is an ul ternate reality for some reason, I can’t imagine feeling so happy and things and so calm and secure in her. I just want this bakc because I know it’s still there, I know if we haven’t lost any love and it truly is all pretty much the same deep down I think. I don’t want to just be told to break up, I want you guys to tell me how to get my obsession bakc at bay and for me to feel like I used to in the relationship because there is nothing truly wrong with the relationship or our love for one and other in itself. Thank you!!!!