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- 1y
guilt ocd
Any tips for guilt in ocd having the need to tell your partner or parents on something you did or saw because you think they will be upset about it but it’s not that big of a deal
Any tips for guilt in ocd having the need to tell your partner or parents on something you did or saw because you think they will be upset about it but it’s not that big of a deal
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@Anonymous how is that possible though like I feel horrible if I don’t say something and it’s so stupid what i’m thinking
@Anonymous oh my gosh yes it’s true I’ve had thought were I have told to my partner or my mom and after I feel way better and then I feel the need to think in my head again for something i’ve done wrong to tell them… so your saying this is definitely ocd?
@Anonymous that’s true
It’s best to sit with it friend, I know it’s so hard…but it works. Sending hugs
This was one of my very first themes, it’s like confessional OCD and a main compulsion is to confess because it makes you feel better for a day or two, then guess what… you automatically start looking for something else. It can really make you feel like you’ve done something incredibly wrong and catastrophic thinking then comes into play. However the same with any OCD the question/problem in irrelevant. Sit with the uncomfortable feelings, they’re not dangerous they aren’t there to hurt you. Realign your values remember often opposite. I feel guilty because I value truth, I feel a need to confess because I value honesty xx
@loubr80 thank youu🙂
I was about to comment the same thing! You are NOT alone 🫶🫶🫶
Maybe write it down? Sometimes it helps to see it outside of yourself
Yes, all the time
I can’t help but feel so anxious because of guilt. I feel guilty about not sharing everything about my OCD to my partner, but because I understand that confession itself is a compulsion and would not help anyone. I feel so anxious too that if all my fears come true and she finds out, then it would be so devastating for everyone especially her. Does anyone feel the same thing? How could I change my perspective on this?
I’m currently in a very emotionally stressful situation with my partner. We had a huge argument because I did something I had promised not to do again: I looked at my ex-partner’s profile. To me, it didn’t have any real emotional meaning. It was impulsive, meaningless, almost automatic. But my partner was deeply hurt – and I understand why. I told him about it. We talked. It was hard. But after that, things got even worse for me. I suddenly remembered that it didn’t just happen once. And since then, I’ve been stuck in this thought loop and I don’t know if it’s OCD or not So, should I tell him that it was more than once?”– if I should tell him, even if it might mean he’ll leave me. Should I confess this? I urgently need advice. I don’t know if this is OCD or not – the thought suddenly came to me in that situation. I have been formally diagnosed with OCD. But if I know that my partner would see this as very serious and might possibly leave me over it – shouldn’t I still tell him? I feel so awful and I’m having panic attacks. Is this OCD?
Does anyone feel the urge to confess secrets even though they’re not yours to share? My husband told me about a traumatic event he had and trusts me to keep the secret. It has NOTHING to do with me at all. And my brain is making me feel like I need or want to tell someone. I want to be trustworthy and my brain is making me feel like I’m not because of this obsession. It’s so confusing because I know I don’t need to but I feel like I “want to” because of the OCD anxiety? And the feeling of wanting to makes me feel more anxious and like a terrible person. I have confessed literally everything to my mom about my thoughts so she’s my safe person. And I had an emotionally abusive dad (probably how I got OCD at a young age - like 8 years old) that has now passed away. So confiding in her even with intrusive thoughts and messed up shit was safe for me. Does my brain feel like I need to tell her just because she’s my safe person? I hate the feeling of me “wanting” to tell at all too and can’t tell if it’s real and it’s making me feel like a horrible person. I literally have no secrets myself. His mom knows and so do I. So I’m not the only one that knows. But why is my brain doing this? It’s spiraling me out and has been for a few days. But I want to keep the secret because it’s HIS and it doesn’t affect me in any way. I mean sure I feel bad for him - but it’s from his past before we even met? Someone please help me rationalize why I feel these things and why it’s so confusing to know if you actually “want” to do something or if it’s OCD? It’s causing a deep anxiety pit in my stomach and has been for days now.
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