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This wasn’t a big deal until your OCD got involved. That’s one of the hallmarks of OCD - it takes something small and makes it big. I had your EXACT obsession 23 years ago. My OCD told me to break up with my girlfriend, and stop having sex with her. She was not a Christian. I did not listen to it. The pain eventually faded. We’ve been married for 20 years now.
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Wow, thank you so much. It's nice to know that I'm not the only one
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- 5y ago
It’s amazing how similar your story is to mine. I fell in love with a boy who was non-practicing Christian, but agnostic, and I am a practicing Catholic. There were some people in my life that made comments about us being unequally yoked from the start, either directly about us or that relationships between unequally yoked individuals never “work out”. At the same time, the closer I got with the boy, the more I wanted to express myself through sex (and the more I felt like I was pushing God away each time). It drove me so crazy, I think I “mini” broke up with him like five times because I got scared it would never work, but it ripped me apart each time. It’s like I knew I was happy with him, but the ocd would start drilling a hole into our relationship and I couldn’t get rid of the thoughts since I thought they were real, not ocd. I went to therapy for another reason which also helped understand that these were intrusive thoughts. Fast forward until today and we are happily married, 8 years later, he is truly my best friend. I think therapy helps you get in touch with your wise self and that part knows what you really want, not clouded by external intrusive fears. Good luck!
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- 5y ago
Thank you so much
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- OCD Conqueror
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- 5y ago
I can understand why it would be difficult that he’s not a Christian , as that is a big part of someone’s life and something you wanna share with your partner. Your situation sounds horrible and you have my support 100%. I would say don’t act based on your OCD , as themes constantly change , so it’s best to let it pass and accept that you guys have different beliefs , but I would focus on the beliefs that you guys do share and what you do love about him. Who knows , maybe eventually he’ll find god ! You never know , so it’s best to wait this one out I feel like :)
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- 5y ago
Thank you!
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- 25w ago
Is anyone else here a Christian dealing with ocd? I could use some support because I've been having a hard time growing close to God ever since my ocd started getting bad. I deal with a lot of religious intrusive thoughts such as being unforgivable, or being cursed or possessed. What's some advice?
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- 18w ago
my ocd has really been taking its toll on me lately. i feel completely unloved by God. i use to feel it, but now i just kinda feel a hole. i talk to Him everyday, and read devotionals. i spend time with Him. i just can’t feel Him. i know a relationship with God isn’t based on feelings, but on faith. i guess my faith is running a bit low. i’m just tired and my thoughts get worse. it’s like a roller coaster.
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- OCD Conqueror
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- 14w ago
I’ve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and I’m beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind I’ve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (I’m a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like “okay. Fine, but I don’t want to date a girl” I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if I’m romantically interested in women and not men. I’ve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts don’t stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I don’t want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that that’s not what I want. It doesn’t feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik it’s still ocd related) but I’m scared that once I tell him, I’ll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh I’ve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, I’m stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now
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