Well I’m not sure if it’s OCD Related but this is a tough break up. I finally had a great relationship with someone but I ruined it with my overthinking and insecurities. No I can’t stop obsessing about him. He broke up with me because he was just tired of it. Now I’m afraid I won’t find another as good as he was. I feel terrible
this might not be what you want to hear especially if you love him, but the right person would never leave you for something like this. the right person will be willing to help you get better. just be patient and take care of yourself in the meantime. love will find its way to you i promise ❤️
@taytayyay Thank you, he never was the type of guy who likes to talk about problems he would rather just leave than have to talk through issues. This is the 5th time we broke up for the year and it really hurts because he’s so quick to just throw me away
@Peace:)joy27 Everything else about him was good though but when it came to this area of our relationship it sucked
This sounds so hard. Breakups suck esp when they feel like they’re our fault but he is the one that made the decision to breakup with you instead of working through things so in that sense he’s responsible too. It’s not your fault. We’re human, and these things happen and we can take these experiences to fuel us even more to work on the issues we struggle with and try again next time. And I promise you: though no one else may be your ex or like your ex, there are tons of folks out there who are even better. It’s a big big big world, full of unexpected miracles and surprises that can find us in even our difficult moments when we least expect it. OCD can make breakups worse and tell us we don’t ever find someone as good, or make is mentally review things but that’s unuseful way of operating. When it wants your brain to go there, try to tell it “not today OCD, you already reminded me, I don’t need you today” and try to do things that feel like proactive and positive steps in the direction of the life you want to live
Hello. OCD is torture when in a relationship and breakups 😞. About 6 months ago I experienced it, and I’m still suffering very much. I left it quite late to enter a relationship (31 at the time). I noticed when I started dating it greatly increased my OCD symptoms, I think the combination of the excitement and uncertainty/fear of rejection. Eventually I met who I thought was my perfect lady, I loved her so much, but she broke up with me in a cruel way after 4 months together. The combination of the heartbreak and the OCD has been awful, I can safely say I’ve never felt so bad in my life. It’s a combination of: 1 - Being hurt so much by the breakup, 2 - missing the incredible buzz she gave me and 3 - feeling dreadful that OCD targeted her. A romantic relationship is such a beautiful thing and it’s the one thing you just wish OCD wouldn’t touch (but of course the cruelty of this disorder is that it goes after the things that mean the most to you). I absolutely hated it when the horrible, ego-distonic thoughts focussed on the person who was so extremely special to me. My obsessions are always morbid in nature (pure O, harm) and it’s completely tainted my memories of my relationship. I’ve suffered with OCD symptoms with varying intensity since I was about 19, I was usually able to keep it under control and not let it get me too down, although it bothered me very much. However the fact that OCD latched on to my girlfriend has hurt me massively. I wish I’d never developed OCD, it takes the edge off good times and it makes the bad times vastly worse than they otherwise would be.
You’re not alone. Sounds very similar to my experience. You’ll be okay💙
Relationships are hard. OCD is hard. Be kind to yourself. You both did the best you could at the time and it’s awesome that you both love each other. It sounds like a therapist would really help right now. I just went thru something similar and therapy really really helped.
My friend is going through a break up right now and I’m trying really hard to be there for her but it’s completely triggering my ocd ? I keep thinking about breaking up with my bf now even though there is ZERO reason to ??
Has anyone had a breakup or a major life change that triggered an OCD episode? How did you cope?
It has completely switched to me being scared I don’t want to be with him. I’ve been struggling for days. I’ve been googling stuff all day too. And then my friend asked me “do you actually like him?” And it’s been stuck in my head. And then I answered yes but my head was like do you really though? Can it really convince you that you don’t and that you’re lying to yourself? And can you feel like you’re lying to them about it all? It makes me feel sick. And then my friend said “I think you’re just second guessing things because you’ve never been in a healthy relationship” my mind keeps going to “what if you really are not mean to be together? You know deep down. What if you’re having all these thoughts because you just aren’t mean to be?” And I don’t have like insane butterflies or infatuation with him like I did my previous partners, but they were so abusive and toxic. Im so terrified my mind will convince me to break up with him and I don’t want to 😞
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