Well I’m not sure if it’s OCD Related but this is a tough break up. I finally had a great relationship with someone but I ruined it with my overthinking and insecurities. No I can’t stop obsessing about him. He broke up with me because he was just tired of it. Now I’m afraid I won’t find another as good as he was. I feel terrible
this might not be what you want to hear especially if you love him, but the right person would never leave you for something like this. the right person will be willing to help you get better. just be patient and take care of yourself in the meantime. love will find its way to you i promise ❤️
@taytayyay Thank you, he never was the type of guy who likes to talk about problems he would rather just leave than have to talk through issues. This is the 5th time we broke up for the year and it really hurts because he’s so quick to just throw me away
@Peace:)joy27 Everything else about him was good though but when it came to this area of our relationship it sucked
This sounds so hard. Breakups suck esp when they feel like they’re our fault but he is the one that made the decision to breakup with you instead of working through things so in that sense he’s responsible too. It’s not your fault. We’re human, and these things happen and we can take these experiences to fuel us even more to work on the issues we struggle with and try again next time. And I promise you: though no one else may be your ex or like your ex, there are tons of folks out there who are even better. It’s a big big big world, full of unexpected miracles and surprises that can find us in even our difficult moments when we least expect it. OCD can make breakups worse and tell us we don’t ever find someone as good, or make is mentally review things but that’s unuseful way of operating. When it wants your brain to go there, try to tell it “not today OCD, you already reminded me, I don’t need you today” and try to do things that feel like proactive and positive steps in the direction of the life you want to live
Hello. OCD is torture when in a relationship and breakups 😞. About 6 months ago I experienced it, and I’m still suffering very much. I left it quite late to enter a relationship (31 at the time). I noticed when I started dating it greatly increased my OCD symptoms, I think the combination of the excitement and uncertainty/fear of rejection. Eventually I met who I thought was my perfect lady, I loved her so much, but she broke up with me in a cruel way after 4 months together. The combination of the heartbreak and the OCD has been awful, I can safely say I’ve never felt so bad in my life. It’s a combination of: 1 - Being hurt so much by the breakup, 2 - missing the incredible buzz she gave me and 3 - feeling dreadful that OCD targeted her. A romantic relationship is such a beautiful thing and it’s the one thing you just wish OCD wouldn’t touch (but of course the cruelty of this disorder is that it goes after the things that mean the most to you). I absolutely hated it when the horrible, ego-distonic thoughts focussed on the person who was so extremely special to me. My obsessions are always morbid in nature (pure O, harm) and it’s completely tainted my memories of my relationship. I’ve suffered with OCD symptoms with varying intensity since I was about 19, I was usually able to keep it under control and not let it get me too down, although it bothered me very much. However the fact that OCD latched on to my girlfriend has hurt me massively. I wish I’d never developed OCD, it takes the edge off good times and it makes the bad times vastly worse than they otherwise would be.
You’re not alone. Sounds very similar to my experience. You’ll be okay💙
Relationships are hard. OCD is hard. Be kind to yourself. You both did the best you could at the time and it’s awesome that you both love each other. It sounds like a therapist would really help right now. I just went thru something similar and therapy really really helped.
Sometimes I feel like I’ll never be able to have a healthy relationship with a significant other because every time I enter one my ocd kicks in and I end up becoming the toxic one. They get tired of always trying to reassure me and I know they aren’t supposed to but they also don’t care to know that. I’m just so sad and so miserable I wish the guy I loved loved me the way I love him. I wish he cared about me. But I also wish I could let him go. But I’m just so obsessed with the idea of us I can’t let it go and it’s driving me crazy.
Hey everyone, I’m needing some help and would really appreciate it at least one person responded. I need advice. I just recently got broken up with a few days ago by my girlfriend of 3 years. I thought we were gonna last forever and we had plans for the future. My OCD made her so insecure that she couldn’t take it any more. She says she sees herself in a different light now and it’s all because of me :(. I don’t know if this is selfish to say but not only does it make me extremely sad, but also frustrated, because I can’t control that I have OCD. I know I can control my compulsions to an extent but she said “if you know the compulsion would hurt me then why would you say it?” And like I get where she’s coming from but she doesn’t have OCD and I feel like people on this app/in this community would understand what I mean when I say it can be so debilitating at times that you just end up giving into it because your mind takes over. I wish I could go back and reverse all the compulsions I told her but I felt so guilty so I told her things I should’ve kept to myself. I know I shouldn’t beg for her (which I have been) but we have such a strong connection that I see with no one else. She reached out to me first yesterday and wanted to see if I was okay and of course that turned into a 4 hour phone call. I’m determined to save our relationship and need someone’s advice/what they think. It really feels like I’m unlovable and that OCD won and took away the best thing in my life😞I know I should give her space but at the same time, I want to prove to her that our relationship can be better and she that she doesn’t have to feel insecure anymore
I feel like OCD ruins so much. My boyfriend broke up with me because of it. It got to a point where I made him do compulsions (ex: open and close the door a certain amount of times). I have OCD in combination with PTSD so I would get triggers often. He got to a point where he got up and left me while I was at work and cut contact completely. I don’t know how to feel and I feel like a failure. It’s been two months and my OCD has been nonstop telling me I was an abuser or narcissistic and that’s why he left. Everyone tells me I’m a broken record… but they don’t know that this is torture for me, too. I wish I could start over with my ex, but I can’t, and that bothers my OCD, too. Lack of control. I also seem to have memory issues in that relationship, I can’t remember what happened or not, and I’m not sure if that’s part of my OCD.
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