What if I’m a lesbian? What if I need to leave my bf because I secretly like girls? Am I loosing feelings for my boyfriend? I didn’t want to make out the other night, do I secretly think he’s gross? Did I ever even like him in the first place? Are things getting stale?
Okay, you’re looking for reassurance which will make OCD worse. So what if you’re a lesbian or bi or pan or some other form of sapphic. What matters is if you feel comfortable with your partner. Have you tried talking to him about these concerns (if you know it’s safe enough to do so.) Maybe ask him if there is ever some case where you do lose attraction what the plan could be, you could still be close friends with him or a myriad of other things. I rarely kiss my partner on the lips anymore, we’ve been together 4 years and I still love him. Sometimes I’m just not in the mood. It isn’t a sign that your life is over.
@regretfulrain Because I don’t want to leave my partner, and yes I have talked to him about these concerns, my main concern is my brain saying all of this and I don’t want it to be true!
@anxiouskatie Ahh have you ever heard of ROCD? This is very common. I had this for a week and it gave me immense anxiety. It is totally ok to think your partner is “gross” from time to time as he is just a human! How long have you been together? It’s likely your anxiety is just trying to protect you from getting close. I recommend looking into ROCD :)
@anxiouskatie Sadly being lgbt isn’t a choice. All you can do is live your life how you want. If you don’t want to leave your partner then don’t leave him, even if you are a lesbian that doesn’t mean you are being controlled. You have free will no matter what, being gay doesn’t mean you’ll immediately leave your partner.
@Anonymous I have definitely heard of this before! Sometimes I’ll have intrusive thoughts about one topic and then my brain will move on and then the cycle continues.
@anxiouskatie If you have Spotify, I recommend checking out “the anxious love coach” podcast by Natalie Kennedy. Episode 37 :)
Is anyone here going throughbSOOCD while being in a relationship? If yes, do you feel like “something is missing” even tho everything is great? My OCD keeps on telling me “you’re settling” or “yeah you’re happy with what you have but its nothing compared to what you would be feeling if you were with a girl, but you’re with your bf for society!” Im soo tired!! When I look at him I find him so attractive and handsome but i dont know if im attracted to him or if he’s just attractive!! And while growing up I was never “pulled by guys” but I thought that everyone was this way! I also used to look at girls because I found them Beautiful but I thought that everyone used to look at them this way! I think what truly bothering me is “comphet” and the “lesbian masterdoc”. Like I feel like I can relate to some points! Yes I used to choosw my crushes growing up but it felt like everyone used to do the same thing! As for my current bf, we started out as friend and then it turned into something else but now im scared I just agreed to being his gf because “that’s what I had to do” and im scared that he’s my “beard”. I particularly got triggered yesterday because my friends were talking about their celebrities crush and I couldnt think about anyone without forcing it! Instead I could easily think about kristen stewart or someone with the same vibe. All of this + my feelings must mean something no??? I just want to feel “in love” my bf is perfect!
I really dont know if it is ocd anymore I dont want certain sexual things with my bf anymore that i used to like When i envision it with a girl it is so easy to envision and it feels like i want that , that will give me the satisfaction This feeling is making me really question if i am still into men , desire men sexually Is this still ocd , i really dont know anymore , as it is a feeling it is too real
I’m like 90% sure I’m just bi, more romantically inclined to men, mainly my bf who I wanna marry. But now my brain is like “if you lean into liking women or keep circling and circling for answers you’ll lose all attraction to men and your bf. You’re practically already a lesbian” I feel so tense and anxious I will admit I am talking to chat gpt out of desperation I’m scared of losing all attraction to him I don’t wanna be thinking about women. I don’t unless I’m really stressed cuz when I’m stressed my ocd can take advantage of that I can usually ground myself when I’m in the city with him but I’m back home for most of the summer and I can’t be physically close to him which usually reminds me that hey this is real this is what I really want in life. Him But then I panic and question I haven’t been here in a while tbh. I’m worried I don’t feel enough. I don’t like magic Mike all that much, I like softer guys. But now the fact I don’t like/get turned on by random men on tv but do women in lingerie really stresses me out and makes me worry I’m truly a lesbian but I’m not. Once I started getting to know my bf and my ex bf’s I really did truly genuinely like them and wanted to make out and everything. Idk can anyone relate to the not liking big buff men All my brain is repeating rn is “when he dies you’ll be able to date a woman, when you break up you’ll only wanna date women” and it’s stressing me out. It’s making me nauseous. I was doing well for about a couple days after I initially left but being at home has been so incredibly draining This might give you a vision of how stressful home is: I’ve been on nexplanon for 7 months ish? Only had very minimal spotting during a stressful school period. Today: fully bleeding, like a usual period. I haven’t had my period since having it put in. I wanna go back to my bf so badly rn. I’m so worried I’m faking or don’t feel enough. I’m learning what a healthy relationship looks like and I’m terrified I’m gonna up and leave him when we’re older cuz I’ll finally figure out that I’m a lesbian or smthn. Idk. Someone pls just help me out a tad
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