Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

Need help with thos Erp

So I have hocd, I don't want to he gay, just wanted make sure people knew what my goals are lol .so whenever i say,"i want to date women," or,"or I want to be straight" or il say that women is cute or attractive ,ect basically anything heterosexual at this point. i get this sensation on my face that gives me this tense feelings as if im going to make a cringe face. is this normal with HOCD and how do i get rid of this one specificlaly?I'm also trying to fantisize about girls romantically like I use to before hocd came it because now it makes it sound bad and I hate because it wasn't bad before you know? I'm trying to do erp focusing on it with judgment or response but it's not going away, ive only done it for two days but still

Garrett Maguire

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

Yeah and remember OCD will try different ways to get you ruminating about it.......if you find yourself problem solving your fears.....stop, ... don't try to figure it out, just let it be there if it is and continue with your day.....yes it's hard to do but you will get better at it with time.

Garrett Maguire

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

And do an ERP session once a day I find, will slowly break down the fears.

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

Appreciate your help thank you very much 🙏

Garrett Maguire

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

Well the point is not really to make it go away, it's to habituate to it so you fear it less.......then it will start to fade away as it bothers you less

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

That's problem I feel like ice been getting use to it, but it doesnt go away, but i do break and respond, probably honestly why I'm posting in here too, I guess I'm wondering how I can do good erp for this, do I purposely expose myself to it and focus in the feeling. Or do I purposely expose myself to and it's more in the background

Garrett Maguire

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

Well for an ERP session I would purposely expose myself to the fears and not do compulsions or any reassurance. Then during the day I try to just let the fears be there and do nothing with them.

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

That's what I'm trying to do, but man it feels so real, like thr feelings the sensations, the thoughts very convincing, and I'm starting to do real erp but it's not going away, and it's like 95 percent of the day bro thay it's like this it sucks

Garrett Maguire

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

For the ERP you expose yourself to it and allow the anxiety and fear and basically sit with it.....not trying to get away from it.... keep doing it till the anxiety drops by half then I would leave it until my next ERP session the following day

Garrett Maguire

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

Yeah it does feel real, that's what makes OCD stick around. The ruminating will just make it stronger so the main focus is to not try to figure it out .....let it be there, let it scare you a bit through the ERP.....fears will always fade with time once we face them without trying to reassure ourselves.

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

Ok imma try to do that, jist let the feelings be there however just going to mind my own buisness

Garrett Maguire

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

No worries, the best of luck with it.... remember so many people are going through the same issues.....but it is possible to get back our peace of mind.

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

The truth is no one is completely sure of their sexuality. You need to live with the uncertainty that you could be gay or you could be not gay. ERP cannot change your sexuality but it can help you to live with the doubts

Anonymous

Date posted: 23w

What the HECK?

what the hell? this entire day ive been trying to do ERP right? allowing the thoughts feelings, sensations be there with very little reaction, saying"oh that's a thought", "that's a feeling" don't care" etc. But it seems to be making it 100x times worse. Like its impossible to just"ignore" it, it feels so freaking real as if this was the truth, the doubts are real, the false attraction feelings and lip sensations are REAL and genuine attraction, feels ego-synotic, its impossible just to ignore or move on from it because I think I'm so hyperfocused on it all so it last the whole day. IDK right now it feels and seems as if I lost? like its not a what if but it feels factual like"I'm naturally gay, I'm gay" and it feels like normal and become ok with that. But I don't want that I don't want to be gay.

anonymous1348

Date posted: 23w

hocd

straight girl suffering from hocd, okay so when i was younger i looked at like a girl corn star insta for like 2 weeks and like did get aroused by it, didn’t think much of it still fancied boys, girls were like ew no to me, but its triggering my hocd so badly, like is it normal that i could look at a sexy pic of a girl n get aroused by it, but like a shirtless pic of a boy i wouldn’t, however i have insane attraction to men irl, i love my boyfriend, i love the idea of being with a man and hate the idea of being with a woman, this really freaking me out!

Sexual Orientation OCD

RW95

Date posted: 13w

Has anyone gone through this, or currently going through it, need to know that I am not alone in this (18+)

I can't look at 18+ videos, comics, etc. I am straight, but SO-OCD tries to make me think I am not And the thoughts turns to feelings, and makes me scared, uncomfortable, sad, because I know this is not me. And when I try to imagine myself being with the woman on adult videos, and comics, my OCD gives gronal response not at the girl, and it fills me with fear, and anxiety, I always loved, and was attracted to women but I can't and it caused me to be depressed, and I keep ruminating I keep trying to focus on her, but it's so bad that I avoid those all the time now. I am wondering has anyone gone through something like this, or currently is, and wondering how you have done to combat this!

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