- Username
- pingu111
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Hey there. I shared my ocd, my sintomis and my intrusive thoughts With two boyfriends: the first one who actually took it really bad and the one i have now, who si really understanding and supportive. Im not telling you this to make you feel Jelous or anything, just to let you know that unfrotunately a lot of People dont know how to understand this problem since theyre not experiencing it. I try not to blame them cause in a way i can see where theycome from and some of the intrusive thoughts are really hard to understand, since they're so Extreme. If hes suitable for you in this Moment of your life where you had to work really hard on yourself and your ocd, he'll stay, if he'll break up With you you will suffer, of course, but in a while you'll understand that he was not the right person in the right time. Give him some time or ask him if he needs some 'help', to ask you his questions if he needs to understand, but dont let him stop you from getting better If he doesnt want to understand you :) we are here re for you
Unfortunately ocd just isn't understood by the masses. Especially the pure O side of the spectrum that includes ruminating and intrusive thoughts. Like the person above I've told bfs in the past about it, and there was definitely a point where my ex couldn't understand and basically went around telling people behind my back ??♀️ But anyway, I currently have a bf and I've told him some pretty fucked up shit related to confessing and intrusive thoughts, and I get more support from him than anyone. I've been better since I've been on fluvoxamine though. But really, it just depends on the person. Some people literally can't handle a partner with mental illness. Especially one they don't understand. I'm sorry you're going through this additional pain in conjunction with your OCD. I wish you peace and happiness.
Every person deserves someone who supports you . If he doesn't understand it's his problem not yours. U dont have influence on what he thinks about u and intrusive thoughts
Thank you for your comments.. Really appreciate it
Thanks for all you comments.. Your all giving be a bit of hope. Hope everyone here gets all the happiness they deserve.
Green Jay. Yes nobody understands OCD only open minded people .. I asked one guy who told me he has intrusive thoughts if he has an OCD . He was like : nah I'm not disciplined. Lol like being disciplined is OCD haha
My boyfriend just dumped me because he lost feelings and thinks we’re too hard and it’s because of my anxiety and ROCD:(( I’m a mess rn guys. I love him and I lost the best part of me. Does anyone have any advice for breakups
I’m fairly new to treating my OCD and have felt crazy for most of my life. It didn’t help that no one in my life truly understood OCD and always said I was being dramatic. I very recently (within the past few months) finally got diagnosed with OCD and my whole life started to make sense. However, I recently opened up to someone I really believed I trusted about the intrusive thoughts I have and now feel worse than I ever have before. They essentially called me a psychopath and said they are worried for the people around me. Even though I would and could never hurt anyone. I’ve never felt more alone and broken in my life. I already try very hard to hide my OCD and everything associated with it because no one in my life understands so it’s been easier to deal with it myself than listen to everyone say whatever they have to say about my situation. After what happened today I’m even more inclined to just keep it to myself. I don’t know what I’m expecting from writing this but I figure this is the best place to write what I’m feeling. Going through OCD is hard enough on it’s own. But when people are telling you they think you’re a danger to society and are crazy because of your intrusive thoughts it really hurts. I’m just tired.
Having constant intrusive thoughts is exhausting. They have made me question my relationship, my sexual orientation, if i am a good person, and so much more. It’s weird how they are all connected in a way too. A lot of these thoughts that I have feel so real, and i’m just now learning how to tell the difference between what is true and what is an intrusive thought. but at this point i cannot tell. they all feel real but still make me so uncomfortable. i’m scared i actually feel a certain way, whether that be i don’t actually love my boyfriend, i am actually bisexual or a lesbian, or that i am actually a horrible person and have done horrible things. it’s hard to not believe these things when they are constantly nagging at you. im scared im not with the right person. im scared that im not attracted to him enough, im scared we don’t have enough in common and im scared we don’t think the same way. im scared im supposed to be with someone else and that i am hurting him by lying. and im terrified i am lying about my sexual orientation and using him to deny my true thoughts. im scared i am actually bisexual or lesbian. i think i can accept being bisexual more than being a full blown lesbian, but it’s still scary. im not sure if i am actually bisexual or if i just have intrusive thoughts. and i don’t know what to do from there if i am. if i am bisexual that means to me i have to be with a woman? even though i don’t want to and i’ve never seen myself with a woman. i keep replaying memories with girls and if i showed any signs. and then i get scared that because i was aroused by “specific” porn that it means i am lesbian. all of these things make me feel like a horrible person for treating my boyfriend this way, lying to myself, and for being so confused. it’s exhausting. i don’t even know where to start to get help. im scared that i have had OCD my whole life, and if i have, i’m scared a lot of my feelings and thoughts weren’t even real. im scared when i liked a boy, it was actually my OCD. im scared that when i’ve been attracted to something, it was just my OCD. i don’t know what to do
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