- Username
- pingu111
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Hey there. I shared my ocd, my sintomis and my intrusive thoughts With two boyfriends: the first one who actually took it really bad and the one i have now, who si really understanding and supportive. Im not telling you this to make you feel Jelous or anything, just to let you know that unfrotunately a lot of People dont know how to understand this problem since theyre not experiencing it. I try not to blame them cause in a way i can see where theycome from and some of the intrusive thoughts are really hard to understand, since they're so Extreme. If hes suitable for you in this Moment of your life where you had to work really hard on yourself and your ocd, he'll stay, if he'll break up With you you will suffer, of course, but in a while you'll understand that he was not the right person in the right time. Give him some time or ask him if he needs some 'help', to ask you his questions if he needs to understand, but dont let him stop you from getting better If he doesnt want to understand you :) we are here re for you
Unfortunately ocd just isn't understood by the masses. Especially the pure O side of the spectrum that includes ruminating and intrusive thoughts. Like the person above I've told bfs in the past about it, and there was definitely a point where my ex couldn't understand and basically went around telling people behind my back ??♀️ But anyway, I currently have a bf and I've told him some pretty fucked up shit related to confessing and intrusive thoughts, and I get more support from him than anyone. I've been better since I've been on fluvoxamine though. But really, it just depends on the person. Some people literally can't handle a partner with mental illness. Especially one they don't understand. I'm sorry you're going through this additional pain in conjunction with your OCD. I wish you peace and happiness.
Every person deserves someone who supports you . If he doesn't understand it's his problem not yours. U dont have influence on what he thinks about u and intrusive thoughts
Thank you for your comments.. Really appreciate it
Thanks for all you comments.. Your all giving be a bit of hope. Hope everyone here gets all the happiness they deserve.
Green Jay. Yes nobody understands OCD only open minded people .. I asked one guy who told me he has intrusive thoughts if he has an OCD . He was like : nah I'm not disciplined. Lol like being disciplined is OCD haha
I can’t stop crying. My partner has been very distant. He just admitted he has pulled back because of how bad my ocd has gotten. I found out he was seeing his ex behind my back and has been lying to me to push me away because he can’t handle how bad it has gotten. I feel really sad. And I’m at a really low place. I feel like no one will love me because of the ocd. The one person I trusted and was vulnerable with just told me that my health condition is making him takes steps back from me. I’m extremely codependent on him because of the ocd. I feel so scared to be alone and battle this alone.
i really need some help rn. an argument with my boyfriend has really triggered my intrusive thoughts about how i’m not good enough and how OCD has taken everything from me and i have no purpose. to put things in short, my boyfriend and i went out with another couple who we are friends with and i had a good time. i had banter with my bf and said a comment about how he has memory of a goldfish which i didn’t realise he didn’t like at the time. on the way home he was super silent which put me on edge because i know it’s when he has an issue with me. then around the corner from my house he told me i didn’t talk to him with respect in front of people. and i genuinely didn’t understand why he felt like this. but i was annoyed because i asked him multiple times what the matter was and he said nothing each time. and then an argument started and he said some really hurtful things. such as i’m a nobody, i’m nothing special, i think i’m above people, how i’m a piece of sh*t, called me ugly too and how he can’t do this relationship anymore and he’ll get with someone else. this triggered me so much and i burst out crying and screaming bc i’m so sick of hearing these comments made towards me especially over something so minor. he made me feel like i was being aggressive for reacting the way i did and by screaming but my head was just not in the right place. my ocd and intrusive thoughrs are all over the place. i keep thinking i’m not good enough, if i was different he wouldn’t be like this. i’m so upset and sad. i try and be good enough. my ocd has taken so much from me. i dropped out of uni because of it and with his comments i feel even more worthless. i feel so lost.
I’m fairly new to treating my OCD and have felt crazy for most of my life. It didn’t help that no one in my life truly understood OCD and always said I was being dramatic. I very recently (within the past few months) finally got diagnosed with OCD and my whole life started to make sense. However, I recently opened up to someone I really believed I trusted about the intrusive thoughts I have and now feel worse than I ever have before. They essentially called me a psychopath and said they are worried for the people around me. Even though I would and could never hurt anyone. I’ve never felt more alone and broken in my life. I already try very hard to hide my OCD and everything associated with it because no one in my life understands so it’s been easier to deal with it myself than listen to everyone say whatever they have to say about my situation. After what happened today I’m even more inclined to just keep it to myself. I don’t know what I’m expecting from writing this but I figure this is the best place to write what I’m feeling. Going through OCD is hard enough on it’s own. But when people are telling you they think you’re a danger to society and are crazy because of your intrusive thoughts it really hurts. I’m just tired.
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