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Hey there. I shared my ocd, my sintomis and my intrusive thoughts With two boyfriends: the first one who actually took it really bad and the one i have now, who si really understanding and supportive. Im not telling you this to make you feel Jelous or anything, just to let you know that unfrotunately a lot of People dont know how to understand this problem since theyre not experiencing it. I try not to blame them cause in a way i can see where theycome from and some of the intrusive thoughts are really hard to understand, since they're so Extreme. If hes suitable for you in this Moment of your life where you had to work really hard on yourself and your ocd, he'll stay, if he'll break up With you you will suffer, of course, but in a while you'll understand that he was not the right person in the right time. Give him some time or ask him if he needs some 'help', to ask you his questions if he needs to understand, but dont let him stop you from getting better If he doesnt want to understand you :) we are here re for you
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Unfortunately ocd just isn't understood by the masses. Especially the pure O side of the spectrum that includes ruminating and intrusive thoughts. Like the person above I've told bfs in the past about it, and there was definitely a point where my ex couldn't understand and basically went around telling people behind my back ??♀️ But anyway, I currently have a bf and I've told him some pretty fucked up shit related to confessing and intrusive thoughts, and I get more support from him than anyone. I've been better since I've been on fluvoxamine though. But really, it just depends on the person. Some people literally can't handle a partner with mental illness. Especially one they don't understand. I'm sorry you're going through this additional pain in conjunction with your OCD. I wish you peace and happiness.
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Every person deserves someone who supports you . If he doesn't understand it's his problem not yours. U dont have influence on what he thinks about u and intrusive thoughts
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Thank you for your comments.. Really appreciate it
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Thanks for all you comments.. Your all giving be a bit of hope. Hope everyone here gets all the happiness they deserve.
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Green Jay. Yes nobody understands OCD only open minded people .. I asked one guy who told me he has intrusive thoughts if he has an OCD . He was like : nah I'm not disciplined. Lol like being disciplined is OCD haha
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- 20w
I've opened up recently to my boyfriend about my ocd itself: he knew I had it, just didnt rlly understanded it. Today, I was feeling really awful because of my incest ocd, and the toughts were awful, so I decided to open up. BAD IDEA! he said it was ok and stuff but he also said he did not understand: he is, fairly, disgusted. Plus, he knowns my relatives, which probably made him even more sick. Im so sad, he is now more disgusted by me, and I am too.
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- 19w
I am at the point where I feel like I don’t even know myself anymore and have a really hard time explaining my thoughts and feelings. The thought that no one may ever be able to help me or understand me is blazing constant in my head. I don’t know if I will truly ever be happy, the dissatisfaction I have in my life is beyond words and I try to be happy but my mind is so toxic and ungrateful. I feel that I may never understand myself. Have been dealing with extreme intrusive thoughts in regards to my relationship, if my partner is for me, if I am the reason problems come up in my relationship, if I am overly sensitive causing arguments etc. I will have constant thoughts about other people in my head although I have a partner. A hyperactive imagination of others if you will or specific individuals in my life. I have a severely low sex drive. I have also noticed recently that my partner will say things that I don’t like but can’t tell if he’s the problem or if i’m the problem. If I like my partner anymore or if I don’t, can I see him in my future or not. When I am with him I enjoy being with him but there is always a thought in the back of my head of do I just like being around him as a friend because I am lonely or if I truly love them. It’s to the point where I question leaving them or not. My only issue is that I don’t want to leave but at the same time I have trouble feeling emotionally and sexually connected. I even pick at physical imperfections that they may have which to my true beliefs does not matter I will love them otherwise. We recently have been arguing a lot and I can’t tell if I am the problem or he is but it causes me a lot of stress because I feel misunderstood and feel like he wouldn’t understand me unless he was me. It can be hard explaining OCD to him because he is one of those people who loves to self help almost like a life coach, explains to me that anxiety doesn’t exist and that I can help myself or stuff along those lines. It hurts so bad because he doesn’t understand how hard it is for someone with OCD and how him saying things like that only makes it worse and makes me want to turn away from him in a way. I want to feel like I can talk to my partner and that I know for a fact is my true belief. I pray that God will heal me of this terrible disease. I feel I have turned away from the Lord so much because of how alone and misunderstood I feel with what feels like no change. When I’m in public I’ll look at a guy and feel as though because they looked at me back they will think I like them or that I may be interested even though i’m not. I obsess in my head sometimes about real people I know that are kit my partner and have just learned to accept that but it’s still disheartening to me. I understand the concept of being with a partner and still finding other people attractive without obviously doing anything about it and I try to remind myself of that. Please someone tell me this is OCD because the thought of it not is sickening. Another thing I do is compare myself to other girls my age almost that if i’m not as pretty as them im not pretty at all. To whom ever reads this please be very mindful of how you respond because I am triggered very easily. But I am so so lost.
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- 13w
I have had ocd in my relationship for a while now. When I originally met him it was like this insane spiritual soulmate feeling and we just clicked instantly and he never judged me. I’m scared cause when I picture breaking up with my boyfriend I see myself being ok and being sad but moving on which I never was able to see before doesn’t this mean that this is what would happen or I don’t know till it happens? I still can’t imagine what life would be like without him but I just feel like I have lost feelings that I never wanted to lose. plus that’s also when I just picture knowing how people move on and how I’d just have to move on without letting myself picture processing the losses of all. I’m just really scared cause I used to think of wanting other things in someone else and what it would be like but I just thought how nice it would be to have it and not actually meaning it bc every time I thought about it I got upset and now it feels diff. He knows I have ocd but I never explained the ROCD because I thought it would have offended him so every time I went through a flare up I never told and acted like I was fine and it kept happening and OCD kept getting worse and worse. Maybe that’s part of the issue cause I haven’t been feeling like myself. But this is a feeling I never wanted to feel ever with him. I have gone through the feeling of numb but not like this. And he has a lot of positives but I can only see him overall as negatives and I’ve been told that’s ocd but it’s affecting how I feel. And yes there are legit actual things in the relationship that upset me but ocd has been affecting the way I look at him also. I keep being told my judgment is being impaired but this time it rly feels like not. And I’m Scared why don’t memories and things affect me like it used to doesn’t that mean I want this. Has anyone experienced this or is this the end 😭
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