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- 5y
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Hey there. I shared my ocd, my sintomis and my intrusive thoughts With two boyfriends: the first one who actually took it really bad and the one i have now, who si really understanding and supportive. Im not telling you this to make you feel Jelous or anything, just to let you know that unfrotunately a lot of People dont know how to understand this problem since theyre not experiencing it. I try not to blame them cause in a way i can see where theycome from and some of the intrusive thoughts are really hard to understand, since they're so Extreme. If hes suitable for you in this Moment of your life where you had to work really hard on yourself and your ocd, he'll stay, if he'll break up With you you will suffer, of course, but in a while you'll understand that he was not the right person in the right time. Give him some time or ask him if he needs some 'help', to ask you his questions if he needs to understand, but dont let him stop you from getting better If he doesnt want to understand you :) we are here re for you
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- 5y
Unfortunately ocd just isn't understood by the masses. Especially the pure O side of the spectrum that includes ruminating and intrusive thoughts. Like the person above I've told bfs in the past about it, and there was definitely a point where my ex couldn't understand and basically went around telling people behind my back ??♀️ But anyway, I currently have a bf and I've told him some pretty fucked up shit related to confessing and intrusive thoughts, and I get more support from him than anyone. I've been better since I've been on fluvoxamine though. But really, it just depends on the person. Some people literally can't handle a partner with mental illness. Especially one they don't understand. I'm sorry you're going through this additional pain in conjunction with your OCD. I wish you peace and happiness.
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- 5y
Every person deserves someone who supports you . If he doesn't understand it's his problem not yours. U dont have influence on what he thinks about u and intrusive thoughts
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- 5y
Thank you for your comments.. Really appreciate it
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- 5y
Thanks for all you comments.. Your all giving be a bit of hope. Hope everyone here gets all the happiness they deserve.
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- 5y
Green Jay. Yes nobody understands OCD only open minded people .. I asked one guy who told me he has intrusive thoughts if he has an OCD . He was like : nah I'm not disciplined. Lol like being disciplined is OCD haha
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- 25w
It hasn’t even been a week since my boyfriend broke up with me because of my OCD and depression cocktail. He said that the breakup wasn’t out of him not loving me anymore, but because he and his family had already dealt with very strong mental health issues in the past and that a) he couldn’t bear seeing me hurting all of the time and b) he wasn’t sure that he wanted to be “my nurse”. Then he said that I shouldn’t blame myself because depression and OCD are never anyone’s fault. I’ve tried to be very understanding: I do believe one has a right to decide what one wants in their partner. He doesn’t want a partner with mental health issues, I can understand that. I can also understand that these five months since my OCD made itself known have been very hard on him. But, I also feel so betrayed. He used to nitpick the word “love” so much and reflect on what it actually meant to love. He said loving someone was choosing to stay with them during the good times and the bad. This is absolutely the worst bad time in my entire life. And he said, and also said it to my mother, that he would stick with me through it all. Now five months later, he’s changed his mind. I don’t get how he can say he still loves me and abandon me when I most need love and support. If it’s not my fault like he says, why leave me? He said he still wants to be in my life—at a safe distance, where he can’t see all the ugly parts of what OCD and depression can do to a person. All of this makes me feel as if I wasn’t worth the effort of dealing with everything. Then that’s not love is it? I also feel very lonely as the only people that know about my OCD were him and my parents. He made himself into one of my biggest pillars of support, and shaped our lives so that he could always be with me. So we’re in the same classes, and although we share friends I’ve always felt that they entertained me because I was his girlfriend. As for my closer friends, I’ve felt that I was drifting apart from them and although I’ve furtively mentioned my problems with OCD to them, they either don’t care to ask or aren’t really sure how to talk to me. I feel so alone. And now my “number one supporter” has left, and it angers me very much. Especially because I’ve been the one to calm him down and give him hugs and explained what topics we saw in the class he missed the day after we broke up. I’m the one that convinced him to eat three cookies for dinner because he didn’t want to eat. And I’m the one that had to tell him that friends don’t wish each other a great night every night, like we used to do. It seemed like he wanted things to stay the same but without the relationship part of kissing and dealing with my panic attacks. It feels it’s kind of unfair because he’s not without issues and I didn’t judge him once and always tried to be there for him, and the single biggest issue I have ever had was too much for him. The vengeful part of me wants him to hurt as much as he hurt me. I hope he understands his decision has consequences and that he can’t be with me in the same way he was— especially now that I know that he leaves at my most critical, vulnerable moments. I’m writing this while mad. But I know later I’ll feel sad and more understanding and want to be friends with him again. And then I’ll get mad again. And so on. I know this is just a really tough situation however you look at it. But I’m still overwhelmed by the thought that if OCD had never struck, we might still be together. I also deserve some love and support 😔 Thank you if you read all the way till here. I’m sorry if it was a long read, but I’m very thankful. Nowadays it feels like NOCD is one of my remaining sources of support. I’m very grateful for everyone on here, I hope all of you have a great day and that it’s a victory against this accursed mental disorder
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- 23w
I have ocd, i have crazy intrusive thoughts that make me super uncomfortable, the thing is i understand that ocd goes against your morals and try’s to make you feel like a bad person but how do i avoid pushing people away while trying to treat my ocd.. i love my boyfriend so so much but when i get intrusive thoughts about hurting his feelings or doing something terrible it scares me so bad that i’m scared to be around him because in my head it’s like “why am i even thinking of this if i love him so much” and i know i would never do anything to hurt him but i just feel terrible because he’s an amazing boyfriend and i have all these bad thoughts. :(
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- 17w
I've opened up recently to my boyfriend about my ocd itself: he knew I had it, just didnt rlly understanded it. Today, I was feeling really awful because of my incest ocd, and the toughts were awful, so I decided to open up. BAD IDEA! he said it was ok and stuff but he also said he did not understand: he is, fairly, disgusted. Plus, he knowns my relatives, which probably made him even more sick. Im so sad, he is now more disgusted by me, and I am too.
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