Chichi
- Date posted
- 1y
How to forgive
How can we forgive ourselves for some really bad past decisions that affected a lot of the things ?
hanysm@gmail.comhanysm@gmail...
- Date posted
- 1y
First, remember that we are human, and making mistakes is a normal part of life. If we never made mistakes, we would be like angels or something else entirely. Feeling regret for our mistakes is actually a good thing because it shows we’ve learned from them, which is the first step toward forgiveness. Think about it: the things you see as results of your mistakes might have happened anyway. Your mistakes contributed to those outcomes, but even if you hadn’t made them, those events could still have occurred. So, while we can make wrong choices, it’s important to separate our actions from the events that follow. In other words, you didn’t cause everything to happen; some things were going to happen regardless. As humans, we often try to connect events because it helps us understand the world better
ChichiChichi
- Date posted
- 1y
@hanysm@gmail.com Yeah, nobody is perfect. It’s just that i scored really bad marks in high school and ik i could have done way better. I wasted so much of my parents money in tuition classes. I was just lazy and didn’t take studying seriously. Idk why I’m still thinking about all that . I have completed my masters still i have this regret that if i was not that lazy and went to better tuition classes then i could have applied in a better college.
hanysm@gmail.comhanysm@gmail...
- Date posted
- 1y
@Chichi What you said shows that you DID learn from those mistakes, and even corrected them. So after all, there was benefits from you making those mistakes, right? At least they were a motive for you to get your Masters and do well. If it wasn't for you making those bad decisions maybe you would have been a different person. No need to look back while you driving full speed towards a better destination. Focus on the road ahead, and if this regret comes up, remember there was some good in it. Have a great weekend 😀
ChichiChichi
- Date posted
- 1y
@hanysm@gmail.com Yeah thanks !! 🥹✨
pammiedee3@gmail.compammiedee3@g...
- Date posted
- 32w
For me this is one of the hardest things to do? And it's crazy because I find it much easier to forgive others but not myself. However I guess I somewhat do by the grace of God but have a hard time doing it before putting myself through so much agony and torment emotionally and mentally. Which of course consumes some physical aspects of my every day routines. I'm older and have struggled what seems to be my whole life with issues of forgiveness weather it be for myself or others. I just find it much easier to forgive others. I'm not really sure why? This is not saying that the things I've done were any worst then what anyone else may have done because I really dont compare them just means I find it much harder to forgive myself.
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