Ex boyfriend got married

My boyfriend broke up with me 6 years ago and I thought I was over it by now, but this weekend I opened instagram and saw that he had gotten married. Safe to say I was shocked; I didn’t even know he was dating someone. And a whole floodgate of emotions have come along with it that I wasn’t expecting. It’s made a ton of doubts pop into my head like what if I never love anyone as much again? It was a very loving and deep relationship and I feel like I haven’t had a similar one since. What if he was my “soulmate” and I screwed it up? What if I’ve messed up my life’s trajectory? And also sadness and anger that he’s moved on from me and has feelings towards someone else instead. I know it’s just going to take time and acceptance but some support would be lovely ❤️ Anyone else been through this? It’s like im re-living the break-up all over.

Username: I'm>ocdI'm>ocd

Date posted: 18w ago

If he was meant for you, you'd still be together. You have a better relationship waiting for you. I understand the difficulty though. I was engaged to a girl I was with fir 15 yrs. She broke up with me shortly after I started going to therapy for my ocd. I still have a lot of upset feelings about it, because we also had a deep relationship, and I was by her side through different health issues she faced. I have no idea what she's up to these days, and while theirs curiosity, I really don't want to know. As people with ocd, I feel like we try so hard to keep everything in balance. It's really disappointing when things don't go the same direction as our efforts. But my view is, I will be in a better place someday, and I will find the person I'm meant to not only spend my life with, but whom I foresee finding true happiness with. I wish you luck with coming to a similar recognition that your true love is out there waiting to bring you simple, uncomplicated, natural happiness. Trust that everything that happens is bringing you closer to discovering the love that awaits you.

Username: 3Anonym3Anonym

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 17w ago

@Gotta keep 'em separated Thank you so much! I hope you are doing well and staying strong after your breakup as well

Username: peaks&valleys peaks&valleys

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 18w ago

Wow what an absolute shock! Definitely take the time you need to process these feelings around the break up and the shock of it all. Totally makes sense that this is an event that OCD would latch on to - so give yourself some grace and compassion here too. You got this. Sending you love!

Username: Anonymously2

Date posted: 2y ago

Answer please

My ex boyfriend and I broke up about 1,5 year ago now. Later on when we already broke up I found out he had cheated on me in the relationship. It hurt and I got mad but I was over it for a long time. When I heard this I cut off all contact. But still when I see him or see things about him I get triggers, like anxiety and fear. I have an amazing boyfriend now since a month he’s sweet and so much better for me. But it makes me scared that my ex triggers me sometimes when I see him. Does this mean something?

Username: Anonymous 16

Date posted: 1y ago

Getting over someone

I’m going thru a breakup and I’m having a terrible time. I can’t eat I can barely sleep and everyday I feel terrible. I’ve had him in my life for 3 years and we’ve always depended on each other. I’m just lonely and sometimes I’ll feel a bit better and then I’ll just fall back down. Everyone just tells me it’ll get better or I’ll find someone else. But I’m not feeling better and i don’t want anyone else. I make a con list about him and I can’t even feel any disgust towards him. I think about how I’ll have to restart with someone but I feel like it’ll be just be the same. I’ll get promised that we are gonna get married and grow old but then after 2 years it’ll just go to shit and I’ll just get used. I try talking to others and I just don’t feel any better. Im supposed to go to a party but I don’t even wanna go and I don’t even wanna do Halloween. Everything reminds me of him I just can’t not think about him. Sad part is he wasn’t a good bf so I’m more frustrated that I got attached to this person. Idk what to do anymore

Username: Anonymous1790

Date posted: 48w ago

How to let go of the past

It’s already been a year from my breakup. I feel a lot better and learned a lot about myself. It’s also been 6 months since we last spoke to each other. I feel like when we stopped speaking to each other became the moment where I finally started feeling all of my emotions more at once. I’m at this period of my life, where I hate to admit I still long for him to reach out to me. I want to get rid of this false hope and want to be more accepting of how over this has been for me. I can’t say I want closure, I think I just want someone to be by my side. I do tend to feel a lot of loneliness but I know this will pass. Any advice on letting go?

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