How can I go to a therapist or counselor without my parents finding out? Because I need something to help me because I can't deal with this anymore. I would just like confirmation that I'm not crazy and I want to see an actual qualified person that can help me.

I honestly think that you should tell your parents. Honesty helps build trust in relationships. You’re parents are the ones who care for you most in this world. Wish you the best! ?

You can visit public hospitals I think they are free and you can go to student counseling too maybe you might find a solution there

For plan b, there are lots of videos on it on YouTube. Plus it’s free lol

May I ask how old you are?

Do you have a friend who’s parents you are close to. Or an older friend you can trust?

It may be necessary for you to have someone outside your family help arrange an appointment with a therapist for you. It won’t be easy to go behind your parents back to get help but it is possible. You could even reach out to a staff member at school to get help. Like a school counselor or a trusted teacher

Your school counselor? And what sort of things do they have to tell your parents? Everything you tell them?

How have you approached your parents with this issue? Do they shoot the idea down immediately? I’m wondering if maybe you can ask a trusted adult to try to explain the importance to you parents. Maybe help them understand your side of things and your needs.

So they have shown that they are open to you seeing a therapist but even though you’ve said yes, they haven’t taken the necessary steps to make it happen?

I don’t know very much about your situation with your parents. But from my own personal experience, seeing a therapist is really helpful, especially when sharing at home doesn’t feel like an option. I didn’t know how to ask my parents to help me see a therapist and it took me having a full blown anxiety attack in front of them to get help. I broke down in front of them and was in my most vulnerable state when they realized how real and important this was. I’m not saying you have to break down in front of your parents to get help, but it might be what it’s gonna take. Sometimes it’s hard for people to see how much someone is suffering unless it’s in their face. I wouldn’t give up asking them to help you see a therapist. Ask them everyday, I’m not kidding. Ask them constantly, ask them while you’re in tears, ask them when the thoughts are at their worst. Don’t stop asking. It is hard to ask for help when your in your most vulnerable state but it might help them see how much you’re struggling. If you feel safe asking them, ask and don’t stop asking. If you have Instagram or WhatsApp I can try to help you get this done.

Do you have Instagram so I can message you privately?

Absolutely. My Instagram is @that_crazy_baker

Message me and we’ll talk. I’ll try to help you ask your parents... I know how hard it can be and understand the discomfort of asking and not fitting the “perfect” child idea.