Wolfram

Date posted: 51w

Ocd and emotional blackmail

I was thinking about some stuff I struggle with and I really struggle with people who emotionally blackmail me. It's something I'm seeking therapy for because I attract them more than an average person would. I believe OCD is the great emotional blackmailer. We feel we have to give into demands and compulsions to appease it's threats. My questions: How would you deal with an emotional blackmailer in real life? How would that differ from dealing with OCD?

Endlessly Po...

Date posted: 51w

Very interesting topic - I would probably deal with them both the same, just ignore it and move on. What about you?

Wolfram

Date posted: 51w

I think it's the same solution like you said.

Nica

Date posted: 51w

Blackmailers only have power when you give them power. There was a guy I knew in high school and he drunk texted me saying he was going to tell my job that I was in impartial pit patient programs and I told him okay, do it. I have no shame because I was a kid. Nothing happened because I took away his “power.”

Wolfram

Date posted: 51w

That's awful. Well done with how you deal with him

Nica

Date posted: 51w

@Wolfram In patient* dear lort, bad typos 😆 glad you made sense of it.

Wolfram

Date posted: 51w

@Nica If anything it makes me feel better about all my typos. Thank you 😂

Nica

Date posted: 51w

@Wolfram I type really fast and then my phone freaks out me. Story of my life ever since I got a smart phone.

Wolfram

Date posted: 51w

@Nica If anything it's an extention of how I speak sometimes. My brain and mouth work at different speeds and I feel like I have real life typos in the form of speech. 😅

hanysm@gmail...

Date posted: 51w

I'm not entirely convinced by your analogy. A blackmailer typically seeks something specific that they need and can benefit from, so it's important to identify what they want in return. In the case of OCD, I don't think there's a conscious motive behind the disorder; it's more about a malfunction in our bodies. That's why it's called a disorder, indicating a deviation from the normal order of things. Personally, I believe that OCD isn't necessarily a "bad guy." In fact, I think its underlying motivation might be beneficial. Our memory has limited capacity, much like a computer, and we need a system to review our memory, discard what's unnecessary, and store important information in long-term memory. This process is akin to sorting through old boxes in an attic, where we might uncover forgotten items. However, individuals with OCD seem unable to make decisions and move on to the next "box," instead remaining in a state of indecision taken by what's inside the box. This indecision leads to increased pressure from this system to decide, as our brains will eventually run out of memory. The cycle continues, leaving us stuck in fear of something that's not even a real threat. I think OCD is more of a "good guy," and we need to understand and appreciate its normal function, then we can correctly deal with it.

Wolfram

Date posted: 51w

I agree. But I was simply pointing out parallels. Ocd is ultimately innocent and trying to help but just doing it wrong

Wolfram

Date posted: 51w

The box analogy you used, on rereading sounds a lot like trauma

hanysm@gmail...

Date posted: 51w

Actually it is doing it right, we just misinterpreted what is going on. As the case might be with any disorder, pain/agitation is body/brain calling for attention to a pressing issue, and the more the pain the more the severity of the situation.

Wolfram

Date posted: 51w

If it was doing it right then what's wrong? Why doesn't everyone have it?

hanysm@gmail...

Date posted: 51w

Reality is, majority of people don't have it (OCD), only few due to some disorder, have it. That's all

hereintheUK

Date posted: 22w

OCD based in real fear……

How do any of you guys deal with OCD that’s latched on to something real? I don’t mean real event OCD but a real thing?

Canes12345!

Date posted: 21w

My life with ocd

I’m a good man and I know that. My OCD revolves around relationships. While dating someone a truly enjoy, I find myself needing to compulse everything on my mind or else I feel like I’m being a liar or keeping secrets. I also am pretty confident I suffer from false memory ocd. I don’t like to put a label on things but I’m 99.9% sure I do. My compulsions a lot of times come from things I’m not even sure are real. The more thought I put into them, the more I start to believe they are real. One of the worst compulsions I had in my relationship was I had a thought “what if I find my ex more attractive” and “what if I thought the sex with them was better”. I ended up compulsing these things to my gf. After lots of time to think and get a ahold of myself I was able to remind myself that these things weren’t true and I was just in a downward spiral. There was a 2-3 month period where every time I was relieved of something then I would instantly think of something else. These compulsions have caused insecurity in my gf and I feel like a terrible person. Never meant to hurt her at all and was just trying to find a sense of relief. While I know it is not true, I can’t fix things with words and I feel terrible. I would love to hear from people with tricks and strategies that can help. I love my gf and want to fix things and understand this is not a relationship fixer app but I would like to know what are some ways you are able to deal with these kind of things.

hopefulxmess

Date posted: 20w

Intrusive emotions. Anyone else?

I posted about this the other day and a therapist responded that if it has the usual ocd tells, then it’s most likely ocd. I’m just wondering if anyone else has experienced this. They say even if it’s new for you chances are others have had the same or similar ocd experience. So, this is new for me and just like when I get an intrusive thought i’ve recently been getting what I call intrusive emotions. I will feel something like sad or jealous in a situation when in reality I don’t feel that way at all. For example, my ocd targets certain family members and if one of them is watching tv and thinks a woman is pretty i’ll suddenly feel sad or jealous when I don’t actually care or feel that way because that’s my family member and I don’t think about or feel for them in any inappropriate way. Also, sometimes when I have a harm intrusive thought my ocd will say that I want something horrible to happen to my family member and I will feel like I actually want it but that’s not what I want or how I feel at all. Is there anyone who has had this or something similar happen?

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