Venting/ dating

@Chibee You’re so right. Thank you for your perspective. A man will not make you question. Do you agree me not reading his message is petty? Obviously I don’t wanna look like that but I know for sure I won’t respond. It’s just gonna be awkward at work. But I shouldn’t care if it will be or not. That’s the tricky part

@Mooooni I would argue that there’s nothing petty about respecting yourself. By not reading and responding you will allow yourself the victory of not having to plead for his attention after sharing such a vulnerable side of yourself and getting nothing in return. If he wants to sort matters out he can do so in person where his actions are plain and visible and not hidden behind the ambiguity of a digital screen. It will be awkward at work, naturally you can’t avoid that. But what you can avoid is further harm by allowing yourself to get more emotionally involved with him. Take care!! (I don’t mean to be harsh but people like this man infuriate me lol)

@Chibee You’re absolutely right. Not petty at all! I will admit I wanna read the message because I’m curious but I def ain’t responding. It’s funny how I’m already questioning myself on what to do lol. We are emotional creatures so I’m being graceful with myself but yeah I just wanna be confident in doing things , opening messages or not ya know?

@Chibee I hurt my back so I mentioned it at work to him and instead of texting me he asked how I’m doing the next day through ig :/

@Mooooni At least he did check on you—but doing so over IG instead of in person or over a phone call or other more sincere means of communication is not great. 🤦‍♀️

@Mooooni You can definitely read the message—it’s all a matter of how you choose to engage with it. Whether it’s worth the time and emotional strain.

@Chibee I read the message. He said that if I wanted to come over and he will give me a massage. Ugh. I’m mad for not opening it up earlier but I was upset you know? I responded just so he won’t know I’m bothered and it won’t be awkward at work tomorrow.

@Mooooni So he checks on you after you got injured…Only to turn it into something sexual. I understand wanting to keep things comfortable at work, but don’t let it allow you to be walked all over by this man who has no intentions of committing to you!! You have a right to be upset and bothered!!

@Chibee Thank you, I appreciate that. I wish we never did anything because the dynamic was easy and he was a big texted before so now he’s acting weird. I’m letting it go. I didn’t expect a relationship but him acting weird feels disrespectful

@Mooooni Texter

@Chibee He hasn’t opened my message. It’s been since Friday. This sucks. Idk what to do.

@Mooooni You gotta promise yourself one thing: That if this man comes crawling back to you for some sex or some attention, that you are firm with him and TURN HIM AWAY. This man has failed you. Imagine, would your future husband ever do this to you? Absolutely not, so send him packing!!!!

@Chibee Thank you for being here for me to talk. I’ve kept your words so much in consideration. He just posted on ig and I tried to mute him and I accidentally clicked “unfollow” and it made me giggle like if the universe was a help. People do things on purpose, he’s a grown ass man he knows what he’s doing. I’m now wondering if I should remove him from my friends list. I’m just trying to not to show so much care if that makes sense

@Mooooni I mean you’re right that indifference is the best response. But also how greater it is to protect your peace and eliminate the noise in your life 🤷‍♀️

@Mooooni He may ask to be mutuals again tho. Happened to me after I removed a guy for being rude. Sometimes boys never get the message ☠️