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Username: 𝐩𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐤𝐢𝐧🤍🦇🎃

Date posted: 12w ago

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How can I manage relationship OCD thoughts without scaring my partner?

Would someone help me with this OCD thought ?

So i use to get a lot of relationship OCD. I recently got into a relationship two months ago. i have been experiencing some relationship OCD thoughts like “do i like my partner enough” and to complete the compulsion of telling them that i am having this thought. I use to be able to conquer them but after bringing it up in therapy it got worse. does anyone have any recommendations on how to conquer this compulsion and thought? I don’t want to scare my partner away.

Username: 777Q777Q

Date posted: 12w ago

Personally I would not mention it at all to my partner. I would work on it privately to get past it the best that I could. Also would keep it to a minimum any other mental health concerns with my partner and instead work on things in private or in therapy.

Username: 𝐩𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐤𝐢𝐧🤍🦇🎃𝐩𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐤𝐢𝐧🤍🦇🎃

Date posted: 12w ago

@777Q thank you very much, even if the compulsion is making me uncomfortable tho?

Username: melsxaemelsxae

Date posted: 12w ago

@𝐩𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐤𝐢𝐧🤍🦇🎃 It may feel strong but it is a passing feeling, if the compulsion comes back to do it to, resist, and everytime you keep feeling the urges, and everytime you resist, the urges will feel less important and strong, and you won't feel the need to do anything about it anymore

Username: 𝐩𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐤𝐢𝐧🤍🦇🎃𝐩𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐤𝐢𝐧🤍🦇🎃

Date posted: 12w ago

@melsxae thank you , i will learn to sit with it and see how far i can get. has this worked for u before ?

Username: melsxaemelsxae

Date posted: 12w ago

@𝐩𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐤𝐢𝐧🤍🦇🎃 Yes it has, and has been very hard to resist to, and sometimes I do slip up, but if you go for long enough the thoughts become weaker and quieter and less of an urge to do a compulsion

Username: melsxaemelsxae

Date posted: 12w ago

@𝐩𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐤𝐢𝐧🤍🦇🎃 Sorry meant to say, "yes I have"

Username: melsxaemelsxae

Date posted: 12w ago

@𝐩𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐤𝐢𝐧🤍🦇🎃 Wait actually no I did mean to say what I did first of all sorry 😭 it has worked for before yes

Username: melsxaemelsxae

Date posted: 12w ago

@melsxae for me*

Username: 777Q777Q

Date posted: 12w ago

My reasoning behind it if it was me in that situation I feel in the long run I would be making things worse with the relationship and my mental health by saying any of this to significant other. The best that I can I try to look at the bigger picture of everything.

Username: 𝐩𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐤𝐢𝐧🤍🦇🎃𝐩𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐤𝐢𝐧🤍🦇🎃

Date posted: 12w ago

@777Q thank you very very much this is so true

Username: 777Q777Q

Date posted: 12w ago

@𝐩𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐤𝐢𝐧🤍🦇🎃 On the lighter side of things are you a fan of Halloween 👻 I am , you seem to be ?

Username: 𝐩𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐤𝐢𝐧🤍🦇🎃𝐩𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐤𝐢𝐧🤍🦇🎃

Date posted: 12w ago

@777Q yes i LOVE halloween !!!

Username: 777Q777Q

Date posted: 12w ago

@𝐩𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐤𝐢𝐧🤍🦇🎃 I have to wait until 10/1 each year to start the decorating process of my house .That way it can stay up for a full month!

Username: 𝐩𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐤𝐢𝐧🤍🦇🎃𝐩𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐤𝐢𝐧🤍🦇🎃

Date posted: 12w ago

@777Q i love that! i decorated already haha. i started july 5th im a little too crazy with it. i work at a haunted house too when the season starts

Username: 777Q777Q

Date posted: 12w ago

@𝐩𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐤𝐢𝐧🤍🦇🎃 Very cool 😎. The give and take with my significant other 10/1 is the earliest date out of compromise that I can do the decorating, that is ok though October is a long month at least, LOL ! I haven’t been to a haunted house in years, might go to one this year .👻👻👻👻👻

Username: 𝐩𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐤𝐢𝐧🤍🦇🎃𝐩𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐤𝐢𝐧🤍🦇🎃

Date posted: 12w ago

@777Q yes! do it! me and my partner always go to them! it’s so fun! thanks for cheering me up

Username: 777Q777Q

Date posted: 12w ago

@𝐩𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐤𝐢𝐧🤍🦇🎃 I have been waiting for the new scary movies that be out now in advance of Halloween, not seeing too much . I was starting to watch Immaculate on Hulu, not to impressed , fell asleep 💤 while watching the first few minutes, maybe it just starts off slow????

Username: melsxaemelsxae

Date posted: 12w ago

It's normal to worried about stuff like that and obviously sometimes it can become obsessive behaviour when you start worrying about it too much, which I understand too. You can maybe change your thinking to "well I do like my partner enough" or anything you feel you are in denial about you can switch the thought to a positive and tell your false thoughts that they are only there to scare you into believing lies, even tho they may feel real in your head

Username: melsxaemelsxae

Date posted: 12w ago

Worry*

Username: 𝐩𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐤𝐢𝐧🤍🦇🎃𝐩𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐤𝐢𝐧🤍🦇🎃

Date posted: 12w ago

@melsxae thank you for ur help 🥺🤍

Username: melsxaemelsxae

Date posted: 12w ago

@𝐩𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐤𝐢𝐧🤍🦇🎃 No worriess 🫶🏻🤍

Username: sams07

Date posted: 5y ago

Advice please! I have OCD, and it’s wormed it’s way to my relationship. It particularly revolves around social media, trust and the security of being together “forever”. I whole heartedly trust my partner. However, we all know that OCD causes doubt in the most rational things. Lately, if I get an irrational thought, I ask my partner if it’s true or not true, I get the affirmation I need, and then I feel intense guilt. The cycle begins again because I feel insecure for asking such questions, How do I work through these nagging thoughts and not bring my boyfriend into it? I get super impulsive and just ask him to reassure me. When I don’t ask him and challenge the thought, I’m really moody with him. I’ve had OCD my entire life and have “cured” other obsessions/rituals but for some reason, this one is tough, since another person is involved. Any advice?!

Relationship OCD

Username: Kasey

Date posted: 3y ago

how do i convey my ocd thoughts to my partner without scaring them off? my obsessions are about how i feel scared that “what if i don’t love her”. what do i do?

Username: 12sopapia

Date posted: 43w ago

Relationship ocd

In my past relationship that lasted for years, I so many obsessive thoughts and intrusive thoughts that I listened to like “you don’t really love him. You’re just pretending”. I told him when I would have these thoughts and I could tell that this was not helping our relationship when I would tell him, but the compulsions felt better when I did it. We eventually broke up, and even though he swore it was not because of my ocd, I can’t help but think that I scared him. Flash forward two years and I’ve met this other man. I am worried that my intrusive thoughts about relationship worries will get the best of me and I will end things before they even get good. I think I am more prepared for this time but I’m still worried. I wish I could just stay in the moment and not catastrophic everything.

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