aaanonymous
- Date posted
- 49w
accepting uncertainty
how can you accept the uncertainty when it's about hurting someone you love? i feel like i will never get it. it makes me feel selfish and like i don't care
jimmy88jimmy88
- Date posted
- 49w
Hey, I totally get where you're coming from—it’s rough. Accepting uncertainty, especially with loved ones, can feel like a heavy weight. It's part of being human, though, and it doesn’t make you selfish at all! Just know that you're trying your best, and that's what matters. I’ve found that the unstuck app helps me a bit with navigating those feelings when it gets tough. You're not alone in this! Keep breathing and take it one step at a time.
aaanonymousaaanonymous
- Date posted
- 49w
i Just don't know how to do it
jimmy88jimmy88
- Date posted
- 49w
@sonny - I totally understand, Sonny. It's definitely not easy, and there's no magic formula to make it happen overnight. One thing that might help is just acknowledging that it's okay not to have all the answers right now. You’re not alone in this—everyone struggles with uncertainty, especially when it involves people they care about. Maybe focusing on what you can control, like being honest with your feelings and taking care of yourself, could be a good start. If you ever need to chat more about it, I'm here
dee dee
- Date posted
- 49w
@jimmy88 i just got this app from your comment but how do i use it it’s just blank until i put an entry?
anonocdanonocd
- Date posted
- 49w
You *are* accepting uncertainty. The question is: uncertainty about what? For example, you are accepting uncertainty when you decide it is better to keep worrying about this obsession ‘just to be safe’. What if it’s actually worse to worry about it? You’re sure it’s safer to worry. Hmm it might not be. In the same way you accept the above uncertainty, accept the risk of your obsession. Use your best guess, but you’ve already thought about this enough, so you only have 15 seconds to lock in your best guess and then go with it, go with the ‘risk’. You’ll eventually calm down, but it will get scarier first.
aaanonymousaaanonymous
- Date posted
- 49w
but it feels like im doing something wrong. the thing that makes the most sense to me is think about this situation because if i don't it's almost as if i don't care. it's almost as if I'm trying to avoid the consequences of my actions. i Just don't understand how i can accept not knowing if i have cheated on my girlfriend. it feels so horrible to just let this situation go and stay with her and act like nothing is wrong when i might have cheated
anonocdanonocd
- Date posted
- 49w
@sonny Your goal shouldn’t be trying to have 100% certainty. You can’t have 100% certainty about anything. Go with your best guess. Tell me more about how you cheated on your girlfriend.
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- Date posted
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