ROCD
iโm having really bad relationship anxiety & OCD idk how to get past it :( it ruins my mood & affects the way i view my partner. i want to cry
I'm so sorry you're dealing with this :( I used to get frequent intrusive thoughts about not loving my partner and I constantly worried about and researched if we were compatible. What helped me was to figure out why I was so afraid of not being compatible--which I found out was because I am afraid of being stuck in a relationship that I'm not happy in and not feeling like I can get out. I would then remind myself that I wont get stuck because I have control over the situation and can leave at any time. I also reminded myself that OCD targets the things you value the most, so it really just shows that you care a lot about your partner when you worry. I hope you are able to find peace of mind and relief from all the worries
@mckintosh thank you so much this helped me a ton ๐ฅบ
@๐ฉ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ค๐ข๐ง๐ค๐ฆ๐ of course, i'm happy to help :)
I used to get this with my partner when we first got together, it was awful, what i did was โtrust the processโ and try my best to disregard the OCD and anxious thoughts, and not try to reason or argue or analyse them
@Doot ๐บ did that help or did they go away eventually?
@๐ฉ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ค๐ข๐ง๐ค๐ฆ๐ Yep! Im 6months into the relationship and hardly ever get OCD about it anymore, fighting with the thoughts is rumination which is a compulsion - to stop ocd you have to first stop the compulsions ๐ซ
@Doot ๐บ thank u๐ฅบ iโll try my best
I always wonder โwhat if Iโm not attracted to my partnerโ โwhat if I still have feelings for other peopleโ โwhat if I cheated on my partnerโ โwhat if my partner cheats on meโ โwhat If my partner annoys me and I donโt actually want to be with himโ and Iโll do this so much over and over that I get so worked up Iโll criticize him, over analyze him, feel as though I donโt like him. But then an hour later after I find relief ( from telling him, looking things up, talking to my sisters about it) Iโll be in love with him but I wonโt fully feel it because Iโll just be thinking about how I just felt before and how bad it was or anticipate it again for the future. So Iโm constantly ruining it for myself, and it hurts so bad because heโs so perfect for me and so kind to me and everything about our relationship is right but my mind tries to convince me of other things and it feels so real.
I've been dealing with an Relationship OCD relapse for a few weeks now and im currently distressed, overanalyzing my feelings towards my boyfriend, I feel the urge to break up with him at random times daily, for context I'm in a healthy happy relationship but this is causing me so much distress and anxiety. I fear I might loose control and break up with him.
Iโm really struggling with my ocd right now. I feel like Iโm unhappy in my relationship and all I do is get frustrated. Iโm questioning everything about my relationship and Iโm worried Iโm going to ruin everything.
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