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- ๐ฉ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ค๐ข๐ง๐ค๐ฆ๐
- Date posted
- 15w ago
ROCD
iโm having really bad relationship anxiety & OCD idk how to get past it :( it ruins my mood & affects the way i view my partner. i want to cry
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- mckintoshmckintosh
- Date posted
- 15w ago
I'm so sorry you're dealing with this :( I used to get frequent intrusive thoughts about not loving my partner and I constantly worried about and researched if we were compatible. What helped me was to figure out why I was so afraid of not being compatible--which I found out was because I am afraid of being stuck in a relationship that I'm not happy in and not feeling like I can get out. I would then remind myself that I wont get stuck because I have control over the situation and can leave at any time. I also reminded myself that OCD targets the things you value the most, so it really just shows that you care a lot about your partner when you worry. I hope you are able to find peace of mind and relief from all the worries
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- ๐ฉ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ค๐ข๐ง๐ค๐ฆ๐๐ฉ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ค๐ข๐ง๐ค๐ฆ๐
- Date posted
- 15w ago
@mckintosh thank you so much this helped me a ton ๐ฅบ
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- mckintoshmckintosh
- Date posted
- 15w ago
@๐ฉ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ค๐ข๐ง๐ค๐ฆ๐ of course, i'm happy to help :)
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- Doot ๐บDoot ๐บ
- Date posted
- 15w ago
I used to get this with my partner when we first got together, it was awful, what i did was โtrust the processโ and try my best to disregard the OCD and anxious thoughts, and not try to reason or argue or analyse them
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- ๐ฉ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ค๐ข๐ง๐ค๐ฆ๐๐ฉ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ค๐ข๐ง๐ค๐ฆ๐
- Date posted
- 15w ago
@Doot ๐บ did that help or did they go away eventually?
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- Doot ๐บDoot ๐บ
- Date posted
- 15w ago
@๐ฉ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ค๐ข๐ง๐ค๐ฆ๐ Yep! Im 6months into the relationship and hardly ever get OCD about it anymore, fighting with the thoughts is rumination which is a compulsion - to stop ocd you have to first stop the compulsions ๐ซ
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- ๐ฉ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ค๐ข๐ง๐ค๐ฆ๐๐ฉ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ค๐ข๐ง๐ค๐ฆ๐
- Date posted
- 15w ago
@Doot ๐บ thank u๐ฅบ iโll try my best
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