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iโm having really bad relationship anxiety & OCD idk how to get past it :( it ruins my mood & affects the way i view my partner. i want to cry
iโm having really bad relationship anxiety & OCD idk how to get past it :( it ruins my mood & affects the way i view my partner. i want to cry
I'm so sorry you're dealing with this :( I used to get frequent intrusive thoughts about not loving my partner and I constantly worried about and researched if we were compatible. What helped me was to figure out why I was so afraid of not being compatible--which I found out was because I am afraid of being stuck in a relationship that I'm not happy in and not feeling like I can get out. I would then remind myself that I wont get stuck because I have control over the situation and can leave at any time. I also reminded myself that OCD targets the things you value the most, so it really just shows that you care a lot about your partner when you worry. I hope you are able to find peace of mind and relief from all the worries
@mckintosh thank you so much this helped me a ton ๐ฅบ
@๐ฉ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ค๐ข๐ง๐ค๐ฆ๐ of course, i'm happy to help :)
I used to get this with my partner when we first got together, it was awful, what i did was โtrust the processโ and try my best to disregard the OCD and anxious thoughts, and not try to reason or argue or analyse them
@Doot ๐บ did that help or did they go away eventually?
@๐ฉ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ค๐ข๐ง๐ค๐ฆ๐ Yep! Im 6months into the relationship and hardly ever get OCD about it anymore, fighting with the thoughts is rumination which is a compulsion - to stop ocd you have to first stop the compulsions ๐ซ
@Doot ๐บ thank u๐ฅบ iโll try my best
Do you ever meet a guy that treats you so well and you fall in love with him but then all of a sudden you get hit with thoughts of self doubt on weather or not you do love him or even find him attractive? Iโm going through this right now and these thoughts overtake my emotions and any time we do lovey dovey things my stomach drops and I get anxious when I canโt feel any lovey dovey emotions. It also makes me want to run away or makes me question that I donโt wanna be with him and itโs stressful to deal with these thoughts daily. Anyone relate?
I just started dating this guy not too many months ago. he is everything i ever wanted and he treats me right. but now my OCD intrusive thoughts are creeping back in. ones like โdo i love him/like himโ and like โi have to tell him im having these horrible OCD thoughts or we will never know how i truly feel.โ but i know i love/like him. And sometimes Iโll be having a good day and then BAM, the thoughts smack me in the face and i get stuck in an anxious loop and it ruins my mood. how can i break this compulsion without feeling so anxious and do i tell him iโm having these thoughts to relieve the anxiety?
Hello, I recently discovered I may have relationship OCD. I havenโt been formally diagnosed yet but I started experiencing thoughts like โI donโt really love himโ or โIโm gonna break up with himโ, and sometimes even thoughts that he doesnโt love me or heโs gonna leave me. This all started when I got a text from a former partner, and it was very surprising. I thought since it affected me so much that it meant I still loved him and that I didnโt love my current boyfriend. Before this event, I struggled with intrusive thoughts and compulsions but never about relationships and I didnโt think I had OCD. I wasnโt experiencing any of these specific thoughts before I got that text, and itโs really scary and Iโm afraid my thoughts are true. I really do love my boyfriend but these thoughts are really making me depressed.
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