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- 50w
Fear of being alone
I was raised by very strict parents and have always longed to Ben independent and have an adventurous life. I originally wanted to be a nurse because that provided the lifestyle I was hoping for. I didn’t like some aspects of it and my father also wasn’t really supportive and tried to sway me to be a teacher. I never really wanted to be a teacher but I kind of felt forced to do it. Also, I’m not a confident person, I’m very fearful. It took me a long time to learn how to drive. Partly because of having overprotective parents who infantilized me. But then also partly because my natural fearful and cautious personality. There’s nothing I want more than to be free and have adventure. But there’s also nothing more terrifying to me to be free and have adventure. I am now a young adult but still live with my parents. They have control of my life and I don’t have any friends. I thought about changing careers so I could be financially independent. But sometimes I think I should just stick with teaching. I just don’t think I could be financially independent which is probably exactly why my father wanted me to do it. He always says I should stay at home until I get married. I’m not going to go into a philosophical discussion about feminism vs traditional gender roles, but like I said I’m a fearful person, and if there was someone to just marry me so I could escape living my with parents who mistreat me I would be fine with that. I guess I’m just wondering what to do. I want to be free but I’m also terrified of making any decisions on my own. Terrified of the outside world and I have horrible ocd. I was also raised Christian. I still am a Christian but I don’t believe in a strict set of rules you must adhere to, to please God. Does anyone know what I should do? I have dreams of adventure but the dreams paralyze me because being alone in the world is so terrifying? I’m also afraid that God would be upset with me. It’s like my parents treat me terrible but I’m afraid of being alone. I am the scapegoat of the family and have always disagreed with a lot of my families ideas. I believe in Christianity but I’m not very traditional or family oriented like my family is. It’s hard to be around my family because I disagree with all of them but I’m also scared to be on my own in the real world.