Male Friend ROCD

After i hang out with a male friend.. i feel like i think about them too much or check for them after our interaction. We were really close when i wasnt involved with someone and ppl joked about us being together.. but now im with someone i love and am trying to figure things out with and… i feel like i cant hang out with said male friend anymore because of how excited i get to hang out with them. We are really similar have ocd, both Muslim.. dont have alot of friends that align with that.. am i making excuses to hang with them? Idk

C-$

Date posted: 1y

That’s a hard position to be in. Have you talked openly with your partner?

Anonymous123...

Date posted: 1y

@C-$ I told my romantic partner about it before when that friend was more involved in my life. Me and my friend just recently reconnected again and had like two moments of speaking to one another so im wondering if im overthinking and just looking forward to hanging out with someone (dont have much friends) or if its because we (may? Not sure) have flirted like years ago

hanysm@gmail...

Date posted: 1y

All I can say this is messed up and has nothing to do with either OCD or Islam. There is no male friend in Islam that you flirt with. Also there is no romantic partner in Islam, but a husband or fiance. So what about having both. Totally awkward 😳

Anonymous123...

Date posted: 1y

@hanysm@gmail.com No i dont flirt with him 😭 3 years ago we may have said something flirty in the past when i was single not currently.. i feel alot of judgment here.. do you have any knowledge on rocd at all?

Anonymous123...

Date posted: 1y

@hanysm@gmail.com Yea i dont flirt with my male friend now that i have a partner that im figuring things out with and though im Muslim i know some are more strict with their following then others, it depends on culture amongst other things.. its better to be a bit open minded on post like these when interacting with strangers:/

hanysm@gmail...

Date posted: 1y

@Anonymous123456789# - Listen, regardless of religion, because this has nothing to do with strict or loose Islam, because there is no such thing. How would you feel if he is the one in your position, wanting to be friends with an old girlfriend he used to flirt with? This should tell you if this is right or wrong.

Anonymous123...

Date posted: 1y

@hanysm@gmail.com There is strict and loose followings.. shia and sunni could be an example of that.. all or nothing thinking isnt helpful in this regard. He actually is friends with people he has been romantic with in the past! And went to go visit one recently. Adults can do that as long as their is trust my issues is the rocd thoughts.. atleast i believe it is. Do you experience any rocd?

hanysm@gmail...

Date posted: 1y

@Anonymous123456789# - Ohh I see, I guess we are not adults.....lol

Chibee

Date posted: 18w

Should I cut contact w this guy friend

Long story short he’s one of many subjects of my ROCD intrusive thoughts (i’m in a committed relationship) but we were once decent friends in college. We’re mutuals online bc we’re both artists. I recently ran into him while visiting campus, tried to reach out to catch up and got ghosted after expressing that I can sense he doesn’t care for the friendship (he kept flaking and I’m worth more than that lol). Told my bf, he seems indifferent . But he also doesn’t know how bad my ROCD can get. Should I just cut the dude off? I feel that’d provide a quick temporary relief from the ROCD problems, but I also am sad for the friendship. He helped and supported my bf and I’s relationship when no one else did. Plus he’s not the source of the ROCD, my brain is. Cutting out every trigger won’t fix it.

Relationship OCD

Pain Packer

Date posted: 12w

OCD is annoying today

So I recently met this girl and honestly she is amazing. She’s beautiful and her personality is perfect. She lives only 15 min away from me and I feel blessed to have a chance to get to know her, we both feel the same. But here comes OCD to ruin it. My OCD has latched onto a friend of mine. He’s a pretty close friend and we talk often. He’s never really one to let out a laugh so I always like to hear him laugh and just be able to have a good time. Partially it’s because I just don’t want to think I’m annoying and unfunny, I’m pretty self concious about myself. OCD is turning this into some sort of scary what if I like him question. I don’t have romantic feelings for my friend and I don’t actually want to be with a man. I am a straight male and getting to know this girl has been a blessing. OCD makes me feel in denial and as if I’m lying to myself. I hate this. It feels awful, when I haven’t felt this way about a girl in a long time

Sexual Orientation OCD

Mk3

Date posted: 10w

ROCD

Should I feel guilty about being friends with someone I used to hangout with before my partner? This guy hangs out with my friends so it’s hard to avoid him. And then feelings happen and I’m learning that my feelings don’t have to hold significance. Should I feel guilty I’m like why do I still like to be around guys Maybe this is just life. I’m going to see these people. Idk

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