Is distancing due to OCD harming my relationship and causing stress?

please I need insight

Does anyone else feel like their partner would break up with them for every gross thought they have attached to ocd, so you distance yourself and now you’re overwhelmed by everything in your relationship and feel like you made the spark go away/ don’t know what to do anymore. I’m so stressed with school too I don’t know whether to take a break in the relationship to better myself to meet their needs.

Username: Anonymous6482Anonymous6482

Date posted: 7w ago

I had this issue when I had been diagnosed with ocd back a year ago. I had a mental breakdown and became a completely different person. I always had signs of ocd but it got extremely bad during this time period. My bf of a year who I’m still with was very supportive during it. He was with me when I couldn’t even leave my house. My suggestion to you would be really depending on how much you trust them and how long you’ve been together. Talk to them about it. Explain it. Have them read about it. My boyfriend is my comfort, but don’t start having compulsions to tell them every little thing either. I had that issue too and I made him tell me every time I started to confess something to tell me to stop it’s okay and that I don’t need to worry about it and thoughts are just thoughts. It is okay to get reassurance sometimes tho! I hope this helps and remember that ocd affects not only thoughts but it can affect bodily feelings as well and it can be scary! But it’s all just ocd and you are okay!

Username: Zeph113Zeph113

Date posted: 7w ago

@Anonymous6482 Thank you so much, did you ever have times where you were scared to hang out with or talk to them because you were sure you’re gonna do a compulsion?

Username: Anonymous6482Anonymous6482

Date posted: 7w ago

@Zeph113 Yes, I used to dread it and avoid it. Mainly because I was so scared of confessing things. There was one thing, from my childhood that had popped back up. I was young and very stupid. I didint do the thing but I almost did. And that was enough that remembering it made me feel horrible. I confessed it. But he laughed it off told me I was just a kid I didint know any better. Which is true. But i remember feeling awful being around him or anyone I care about really because I felt the overwhelming need to confess but the worry of what they would think even tho I knew deep down inside what I did was just a stupid thing. Sometimes it’s good to get things off your chest. Confessing does not always have to be a compulsion in my opinion. That certain situation I needed reassurance about. After that if you keep confessing it I would say then it’s definitely a compulsion. I really do say to talk to them about it. If you feel comfortable and safe to do so. It could really help. Having someone to talk to and get assurance from doesent always mean your doing a compulsion. I know sometimes it can seem like you can’t talk about how your feeling or what your thinking to anyone cause it feels like it’s a compulsion but you don’t have to deal with things alone!

Username: Kayla12Kayla12

Date posted: 7w ago

Know that you are worthy and deserve the best for yourself even if you don't have a partner and struggling with ocd. A relationship is suppose to be mutual support and understanding. Be open to your partner about experiencing OCD which is not an easy journey. If your partner is not compassionate and understanding then better to take a break focus on your recovery journey and school, which is more important for your self-development process towards being a confident and successful person you are created to be. Mental & emotional self-care goes a very long way to ocd recovery. Hope this helps! Bless you

Username: truebluetrueblue

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 7w ago

I saw an OCD specialist on youtube say you are not obligated to tell the people you Love the exact details of your intrusive thoughts, you don’t owe that to anybody. you shouldn’t feel like it’s a secret, because your intrusive thoughts are NOT a part of you. my partner knows i have ocd so i just tell my partner that i’m ruminating or that the thoughts are bad, and we have a mutual understanding that thats all i feel comfortable sharing. to me, that’s enough information to tell to get the communication across that im struggling. whether you decide to share the intrusive thoughts or not, your partner should respect that decision. never feel forced to share or not to share.

Username: Maria

Date posted: 4y ago

I have really terrible relationship OCD. The second I sense something is off, I overthink it until I’m exhausted and then I become uninterested in the relationship. At this point I don’t want to speak to my partner because ok afraid I’ll get triggered further. Any tips, thoughts?

Relationship OCD

Username: BubbaBoo12

Date posted: 3y ago

I know this is going to seem like reassurance seeking which it 100% is but I’ve been struggling on the same thought for a long time now. The thought of breaking up with my significant other has been going through my head for months now and I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to break up with him but my OCD is making me feel like I have no choice to and it’s starting to make me feel like that’s my only option to happiness, it’s all starting to feel so real. Any thoughts or advice? Or anyone else go through this or something similar?

Username: Anonymousx

Date posted: 1y ago

Do I give OCD the power to end my relationship?

Hello guys, Im new here and seeking for advice. Im in a relationship with an amazing guy. I love him so much and that’s why my ocd and anxiety are latching onto my connection with him. He was staying over at my place and 2 events happened (something to do with his disease and he had an allergic reaction to food) that caused my stress and anxiety levels to be higher than normal. Followed by a night of bad sleep made things worse. I became very alert and was easily triggered. Something occurred that I completely miscalculated and we talked about it but my anxiety was through the roof at this point. I got these disturbing images of me hurting him in my head. I have had intrusive thoughts in the past but it didn’t affect me this much. Because of the lack of sleep and my high anxiety level made me so afraid of myself that I made the decision to sent him home. I have cried so much since that happened. I feel so bad for having that thought. I love him so much. Our communication is very healthy so I’ve told him about this the day after (why I sent him home). I couldnt do it in the moment because i didnt want to make the situation worse. We werent in a fight when i sent him home but both emotional and hugging each other. I have the feeling that my anxiety and ocd have won the battle by sending him home (avoidance). But i care so much for him that I didn’t want him to be at risk (thats what my mind tells me, i know its showing me disturbing images the opposite of what i want). Im in the early stage of having this type of OCD but I don’t want to lose him. But for me the only way to get this relationship to work is to get rid of this. Can anyone relate? Like, having intrusive thoughts about your partner? I know its latching on to the things you love the most and I hate it so much. Thanks in advance :)

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