Rocd

Can we talk????

@nick134 - go for it.

@nick134 Or here??

@nick134 - on here yes. What we talk about could help someone else who reads this theme. what's on your mind?

@TexasOCD41 So what was your thoughts when you first hit with r-ocd?

@nick134 I questioned if i even liked him, was i actually attracted to him? What if i was just pretending and leading him on, what if he didn’t really like me, maybe we should just break up just to be sure

@TexasOCD41 Or maybe you love him or not? And sometimes like you don't love him

@TexasOCD41 If you don't mind can I tell you my story??

@nick134 - at the time it was only like because I had not known him long enough for love to apply but basically yes, same situation as you.

@nick134 - sure, it will help me understand better.

@TexasOCD41 Let me tell you my story so I was in college and and 6 months back i came out from a relationship that was 4 years long and it was not healthy at all. So after i met this girl i get attracted and started talking and slowly i got attached with her and even her behaviour used to hurt me when she don't reply or don't text me back I was completely obsessed and desperate and after a time i asked her and she said yes and I was happy everything was going good and we get physical after a week it was not planned but it happened and I don't why I didn't feel good and many thoughts started to coming out that why I didn't enjoy that maybe she is not the one or maybe i don't feel for her but deep down i knew that I was the one who wanted her first after that incident i used to check feelings for her do i get excited when I meet her or do i feel my heartbeat running fast do i feel when I kiss her i was checking everything and after that I completely shut off emotionally physically sexually and even I used to think I'm gay and was checking that do i feel for boys and all that after watching videos on YouTube my those thoughts that do i feel for her or not or I'm attracted to her get less but now I'm stuck that do i love her or I never loved her or i was just chasing her even after knowing that that love feeling comes and goes I don't know why I'm still struggling and still asking questions and even today I felt love for her when I was with her and I even I said I love you 🥺

@TexasOCD41 And how long does it take you to get recover?

@nick134 - So to start, this IS ROCD. next, the "checking " you say you do, checking your feelings, checking to see how you feel, that is a compulsion, and doing compulsions makes OCD stronger. The more compulsions you do, the more OCD will try to make you doubt. Going to the internet for answers, research, that is also a compulsion, also, feeding your OCD, allowing it to grow stronger. I have attached a link and a video that is about ROCD. read the information and watch the video and use the ERP that is discussed. That is how you will overcome the ROCD. https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/relationship-ocd https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w4r0kir8COY&t=555s

@nick134 - It took me about a month and I had to get on medication.

@TexasOCD41 Okay! See above i explained what I'm going through

@nick134 - i responded. see above

@TexasOCD41 Can't see

@nick134 - you dont see the response where i included 2 links for reference?

@nick134 - @nick134 - So to start, this IS ROCD. next, the "checking " you say you do, checking your feelings, checking to see how you feel, that is a compulsion, and doing compulsions makes OCD stronger. The more compulsions you do, the more OCD will try to make you doubt. Going to the internet for answers, research, that is also a compulsion, also, feeding your OCD, allowing it to grow stronger. I have attached a link and a video that is about ROCD. read the information and watch the video and use the ERP that is discussed. That is how you will overcome the ROCD. https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/relationship-ocd https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w4r0kir8COY&t=555s

@TexasOCD41 I wrote a whole paragraph you read that?

@nick134 - yes. i responded with another whole paragraph, twice.

@TexasOCD41 Sorry but it's nothing here

@nick134 - So to start, this IS ROCD. next, the "checking " you say you do, checking your feelings, checking to see how you feel, that is a compulsion, and doing compulsions makes OCD stronger. The more compulsions you do, the more OCD will try to make you doubt. Going to the internet for answers, research, that is also a compulsion, also, feeding your OCD, allowing it to grow stronger.

@TexasOCD41 Yeah its getting worse it's been 6 months and now even reassurance is not working

@nick134 Compulsions can lose power. You might need to do therapy or medication or both

@TexasOCD41 I want to but here in India it's not even a thing people don't know about r-ocd and here I can't find a r-ocd therapist

@nick134 Online therapy? I used NOCD

@nick134 It wouldn’t be an ROCD just ocd. The subtypes don’t matter

@TexasOCD41 Too expensive for me as I'm a student and here in India cost of living is low so for me seeing a foreign therapist not possible

How you doing with your r-ocd?

@nick134 i’m doing a little better, it was really bad in august but it’s been less intense lately. it still pops up once in a while unfortunately but it’s not as bad, so there is hope!

@curefan6 Mine is 24*7

@nick134 Yes

@TexasOCD41 Btw what to do about my thoughts I'm trying so hard but it's not working

@nick134 Look up ERP for OCD .