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@Chronicoverthinker I stared and the statements boobies and gyatt came in mind (please no judging thats what popped up😭)

@Chronicoverthinker But idk I was staring at those parts I dont know why I didnt want to but yeah

@Chronicoverthinker If it has to do with SO-OCD, I’ve just started accepting the idea that I can never be 100% certain about my sexuality and no amount of “checking” is going to change that. Additionally, when we thinking of something in a sexual sense that is undesirable we are thinking of it to “check” if ae get aroused, and that anxious feeling is going to feel very similar to arousal, so it’s important to allow yourself to sit in the uncertainty and not give the intrusive thought so much power, regardless of what it is. Not wanting to act on it is enough, even if you have that thought 24/7, it’s just a thought—you’re not acting on it. Hope this helps a bit:)

@julieispunk_ No judgement! I wouldn’t beat yourself up everything has silly thoughts sometimes like that. The key is not trying to stop your thoughts and rather sitting with them and knowing that you don’t have to give them power if it goes against your true desires—but also it’s okay to not know your true desires and if you don’t know them then it’s best to wait to act until you are in a clearer headspace

@Chronicoverthinker Everyone* not everything lol

@Chronicoverthinker This does help but I know I would never act on it but it keeps staying like background noise and makes me uncomfortable what is one way to forget about it without triggering it or anything?

@julieispunk_ The key is not trying to forget about it as uncomfortable as it is … I’ve dealt with soocd and I’ve had to accept that I’m just going to have these intrusive thoughts and it has gotten better the less I’ve tried to ignore them or “forget” them

@Chronicoverthinker Im currently also in a relationship so my OCD latches onto his family members alot so these thoughts were on 2 members of his family so it was a little bit more spooky

@julieispunk_ That makes sense because it’s his family so they’re close to him and I’m assuming the relationship is important to you! Something you could tell yourself is “maybe I’m attracted to his family members, but that doesn’t mean I’m not attracted to him and it doesn’t mean anything about our relationship has to change” because the more you try to forget or deny the thoughts the more distressing they will be!! Even if deep down you know or feel they aren’t true or just don’t want them to be true thought stopping only causes more distress. I’ve started responding to my ocd in my head saying things like “cool man” or sarcastic statements to show that I’m unfazed lol

@Chronicoverthinker Me too I always respond with okay and or okay cool! Thats helps alot but I just hate when they are still in the back of my head but I have to sit with the thought and me like okay!

@julieispunk_ I totally get that!! It’s so much easier said than done but eventually they wont have so much power and you won’t feel so guilty just let the thoughts be and eventually it won’t feel so sticky. It’s not your fault you’re having these thoughts