Hello
I keep having intrusive thoughts that I am in love with my ex. I’m so afraid if I don’t sort through the thoughts then I’ll get in touch with him? I don’t want to hurt my bf so I feel so sick and just overwhelmed.
I think you need to tell your boyfriend about your OCD. It’s not easy but if he truly loves you he’ll understand that this is beyond your control
I poiletly disagree with the comment below, I believe this is within your control and I think you have the option to tell your boyfriend but I don't think its necessary and I actually would suggest against it as it could be a compulsion hidden in the way of "confessing" or "reassurance seeking". Im sure you know that the way to beat OCD is by practicing ERP in regards to your intrusive thoughts. When you "sort through" the thoughts, you are doing a mental compulsion, and compulsions are the enemy of OCD, they actually make OCD stronger. the BEST thing for you to do, is to STOP trying to sort through them. ACKNOWLEDGE you have OCD, and that you're in a bit of a flare. Allow that idea to just be present but don't respond to it.
@TexasOCD41 I understand this comment because yes technically everything is within our control, but OCD is lifelong, you just learn how to manage it. It’s important for those around us to support in anyway possible
@anatmx I agree.
I can really relate to what you're going through, and I wish I could say something to make you feel better right away, but we both know that wouldn't help in the long run. Your OCD is being very chatty and annoying right now, trying to convince you that these thoughts are more than just thoughts. Remember, you are so much stronger than your OCD wants you to believe. Try to sit with the discomfort and remind yourself that you don’t need to sort through every thought. It's okay to feel overwhelmed, and it's okay to not have all the answers right now. You’re doing your best, and that's enough.
Please some advice for ROCD, I’m having a bad day feeling lifeless and hopeless Today I’ve sat and allowed the intrusive feelings and thoughts about an ex to flow over me today without resisting in a bid to do some ERP and now I just feel guilty and lifeless. I am in love with my boyfriend who is so supportive and incredible. But not a day passes where this ex is in my head. And it scares me. Because I know I love my current boyfriend. I know these thoughts are intrusive but they feel so real, is that normal? I call them ‘fake feelings’ telling myself that it’s the ocd trying to trick me. This ex was awful. He was nasty and mean. I know I don’t want to be with him but then intrusive thoughts kick in and they feel so real so I get extremely guilty. I even feel guilty typing this. Can anyone help me please? ?
I don't like these intrusive images and thoughts of my ex. I just want to be happy with my boyfriend. I wanna scream. I want these thoughts to stop. I really just want to be happy with my boyfriend but these stupid intrusive thoughts are pulling me down. And you might be wondering if I had what-if thoughts with other guys, yes. That's why I'm aware it's obsessive intrusive thoughts. This time, it latched on to my ex. My brain is making me think that I love him. I never had intrusive thoughts about him months before when I started suffering from rOCD. It's so scary because the thoughts feel so real. Any advice would be nice. I'm undergoing psychotherapy and meds (fluoxetine 20mg and olanzapine 5mg combo)
Im in a relationship for 4 years, but i had been in contact with my ex a few times. WORSE DECISION, after confessing i developed ocd. Different themes, i literally quit my previous job because i believed that i was going to fall in love with just anyone from there, female, male, kid etc. It was very difficult, but that theme is not loud anymore. I noticed how my ocd attached to the mistakes i made, and now is torturing me by reminding me every day with hard evidence i dont love my partner, or love songs remind me of my ex. Almost as if i see him everywhere, there are days that my bf says something and my mind tells me oh it sounds like your ex, or if i see my ex in him, its so weird, next year we planned a trip, same country/neighborhood where i met my ex, i feel like going back to where i met him might trigger my anxiety. How do i get rid of these ex thoughts, i dont want to be with my ex. I just want to erase these thoughts and everything is annoying me
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