the worst manifestation of my ocd has been intrusive thoughts popping in during sex and triggering an orgasm. idk if it’s because i tense up when these thoughts arise but any intrusive thought i get during sex seems to cause this reaction. the thoughts aren’t even sexual in nature, they are just faces of different people…this causes me so much shame. am i alone in this?
Totally understand, you’re not alone with this. It’s definitely one of the lesser talked about manifestations of OCD
This is totally an OCD thing and I’ve experienced it too. It’s because your brain is used to “checking” to see if you’re actually feeling a certain way. I think our natural idea of sex is to only be thinking about the person you’re doing it with when it’s happening, and so it feels forbidden to think about anything or anyone else. And OCD thrives off of “forbidden” thoughts. I treat this like I treat anything else with OCD— accept the thought, let it be there, take a curious mindset instead of a judgmental one.
@L_e_d thank you so much for your reply. it’s been really difficult dealing with these images causing an orgasm but it’s nice to know that i am not the only one who experiences this
@snowflakes One of the best things I’ve learned in ERP is when you get a scary feeling/thought, instead of responding with “no no no I want this to go away” you say to yourself “this feeling is welcome, in fact, I want more of this because it will make me stronger in the long run”. I know it’s scary to say it to yourself but it takes away the “forbidden” nature of the thought and your brain will learn to not couple the thought with your fight or flight response. There’s a great book called “stopping the noise in your head” that talks a lot about it and it’s so helpful
@aml0404 I’m not sure! It could just be the bit of anxiety/energy pushing you over the edge. Or maybe it’s the other way around— you’re about to orgasm and you compulsively think of someone (I feel like that’s what happens to me). Trying to get rid of it and avoid it will make it worse!
@aml0404 Anxiety and Excitement are very close emotions! But there’s really no way to know whether that’s what leads you to an orgasm or not. That’s not the real problem! The real problem is the fear of uncertainty. It sounds like you feel like you NEED to know whether the thought of another person gives you an orgasm while you’re having sex or not to then determine if you are a bad person or faulty in some way. That’s just an OCD trick. The content of the problem isn’t the problem. It’s the fear of uncertainty. Sitting with the uncertainty and saying “this can be here” will make it lose its power over time!
@L_e_d i struggle with this too. i feel so much shame bc the images of ppls faces that i see are awful, ppl that i would never want to think of during sex. and the fact that it causes an orgasm causes so much shame.
@snowflakes I promise it’s just another form of OCD! If it’s causing you a lot of distress and you are having trouble doing exposures on your own, I recommend doing ERP therapy through NOCD or another platform!
I get this a lot I put a scenario in my while having sex to see if I’d enjoy it and seems like I would and bring on an orgasm. It really freaks me out I hope it’s ocd and not true can anyone help me?
@Anonymous I have the same problem
Last night I was self pleasuring. I didn’t set out to think about anything weird but as I was doing it some pocd thoughts were in my brain. I did not get off to them, but I could have. Idk why that is but it is. Idk what to do and idk why I am this way. Is there some science about the brain while aroused or is it possible that the more gross or taboo something is I can like it?? Idk, just want to know if anyone can relate.
I need advice for intrusive thoughts. I used to feel like I could handle them. They weren’t nearly as bad as the things that related to my actual life. But now, I’m suffering. I haven’t had a sexual experience in over a year that didn’t involve constant intrusive thoughts. Most are somehow related to kids and I keep chasing off the thoughts but it’s so bad. I know you’re supposed to ignore them but I don’t know how I can just ignore that and continue what I’m doing. But they’re coming on stronger. I had one earlier I could not get rid of just as things finished so the thought came on strongly just before my orgasm hit and now I feel absolutely disgusting. I hated the thought and I know it’s not me and it was not enjoyable but it still feels like I was getting off to it. I feel sick. I’m so fucking tired of these thoughts. They’re in my every day life too and it’s all the time. I just want it to stop but ignoring it feels so wrong. What should I do?
I was having intimacy. Watching p0rn. And during climax i got intrusive thoughts a d anxious. I hate when this happens. As a compulsion whenever i get intrusive ocd thoughts i usually think of my wife or therapist (whose a man) and say their name. For my wife its because shes the love of my life. My comfort. And during intimacy of course to arouse over her. When i think of my therapist its not anything sexual its just like a comforting thought since hes the one that is helping me thru ocd. But now ocd is saying why did i think lf him during climax. And in my head i heard my voicr saying his name but this was my way of distracting myself from the intrusive thoughts. It wasnt to arouse myself over him it was tk distract myself and it wasnt a compulsion. Ocd tries associating it with my sexual experience and its making me feel very guilty and anxious. Then i worry was i saying his name. I did in my head but it wasnt again a compulsion tk distract from ocd. Then that made me anxious so i said my wifes name and thougjt kf her. I just had intrusive thought so i panicked and out of compulsive habit i usual say thr name of my wifr and therapist
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