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Matthew JamesMatthew James
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Totally understand, you’re not alone with this. It’s definitely one of the lesser talked about manifestations of OCD
L_e_dL_e_d
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This is totally an OCD thing and I’ve experienced it too. It’s because your brain is used to “checking” to see if you’re actually feeling a certain way. I think our natural idea of sex is to only be thinking about the person you’re doing it with when it’s happening, and so it feels forbidden to think about anything or anyone else. And OCD thrives off of “forbidden” thoughts. I treat this like I treat anything else with OCD— accept the thought, let it be there, take a curious mindset instead of a judgmental one.
L_e_dL_e_d
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@snowflakes One of the best things I’ve learned in ERP is when you get a scary feeling/thought, instead of responding with “no no no I want this to go away” you say to yourself “this feeling is welcome, in fact, I want more of this because it will make me stronger in the long run”. I know it’s scary to say it to yourself but it takes away the “forbidden” nature of the thought and your brain will learn to not couple the thought with your fight or flight response. There’s a great book called “stopping the noise in your head” that talks a lot about it and it’s so helpful
L_e_dL_e_d
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@aml0404 I’m not sure! It could just be the bit of anxiety/energy pushing you over the edge. Or maybe it’s the other way around— you’re about to orgasm and you compulsively think of someone (I feel like that’s what happens to me). Trying to get rid of it and avoid it will make it worse!
L_e_dL_e_d
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@aml0404 Anxiety and Excitement are very close emotions! But there’s really no way to know whether that’s what leads you to an orgasm or not. That’s not the real problem! The real problem is the fear of uncertainty. It sounds like you feel like you NEED to know whether the thought of another person gives you an orgasm while you’re having sex or not to then determine if you are a bad person or faulty in some way. That’s just an OCD trick. The content of the problem isn’t the problem. It’s the fear of uncertainty. Sitting with the uncertainty and saying “this can be here” will make it lose its power over time!
L_e_dL_e_d
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@snowflakes I promise it’s just another form of OCD! If it’s causing you a lot of distress and you are having trouble doing exposures on your own, I recommend doing ERP therapy through NOCD or another platform!
AnonymousAnonymous
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I get this a lot I put a scenario in my while having sex to see if I’d enjoy it and seems like I would and bring on an orgasm. It really freaks me out I hope it’s ocd and not true can anyone help me?
BrigittaBrigitta
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@Anonymous I have the same problem
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