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my main creative hobby is drawing, but i also play the violin.. usually drawing helps me ignore all the overwhelming thoughts, but when i mess up i just stop making art completely until i dont feel like a failure anymore (it usually takes me a couple of weeks, sometimes more) when i want to get out of this mindset i look up artists that inspire me, it gives me lots of motivation. i start simple and try to enjoy the process.. maybe this could help you too:)
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Thank you! I will try looking at some other artists with similar styles that I want to try out ❤️
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I'm exactly the same. I dabble in lots of different crafts but crochet is my main one. I struggle to finish making anything especially if I'm making it up as I go along because I keep tweaking. Recently I've been forcing myself to pick simple patterns and just keep pushing myself to finish, and if I make a mistake that won't affect the final product I force myself to leave it instead of fixing it. Its not enjoyable obviously, ERP never is, but I love making things and I know if I don't do this then OCD is going to claim this too.
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Thanks for replying! Yes, that's how I am, too. I will often see things I like and will teach myself how to do them, but will often quit because I finish because it doesn't look as good as my inspiration or because I think it's pointless or I could be doing something else. It's gotten to the point where I won't even start things now because I've spent so much money on materials or classes for things that I just never finished. I appreciate your support because it really is frustrating when it's one of the things I consider myself to have somewhat of a knack for, but I just beat myself up to the point of it being unpleasant. I just watched some art therapy videos on YouTube by a channel called "Thirsty for Art," and this morning I did some coloring in a coloring book, so I'm hoping doing low-pressure activities consistently will help somehow. Crocheting is awesome, btw! I love fabric crafts and think they're so beautiful. Hang in there! ❤️✊
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@butwhatif That's the way to do it I think. Start with low effort /low reward stuff and work from there. The thing I struggled with the most when I do finish things was not feeling like it was worth all the effort I put in when I was being pedantic about it so doing really short easy projects has been good for helping me accept finishing a project when it isn't "perfect". Fabric crafts are great aren't they? I made my wedding dress but of course OCD ruined that experience because a year on I still fixate about everything that was wrong with it even though none of the "problems" were visible when I was wearing it.
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@jenagade Aw that's such an amazing and special thing to have made yourself! What an impressive skill! And I understand the struggle, but it seems like you have the right approach!
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