I cannot stop constantly thinking about what I need to change and do, but I cannot focus on and exactly do it. I Aswell struggle with repeating overthinking in my relationship, but it’s not something my partner has time for.
What are you overthinking about?
@MindMaze Cheating, and leaving me.
@leahnancy How long have you been in this relationship?
@MindMaze Almost a year, it will be a year in February.
@MindMaze I have a lot of dreams that he’s cheating on me , almost every night
@leahnancy Omg, no way! We’re on the same page on how long we’ve both been with our partners. I’m sorry that you have dreams, I’ve definitely had my fair share of them. And I can completely understand how they definitely feel real sometimes. I’ve learned that dreams are simply just dreams, nothing more-nothing less. They are just the brains way of giving you full imagery to what you’re thinking or feeling. Nonetheless, how you communicated at all, if not, a little with your partner about being anxious or how you overthink?
@MindMaze It’s really helpful to hear that someone has some of the same struggles! The dreams are so vivid sometimes it’s hard to not think they had some type of meaning, but what you said helps a lot! My partner is aware of my anxiety and overthinking, though it tends to bother him and makes him feel like “a bad boyfriend and low” and it tends to make him mad, my overthinking annoys him. But it’s hard because it seems like we don’t have the same views or values in a relationship, he can go the entire day without talking to me, but he’s in college now two hours away, we see one another every weekend and it’s not bad. But the not talking It adds onto my overthinking a lot sometimes.
@leahnancy This is so weird, I feel like we’re the exact same boat haha. My boyfriend and I are both in college. We’re around 2 hrs away from each other, but somehow, we’ve managed to see each other every weekend too! My boyfriend feel the same way sometimes. He feels like he’s not enough for me not to stop overthinking. And I’m sure it does annoy him, but he’s pretty good at understanding. As for same views & values. That’s a different thing, you might like/love someone. However, if you “both” aren’t willing to compromise and find balance where you both don’t agree on some views, that’s when tougher decisions have to be made. Trust me, me and my partner are barely starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but even then we still got some ways to go. We definitely have recognized we are the same person, and we do have different perspectives and beliefs. But we both have come to the conclusion that breaking up isn’t what we want. So that just means if we want this to work. It’s going to work with communication and understanding. There’s still SOOO much I can tell you about what all of that entails. I’m no expert but what I can tell you, is I’ve experienced A LOT. So please feel free to ask questions and I’ll tell you what i know :)
@MindMaze We’ve definitely recognized we aren’t the same person *
@MindMaze Aw I really appreciate this advice! If you have an instagram, lmk what it is and if you’re down and comfortable I’d love to text with you more about this!
@leahnancy Yeah ofc!! islas._.islas
I’m obsessing over the future and if my boyfriend and I are going to make it. I know it’s ocd because the thought won’t leave. Discussing the future with my boyfriend makes him very stressed because he is in a difficult family situation. I’m trying my hardest to be patient but I need reassurance that there is a plan and timeline in place. We have been dating for almost two years and I’m not ready to live together but I like discussing it and knowing there’s some form of plan. My ocd gets bad when there is no plan. Are there any thoughts or tips to help?
for me it’s getting to the point where i don’t feel in love with my boyfriend anymore. i’m trying to keep myself from compulsing since my compulsions are all mental. it’s like the thoughts consume my mind every second of every day and i can’t catch a break. it’s like i want to be with him so bad but my brain won’t allow me. any advice?
Lately my ROCD has been flaring up, making it difficult to even be around my partner. I’m having so many troubling thoughts with the one that bugs me most being, “maybe this isn’t my OCD, maybe I’m just in a bad relationship and I’m trying to cover it up and blame it on OCD”. This thought really scares me because there are valid doubts in my relationship but my boyfriend and I have openly talked about them and are trying to work through. My OCD won’t take that as an option tho. It makes me feel like I need to be 100% certain that these things can NEVER happen again or else we need to break up immediately. So anything he says in that moment about trying to do better, my OCD will not trust anything he says and just wait until the next “bad thing” happens. When I continuously bring these things up to my boyfriend even tho nothing has happened between these conversations, it exhausts him making it feel like he can never do enough. I feel so bad because I know it’s just my OCD getting in the way. But then that thought creeps in saying I can’t trust him because I need to protect myself. It’s just an ongoing cycle that is so tiring. I don’t even know what I want anymore. We are very opposite when it comes to emotions. I am very in tune and very emotionally intelligent, and he is not. He is the opposite. I do recognize that my anxious attachment style may be hard for him too but I can’t stop thinking about all of his flaws and all of the things he needs to do to make our relationship better. It makes me feel like I’m the only one putting in effort when in reality that is not true. But my OCD does make me feel like he doesn’t really love me or want to be with me and that he feels forced to be with me or do things for me. It makes me feel like him being with me is like a chore. Can anyone relate? My OCD just makes me feel like I can’t trust anything he says to make our relationship better.
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