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i am always constantly worried about my relationship with my boyfriend i beene you for 7months it’s my first real relationship and ik he won’t hurt me but i js always overthink cus of weird things he done (nothing bad js weird) im struggling trying to be happy and tbh im not even over the age i just want help. i hate my body i want to be healthy and quit smoking i want help so bad im failing school im trying but i dont get nothing like i feel like im actually dumb like im in the 10th and i cant get my shit together. my parents constantly fight i constantly fight with my boyfriend but it’s because we’re young and don’t understand much. i’m just struggling and my parents or friends can’t help me and most of all i can’t help my self im only 15 im about to be a adult and im so unorganized i struggle talking about my feelings i struggle trynna make good choices. i just need help💔

User type: Therapist

Date posted: 20w

Hi there — it really sounds like you're going through a tough time right now, and I just want to acknowledge how hard that can be. You don’t have to face it alone. If you're open to exploring support, NOCD offers a free consultation call to see if our programs might be a good fit for you. Our care team is truly kind and supportive, and you can reach them anytime at care@nocdhelp.com. In the meantime, you might find some comfort and connection in the NOCD podcast on YouTube, Get to Know OCD. It’s filled with helpful discussions and insights from people who really understand what you're going through. You can check it out here: https://www.youtube.com/@treatmyocd. Be gentle with yourself — you're doing the best you can, and that matters.

MonologueMan

Date posted: 40w

Kyliee, I’m sorry to hear the pain and suffering you are currently going through right now in this stage of your life. It’s important to understand that feeling the way you do, in the circumstances you’re in, makes a lot of sense. It sounds like your life is currently submerged in the midst of chaos. There are many things that are fighting for your attention. Whether it is school, a boyfriend, the contention in your home, or others. It would make it difficult to quit smoking, or to focus on yourself, if smoking and being in a romantic relationship have been the only coping mechanisms you’ve been able to reliably call upon to help bring relief from the pain and confusion of the chaos that seems to surround you. I want to push back a little on your feelings of being dumb. I would suggest that your awareness at the age of 15, far exceeds my own at that age. If anything, I’d say you’re pretty smart for your age, and feel dumb because of the circumstances you’ve found yourself in, and you also happen to have a brain that is still developing. You’re not dumb, you’re struggling to juggle the chaotic environment you are living in. Love your body, and place your hatred at the feet of smoking. Your body is a wonderful and amazing gift, that has an amazing ability for recovery. My body is far from where I would like it to be, but the reason I seek to improve my health is because I love my body and I love myself. I know I am important and have value, and therefore, I want to improve my health, my body, my mind, spirit, and life. I’d suggest you feel similarly, which is why you had the courage to ask for help. Kyliee, given your circumstances, I wish I had more to give you. The only action I can think to provide you, is to seek therapy. If your parents can’t help with that, I believe your school may provide counseling for students. At this time in your life, it’s going to be important to focus on you, and if you’re religious, to focus on God too. Splitting your focus between a boyfriend, school, family, friends, yourself, your health, and your mental wellbeing is too great of a burden for you to bear. You know you need help, and I encourage you to find a therapist that can do that. Remember, you are important, have value, and are loved. It’s difficult now, and I know you’re strong enough to get through it. You got this. Best, Tyler

Kyliee111

Date posted: 40w

@MonologueMan that was so helpful🤍 i hope you know i read all of that. for you to type all that really makes me feel better. are you a therapist?? i am just struggling to talk to my parents especially i got really ba dossiers with my dad and he lives with us and manipulates my mom my moms catching on but he is so good at manipulating and i can’t talk to them about anything. my mom is so stressed from my dad she just drinks then i have to deal with her drunk. im trying…

MonologueMan

Date posted: 40w

@Kyliee111 I appreciate you taking the time to read through it all lol I am so very glad to hear that it was helpful for you. I am not currently a therapist, however, it is something I’d like to be. I feel a lot, suffered through a lot, and my heart is filled with sorrow to hear about the many pains and sufferings people go through because of this fallen world we all live in. I want more than anything to help people understand the things I have that have saved me from the hopelessness, despair, and self-condemnation that used to rule over me. I know how painful and difficult it can be when struggling with circumstances and people you have no control over. It’s something I still struggle with in my own life. It’s not fair for us to have to carry these burdens that aren’t ours to bear. We carry these burdens because we love. I’m sorry your mom is in a relationship that drives her to drink the pain away. I’m sorry this leaves you to sorrow and worry for her. You’re efforts to comfort her, and be there for her may go unseen by people around you, but remember; they are seen, they are important, and they are valued, regardless of whether people communicate that to you or not. There is still good to hope for. Something that has helped me immensely is faith. It’s a wonderful tool for life that anyone can use, regardless of whether you’re religious or not. If you don’t have faith in Christ, or faith in God, instead have faith in truth, for truth is good. The way it helps, is that faith isn’t to have a perfect knowledge of things. In my life, I don’t know if I’ve ever had a perfect knowledge of something, therefore, if we have faith, we hope for things, which we can’t see right now, which are good and true. Have faith Kyliee, it can help you through the hard times. Keep trying, and if you are religious, prayer can be a powerful tool as well. You got this, don’t give up, and hold to your faith in true and good things. Best, Tyler

Gmoki

Date posted: 22w

Relationship

I feel so bad I overthink abt everything my bf says and does. I think that if he doesn’t say x y z when I want reassurance then he must’ve stopped caring or is tired of me. I know it’s not the truth and he gives me NO reason to think this way. This is my first healthy relationship and I want to be in each others lives forever. I love him so much and I’m trying my hardest to manage these thoughts but I’m so anxious. It’s so draining I feel helpless and like I can’t go a day without checking his social medias. I want us to be the best versions of ourselves for eachother but idk where to start or how to manage this feeling.

your strong

Date posted: 22w

Can you relate?

Hi this my first time ever hearing about this app n i downloaded it because lately my ocd been really bad and I feel I can’t have control over it it scares me because I sometimes hurt people around me when I don’t mean to for example my bf everytime something goes well my head just starts spinning in circles with bad thoughts n wanting to ruin stuff with him lowkey I messed up big times bc I let this time my thoughts win me over n took everything off on him without thinking n realizing how bad I had affected him it kills me because everytime I think im jus a weak person bc I always let everything get to me I’m jus so scared because now my head jus tells me your not good enough your gonna lose him this literally jus happens when something positive comes in my head or something good happens always jus wanna ruin it I hate it because I always believe my thoughts instead of him not because I don’t want to but because also of my past n trauma jus fucks it even more from the deep of my heart i believe him but my head reacts differently n lets it out n now am in the situation of knowing I can lose him any minute now even tho am putting my faith in god n trying my hardest to think positive n be better everyday I’m really trying but w ocd it’s so hard n jus get scared n let my thoughts get to me😞 idk what to do anymore

secretuser

Date posted: 20w

stuck in life

my grades are super bad, my ex moved on, i have no real friends at all, and i feel empty inside. i feel nothing but i feel so many emotions at the same time. i wish i would’ve done better in life. i push people away but then complain about being lonely. me and my ex broke up 8 months ago and i still can’t get over him. he got a girlfriend a week after our breakup and it makes me think about so many things. i’ve talked to guys after that but none of them are the same, i got this feeling with him i got with nobody else and it hurts to know i won’t ever get it back. i feel like im not good or pretty enough for anyone. i feel to difficult for a relationship and to tired. i compare myself to his new girlfriend all the time and i can’t stop. why can’t i be as pretty as her? what was so wrong with me that we had to stop talking? we talk every month as friends but it lasts an hour. my heart craves his love again but i know i won’t ever get him back. i remember this one time i tried cutting off all contact with him because of his girlfriend. when i did, he said he didn’t wanna fully let me go because im a good friend to keep around and he knows ill always be there. i don’t know if he still means that because it’s been months but he still texts me first sometimes. i know i need to let go but im stuck in life and i just need him to help me like he always would. but i cant get his help so i feel stuck and confused and sad and empty.

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