ilovechoclatechipcookies
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guys how do i stop needing constant reassurance? what do i do instead?
SliceySlicey
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Agree with your intrusive thoughts no matter how disturbing they are. They will pass almost instantly and you wonāt need to see reassurance for anything at all because you will have done the work (very brave work) all by yourself.
Billie Ray is the dogBillie Ray i...
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I would say the biggest thing that helped me overcome my reassurance compulsion was learning how to be uncomfortable. Yes, I know how gross and yucky it feels, but the more you allow yourself to have these feelings, you will learn that you can handle them and they will pass without you needing to get reassurance in order to make them go away. It's all about retraining your brain. I find it amazing that no matter how old you are, you can rewire your brain to make new patterns!
Someone99Someone99
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Can you recognize what is causing you to seek reassurance? I believe reassurance is a symptom of the problem. Perhaps discovering the cause will help you to identify tools to prevent. I love your nickname, btw. Chocolate chip cookies are my favorite!!!
ilovechoclatechipcookiesilovechoclat...
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@Someone99 hi! iām having some heath concerns and im super super obsessive about it. and thank you, they are my favorite too!!!!
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@Someone99 do you have any advice on how not to obsess over health problems even though itās something really happening you just donāt know what it is yet?
Someone99Someone99
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@ilovechoclatechipcookies What I can share is from my personal experience with OCD and ERP therapy. I also had health related OCD in 2018 that almost debilitated me, all is well. First, don't search, web md and Google may not be helpful to you, probably escalating your OCD. Are you seeking medical care for your concerns? Then allow your doctors to do their best. And self care is very important. Stay away from researching, even stay away from the Internet. Take a walk, stay hydrated, eat healthy, pay attention to loved ones and people close to you. Can I ask what you're concerned about?
ilovechoclatechipcookiesilovechoclat...
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@Someone99 thank you for your wordsš„¹iāve been definitely trying to stop googling bc itāll make me feel good at first then terrible so i definitely know thatās a compulsion. but i am worried about a lump i found on my leg that has started to hurt and itās been there for months i just havenāt noticed. i am going to the doctor soon and i am so worried about my health and life. its so hard to keep my mind off it bc i am so worried its serious. i have had different health problems this year that have all turned up okay but i am feeling super defeated and drained bc i was just feeling better until this. let me know what you think!š„²ā¤ļø
Someone99Someone99
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@ilovechoclatechipcookies Thank you for sharing. If you'll allow me to, I would like to be a part of this journey with you? Let's take one day at a time. You have the appointment with the doctor, that's the right thing to do. It's not an invalid concern. There's almost too much information online these days, so let's stay away from researching for tonight and tomorrow. Ok? One day at a time, I'll be with you if you allow me to. š
Someone99Someone99
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@ilovechoclatechipcookies Good morning, happy Sunday. No checking, no researching. Tell yourself "I feel like I need to research this, but I'm not going to, I'm going to allow the uncertainty, might not like it, but allow it." Allow yourself to be present in the moment today. :-)
Someone99Someone99
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@ilovechoclatechipcookies You doing ok today?
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@Someone99 definitely better, just staying off my phone. thank you!
Someone99Someone99
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@ilovechoclatechipcookies Good. No researching!!! š
Someone99Someone99
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@ilovechoclatechipcookies So...when is your doctor appointment?
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