Can anyone give me some advice

Hi I won’t disclose my name or age but I am young and still live with my family I have 3 siblings all of them live out of the house I struggle with a dad who screams all the time and has always been aggressive he has done a lot for me in the sense of taking me on trips and providing but when I comes to emotional stuff or caring what I think at all he ignores me and tries to say I’m being dramatic and push down my emotions. I also have a very Christian mom she has been 7th day Adventist since I was around 11 and she tells me everyday to get ready bc the world is going to end and we will all die she forces Jesus on me a lot. I am Christian and I do believe in God but it can be hard sometimes when I try to tell her something sensitive and that is her only answer. I argue with both of them a lot and have trouble handling my emotions so I sit in my room all day after work or school. The only time I really talk to them is when I need something so they always think I’m using them and that’s not what I want but I can barely talk to either of them without getting mad or upset about something. If you have any questions ask me I will explain more but can I please get some advice on how to fix this.

hanysm@gmail...

Date posted: 34w

Here is something I advise someone else with. (Cut and paste) ----------- Reflect on your relationship with your parents by considering specific behaviors and patterns that make you feel mistreated. Are there recurring themes? It can also be helpful to talk to a trusted adult or counselor about your experiences to gain an outside perspective. When it comes to communication, using "I" statements can be effective. This allows you to express your feelings without blaming, such as saying, "I feel hurt when..." This approach can reduce defensiveness. Choosing the right time to discuss sensitive topics is essential; try to have these conversations when both of you are calm and not in the heat of an argument. Listening actively is also crucial—show that you are willing to understand their perspective, which can encourage more open communication. In terms of conflict resolution, focus on solutions rather than dwelling on past issues. Work together to find practical ways to move forward. It’s also important to accept that some disagreements may not be resolved, and that’s okay. Respecting each other's differences can help maintain peace. Lastly, prioritize self-care by engaging in activities that help you relax and recharge, such as hobbies or spending time with friends. Building a support network is vital; connect with friends, family members, or counselors who can offer guidance and emotional support. By approaching the situation thoughtfully and seeking constructive ways to communicate, you can improve your relationship with your parents while also taking care of your own emotional needs.

cdaigle

Date posted: 34w

@hanysm@gmail.com Thanks you the only thing is my parent don’t really listen to me when I have talked to them when they are calm but I will definitely try to prioritize my self care and other things

dn2007

Date posted: 22w

I want advice

My blood has never boiled this much than before. I genuinely wanna throw hands at someone and just scream. My parents always ignore my feelings and shit and always make me the bad one. I can let my shit out around these motherfuckers. My college plans and basically what I dreamed of is fucking destroyed. Nobody fucking understands the shit I have to deal with. It’s always on me. All the damn time. I fucking hate everyone. And whenever I try to fix myself for the better, surprise surprise, EVERYTHING ALWAYS FUCKS UP Everytime i try to vent, they never respond or never understand or it always turns back on me. My heart is beating so fucking fast. I can never enjoy anything with this shit.

BR13

Date posted: 21w

Please Help

I feel so much for people, especially my parents, brother, and nana right now. I saw a few people I know from college and high school whose mom or dad passed away at a young age and I don’t know what to do about it but worry for mine who are having a hard time emotionally and mentally right now. My mom took a new job because she was previously overworked. She’s in her mid-fifties and her friends are all retired and have nice homes. She traded her old him for a smaller home that she hates. It’s required for her at her new job to complete a license exam and pass but it looks like such a hard exam and she’s so overwhelmed and emotionally drained and can’t stop comparing herself to her friends. I can’t even come up with anything positive to say to her. She feels like she shouldn’t have this much stress at this point in her life. My dad is constantly thinking about politics and it’s frustrating because it’s so toxic to even think like this but he’s stubborn and keeps thinking and talking about it. He’s currently an independent contractor and is having a hard time finding a job and finding clients, so he’s stressed about not bringing any income in. My brother and I are also stressed because we are overworked at our jobs and have been applying for new jobs for over a year and can’t get any. I haven’t had the best experience with my previous jobs because my bosses have been just awful in the past while I worked so hard and over 10 hours a day. My nana has been so lonely for so many years and finally has her friend who is now living close to her. After a month of her friend living with her, her friend fell and broke her hip. I feel so bad for both of them and I just feel like we all can’t win or catch a break. I feel like there’s more bad than good in this world and if there is a God, why would he make it so difficult for us to live in this world. It’s complete torture. I’m seriously so mad at God and why he/she would let this happen.

daughterofsk...

Date posted: 10w

Issues with my parents

Hey all this is my first post so i’m kind of nervous. I’d like to hear feedback from outside sources and people not directly in my life who might be biased. I am not sure if this is an OCD thing or maybe just an anxiety thing but I would love some advice. I am a night owl and the rest of my family is not. I’m an adult who still lives with my parents since i’m saving money to move out. Every night I stay up until around 12:30 in our living room to relax and wind down with a quiet house (like my own me-time) and then go to bed. My parent’s room is right off the living room and they close their door while I’m awake so they can sleep. They told me not to be up past midnight since their room gets “too stuffy” with the door closed. I haven’t been doing well with midnight but try my best to shut everything off by 12:30 at the latest. They got mad that I don’t listen and now say I am not allowed in the living room after they go to bed. So when they go to bed I have to confine myself to my bedroom. I like my routines and thinking about trying to wind down (by reading or crocheting) in my bed feels wrong because my bed is “for sleeping” only. I feel like I don’t have a comforting safe place to relax before bed now and when I have tried to explain that to them they don’t care and say i’m disrespecting them. I’m curious what you might think about the situation and would appreciate feedback, regardless if i’m in the wrong or not. It makes me wish I didn’t live here but I don’t really have anywhere else to go.

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