Hi, I've struggling with R-OCD for 6 months now. I love my beautiful boyfriend so much, but this constant anxiety in my stomach is so tiring, I also have mood disorder and dissociative syndrome. I would never break up with him, I just don't want to. But I'm slowly relapsing in sh and dark thoughts... Anyway please help me 🙏
I hate that you feel this way and hope that you learn to trust yourself in your role in the relationship. You're doing so amazing and you're gonna be ok. Acceptance of thoughts is key ❤️
Hey there, firstly I am so sorry you are going through this and that the r ocd has exacerbated other disorders and coping mechanisms, I’m sending so much love ❤️. I want to say you’re not alone, I have r ocd and in-fact I spoke to my sister today who also experiences it. Just talking to people who share these experiences always helps me so you reaching out is great. It’s tough but remember the reason it is so distressing is because it’s NOT what you want and is NOT something you’re going to let happen. So take stock of that, that shows you know what you want despite your mood disorders and dissociative syndromes. That shows great strength. Where sh is concerned it’s good you have noticed the correlation. What do you usually find helps when you have these flare ups and experiences?
Thank you for sending such love, honestly I don't know, I'm just so mentally tired of being anxious 24/7, most times I don't even know why, and then I have intrusive thoughts that give me tummy aches, I'm just so tired
@line_the_psycho You may be experiencing burnout from all of the stress associated with OCD and your other disorders as your cortisol will be very high causing such intense anxiety. My stomach is the first to go. When trying to force myself to rest in times like that I found my weighted blanket to be incredibly helpful
@Ahsouter96 I'm in exam season, I can't allow myself to...
@line_the_psycho I’m so sorry to hear that, is there any support you can get around this time to help relieve some of the exam stress?
@Ahsouter96 i don't know honestly I'm just so confused rn, all I can think of is getting high and hurting myself and I'm so scared and I feel so guilty and desperate
Are the suicidal thoughts OCD thoughts? Or are they real? Either way, this can be treated. But the treatment would look different depending on what it is
they're real I think...
@line_the_psycho Gotcha. Are you seeing a therapist right now ?
@Tea and Honey No, I only meet one on the 20th but I'm so scared, what if she tells me that I just lost feelings? I'm so scared
@line_the_psycho If you have a good therapist, this can be the best thing for you!! Don’t be scared—this a a great step forward!! Most people feel like a mess before they start therapy. This is because everything is so confusing. And no one knows how to handle all of the thoughts and symptoms. But therapy should help train you how to handle any symptoms that come your way—and then you can go about living the life that you want to live. But this can take time. So don’t get in the mindset of quick fixes. It took eight weeks for me to learn ERP, for example. Other things take much longer to learn. You also need a GOOD therapist. Some are better than others. Generally, if you don’t get a therapist who does ERP therapy specifically , you might not improve. But with the right therapist, you can make huge improvements!!! Once you can begin defining what the obsessions and the compulsions are and what to do with the dissociative feelings and everything else, you can start choosing to live way you want to live, despite the way you feel. Is your therapist trained in ERP therapy? Are you planning on going through ERP therapy?
@Tea and Honey Thank you so much for answering me, what is ERP? Do you also have R-OCD ? 🥹 Did it help and are you still with your partner ? I love mine so much but I'm so scared I swear
@line_the_psycho I actually don’t have ROCD, but struggle with a different kind. But it’s good news is that all forms of OCD are the actually same. And they are treated exactly the same way, with the same form of therapy. So it doesn’t matter what theme we struggle with—we are all going to get the same kind of treatment. I don’t know if you have heard of Stephen Smith? He is the founder of NOCD, and he wrote his story as the first post in this community section of the app. He played football in college, and his OCD got so bad he couldn’t play anymore, and was stuck inside his dorm room. He had tried other forms of therapy that didn’t work. When he started ERP therapy, he was able to get his life back. It was such an important discovery how effective ERP really is – that he founded NOCD on the basis that every person who struggled with OCD would have access to ERP therapy. That is why all the therapists in NOCD are trained in ERP therapy. ERP therapy might take a little while to explain. I recommend that you consider taking Nathan Peterson‘s online Master course on ERP. He will take you step-by-step through everything you need to know in order to apply ERP in your life. And you can do it all from home at your computer. I’ll link that below for you. ERP stands for exposure and response prevention. It has been shown to be effective in OCD, and I can verify it is from experience. In fact, I can’t recommend ERP highly enough. We can definitely talk more about it and I can explain all that I can also, if you want. https://www.ocd-anxiety.com/master-your-ocd
I’m having what I think is my first ROCD full episode. I’ve had doubting thoughts the entirety of my relationship. But in the last couple of days have been overwhelmed with and debilitated by anxiety and the feeling that I need to break up with my boyfriend. I don’t know if I have OCD officially but talking to therapists it seems that it is likely and I’m going to an OCD specialist next week to talk through my feelings but I feel completely helpless and hopeless at the moment and riddled with anxiety. I’m in a long distance relationship. I seem to have a waves throughout the day when I want to communicate with my boyfriend and tell him I love him etc. but the other 80% of my day is filled with anxiety and dread that I’m going to have to break up with him. I just want the anxiety to go away and to know if my thoughts are real thoughts or OCD thoughts. My biggest fear is that this isn’t an OCD episode and I do need to break up with him. I’m seeing him this weekend and I’m filled with dread about feeling disconnected and anxious and not in love.
for a few days now I’ve been super anxious about my relationship. I’ve been anxious about it before but lately it’s been worse than normal. I’m in a very healthy and loving relationship, I love my boyfriend so much and he treats me so so well. The only thing is that I’ve been having scary thoughts that what if I’m lying to him and don’t actually love him? What if I don’t find him attractive? And like what if the only way to stop being anxious is to break up with him? I don’t want to leave him and I am so scared. I feel like I’m lying to him by not telling him what’s going on because he might think I’m actually going to leave him, which I’m really not going to. I have had anxiety since before we started dating and incestual and sexual ocd, then I got into a point where I started having religious ocd, and now I have ROCD on top of that I think. I’ve never been diagnosed but I’m going to therapy and figuring things out but I’m so scared. Idk what to do and I feel like if I talk to anyone they’re going to say I have to leave him.
I wanted to talk about my experiences with rOCD since I currently do still suffer from it but I know if I talked about them. My thoughts are just gonna get stronger, but I’ll do it for the sake of talking about my experiences to others who feel like they’re alone. I have a very loving relationship actually my first healthy relationship we are currently still dating one year and six months. I would say these intrusive thoughts started to happen once I hit the one year mark with him. Nothing in the relationship has made me think these thoughts, but it just came. Like when my mind tried to make me think I liked another guy other than my boyfriend and that I was losing feelings for him. I started to panic because I knew that my heart belonged to my boyfriend and having thoughts that were against that belief it made me really anxious cause I never had those thoughts before. I was in and out of the care center at my school constantly having anxiety attacks, and it was affecting me day by day. I talk to my boyfriend about it because my mind can never keep secrets from him because then I would feel like that I’m lying to him… my mind just kinda works that way and I believe it’s due to the situation I have with rOCD. Luckily, he was really supportive.. in thoughts I’ve had was what if I don’t like him anymore or if he doesn’t do this does that mean he likes me or if he’s even the one just a lot of doubts about me and him in the relationship. And for anyone who’s experiencing stuff familiar to this you are not alone invalid only what you believe is what is true. And I know it’s gonna be hard to know what’s true or not because these thoughts that you have versus what’s in your heart you get confused but if you know that you love that person then that’s what true. Also, the only reason why it affected me a lot was because I kept trying to solve it and the only solution is to let those thoughts in and accept that you have those thoughts. I don’t mean as an accept that these thoughts are true, but accepts that those are the thoughts that you’re thinking because if you keep on trying to find a solution to remove them, it only just get worse.
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