is it apart of ocd basically where you rhink your like in love with every guy you meet? or you always like find yourself seeking validation from every guy? even dudes yk your not? like. idk ive always had this bad issue and i like chase the high feeling? is this apart of false attraction also or what?
Relationship OCD/Cheating OCD
@King silly so like chasing the high feeling is apart of ocd? and like once it looses the high feeling i get bored usually? thats part of ocd?
@ocdinglehopper I feel like it can be?
@King silly okay, because i also gained really bad false attraction ocd. and it just drives me insane☹️
Igy on this kinda distraction too, i have this with my friend because i haven't connected im getting ocd or that high feeling but not rush, then it says to run to my ex
@Anonymous like, i like the excitement and everything, and i seek validation, but the minute it gets serious i wanna leave? and like with the right person i’ll commit? but anyone else i just like the fun out of it?
@ocdinglehopper Yeh, n then i fake flirt then they like me, or the one i want ill keep but it's not the normal men the toxic then i ocd about someone normal and serious but i had one person i connected with n he done me wrong then iv met someone new my friend since he's said he liked me but we are not getting together my ocd shot up and brang my ex in 10x more, i had thoughts about my ex but said new opportunities easier if i liked them but no i understand you fully for me it was distraction but i unexpectedly connected i guess u think we need a high to connect but we don't thats just like the high from it to distract from ocd maybe?
I like the fun also, I think its common to want to pull away if they get serious i though i need to stop fake flirting or go into a alone era my brain said boys was my stress...
The false attraction is ocd tho i had this when i had rocd, and was in a relationship ocd said i liked people!
@Anonymous i have that super bad, because it started when i got a thought abt a guys arm in a relationship, and i overthought the thought so much, it became super big, and now i get uncomfortable thinking of this guy, and i literally avoid him and absolutely everything, but i found him attractive like 3 years ago? wrll sorta me and him messed around for fun thing like i stated. but do you know why false attraction makes me like had the idea i used to br attracted to them? and makes me wish i never was? and just drives me insane
@Anonymous and it went away, when i did my one boyfriend dirty, bevause i focused on the idea i like “cheated” but the false attraction stayed in my relationship before that, even when i was single, and still now. single. the idea bugs me, and like i despise the idea of him ever liking me, if i get my hair done im like “maybe he will like it” and then its like, i hate it?
@ocdinglehopper I felt bad in a relationship but my ocd still does it to me when single like I’m still with a ex it don’t make sense tho, but I did the same with my friend I had when my brain said I liked him when I didn’t
@Anonymous right! and it just upsets me so much, because like now im single?? i should nt feel terrible finding anyone attractive? but has it happened to you with someone you used to be attracted to forever ago? or like messed w/flirted w
@ocdinglehopper I feel like more rocd being single then together, like do you get thoughts about your ex still? OCD is so funky 🥲I feel ocd if I meet someone or text and brain says to heal your not alone girl
@Anonymous omg, i get intrusive thoughts so bad about the false attraction guy, and we literally wasnt anything serious, and my ex like stays in my mind, but i literally hate him and dont wanna get back with him but for some reason, i just go back and it just makes it worse and makes me disgusted??
@ocdinglehopper Literally I regret going back each time? So when we break up it’s better but then I run back and regret it we break up in a bad time and I run back but this time I wanna stay single and heal and not go back but my ocd like I need a valid reason, and I will be better with him I’m not staying single as the boys or anything I just purely want to stay single now he cheated and all sorts and when I leave my emotions take me back I understand and then I have a boy mate also but no connection but I don’t want to be with him but my brain like u need connection or your not going back because of him so yeh totally same situation I do want to stay single tho
@Anonymous literally! and the same ex is was whk i was with when i got false attraction with the other guy! and like my mind tells me “since you arent getting the anxiety nm that means you want him.” or something like that like ew no i dont. also, does false attraction happen with people you are attracted to? or not? im so confused
@ocdinglehopper It’s false it’s the once you don’t like
@Anonymous but why does it happen to someone i used to be attracted to forever ago?😞😞 or dudes ive spoke too thats what confuses me
I connected with a boy and it’s like it’s okay if u want him but not my friend who I meet and see? But we are just mates that makes me run to my ex like tf and I don’t want him he’s been worst since single like give us peace to be single😂
Do u use any other social media platform I can probably explain better like fb?
@Anonymous do you have instagram?
it could be but i also feel like this is just bc of misogyny like feeling like you have to get male validation from people you don’t even like, which could definitely be made worse by OCD
Can anyone give their experience on FALSE ATTRACTION? At this moment, mine has become worse. Soon as I see a male my anxiety shoots up, I can feel this in my chest and my OCD is telling me I’m attracted. But I continue to look back or stare and the disgust comes over me and my body shakes and I feel my face screw up. I can’t listen to music I use too or watch movies which was a favourite thing of mine to do. I just feel disgusted and not who I am when it happens. It’s like a different me. P.S. I had a very good week few days ago where I knew this wasn’t me and these feelings/ thoughts isn’t me.
When first triggered it was every male possible. I couldn’t even go shopping… it was all ages of male, all sizes, and the groinal response was non stop. Like always a feeling there. Then it calmed down but male voices… I couldn’t listen to the music I use to enjoy or movies I’ve always been interested in. Then it kinda dyed down to people who are good looking but I’ve never in my life been attracted to males and beards. I couldn’t even always say they are good looking but never had this fear, the head ache constantly pounding feelings before. Now it’s still good looking males but I’m noticing body shape now? What is this!? Soon as I see a male figure my body feeling like it goes into shock, preparing for the anxiety feeling of ‘false’ attraction. It makes me sweat, and nauseous. Is this OCD or after 32 years of loving woman now gone? I don’t really have attraction towards woman (brief moments but not how I use to be) and this makes me so depressed. I don’t want to live like this. The only thing stoping me is my children and wife.
So how would I know if it’s truly ocd or not? Like by accepting uncertainty, will I eventually realize if it was false or true attraction and if it was actually ocd or not? For example I was out today, right after my therapy appointment, I saw a kid that looked exactly like this girl my age that I was into. I felt a sense of attraction and I immediately went into the restroom to hide or smth I don’t remember, but when I came out I think I avoided looking at the kid. Idk if it was false attraction or not, I hope it was but I’m not sure. I can’t really tell. FYI I was never formally diagnosed with pocd before, but my therapist said that I have it but I still don’t believe it. I still feel like it’s not pocd because of the attraction feelings, I can’t tell if I like the feelings or not. I don’t feel any of panic, worry, distress, guilt or shame after any of those feelings. I did start crying when I got home tho idk why or what for, but I went to take a nap for a while and when I woke up it kind of became clearer if it was real or false attraction, but it’s still really unclear, I don’t get why I would feel that way towards a literal child, is it bc she looked like this girl my age that I was into? I hope it was false attraction, still can’t tell.
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