with false attraction, and intrusive thoughts, does the persons name pop up all the time? like. in sentences and everything? and then when you see them you like want to avoid them, and notice every little detail if they are near, or think they are? like. mine does that and it drives me insane.
Yes, false attraction is vile and you can become hyperaware of everything which can make the false attraction even stronger and more vile.
@realjordie also why when im havjng false attraction towards a guy now, but thought he was attractive in thr past? do i get digusted and wish i never thought of him like that in anyway? and wish i never spoke to him and completely regret it? like, i regret ever finding him good looking. or even speaking to him, i just always thought he had good armsš.
@ocdinglehopper Maybe you were never attracted to him in the first place. Maybe it was false attraction in the past but you were confused.
@realjordie i mean, in the past i stayed bc he gassed me up, and id always homewreck his relationships, but bever take him seriously. and id flirt w him? and everything. but if he wanted anything more id get digusted and i always felt wrong or anxious talking to him, usually besides jn the start, and then it just got super bad bc girls were always mad, and he mainly just icked me out with what heād say?
@ocdinglehopper Hmmm, your story is a confusing one because we canāt go back into the past. I would say that you probably do not like him that much and you should probably move on from him completely.
@realjordie ommg no!! that was forever ago! me and him just talked, me and him havent spoke in 3 years and then i randomly got false attraction over him, like could it have been false attraction in the past?
@ocdinglehopper I think there is definitely some confusion involved and maybe false attraction.
@realjordie i mean now, there is no attraction, nothing, like i genuinely hate this guy and think hes hideous. but he has an attractive feature, his arms. but what do u mean confusion?
@realjordie like rn, i know its 110% false attraction. because of the thoughts and everything, but the past no idea
@ocdinglehopper Confusion meaning you are thinking so much about him that you believe that you like him when you actually just like his arms thatās it
@realjordie oh, so you think in the past, well not now, bc now ik its false attraction, but that i took a little attraction i had to his arms, and made myself interested in him? simply bc of that?
@ocdinglehopper Yes
@realjordie oh, so like a little attraction can turn into that whole situation i explained? like me homewrecking, and everything and just messing with him for the chase and thrill??
@realjordie like simply because of that?
@ocdinglehopper I donāt think false attraction can create home wrecking
@realjordie i did the homewrecking because i enjoyed the chase, and the secretness of doing it? like can false attraction cause that?
@realjordie here let me explain it better, i homewreckrd him alot, because j wasnt ever shown alot of male validation at the time, and he was super easy, so i kept homewrecking; and everything. i was just like pure evil to him
hey, so iāve had these insane thoughts about like, this dude. and i assumed itās intrusive feelings, but it also has happened w the fact o think i like girls? but i donāt? like, i get the gronal response, and everything, and like, it sometimes feels like i actually like them, but it always makes me sick? same way w the false attraction guy, and it even started happening w my bsf of like 9 years? and itāll tell me the most insane things like āmaybe u are attractedā āmaybe if u got w them the thoughts will stopā someone please help.
do u get a fear that after the intrusive feelings (false attraction) that you will Get romantic feelings after this all ends? because i do. especially bc i was hyperfixated on the guy in the past
False attraction has been killing me ive had it for months with the same person. I have a boyfriend so having false attraction makes me feel so guilty. And lately theyve felt so real and ive been so anxious. What if I do like him bla bla. Ive only ever saw him as a brother and we have a good connection and he is one of my good friends but even sometimes when im having a conversation I feel like im cheating. Sometimes I get excited like oh yay he is gonna be here and then I get scared that itās romantical because I get excited when he is around because he is a funny. Im so scared thats its real attraction because I love my boyfriend I would never do such a thing. And lately my minds done stuff like oh grab his attention stuff like that and it feels like I have done those actions but I dont want to. Sometimes when he is like idk sitting near Im like oh is he looking and my minds like oh do something to empress him bla bla. Recently he was going thought stuff and my boyfriend was there and I was I can give him a hug because I think he needs it but after I thought of it as bad because he is a guy and I had this false attraction what if I did it because I like him bla bla. I am freaking out idk why my mind makes me do compulsions that I have acted on like oh go talk to him and I do its weird urges that I do not want to do. I am scared that it will come true
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