with false attraction, and intrusive thoughts, does the persons name pop up all the time? like. in sentences and everything? and then when you see them you like want to avoid them, and notice every little detail if they are near, or think they are? like. mine does that and it drives me insane.
Yes, false attraction is vile and you can become hyperaware of everything which can make the false attraction even stronger and more vile.
@realjordie also why when im havjng false attraction towards a guy now, but thought he was attractive in thr past? do i get digusted and wish i never thought of him like that in anyway? and wish i never spoke to him and completely regret it? like, i regret ever finding him good looking. or even speaking to him, i just always thought he had good armsš.
@ocdinglehopper Maybe you were never attracted to him in the first place. Maybe it was false attraction in the past but you were confused.
@realjordie i mean, in the past i stayed bc he gassed me up, and id always homewreck his relationships, but bever take him seriously. and id flirt w him? and everything. but if he wanted anything more id get digusted and i always felt wrong or anxious talking to him, usually besides jn the start, and then it just got super bad bc girls were always mad, and he mainly just icked me out with what heād say?
@ocdinglehopper Hmmm, your story is a confusing one because we canāt go back into the past. I would say that you probably do not like him that much and you should probably move on from him completely.
@realjordie ommg no!! that was forever ago! me and him just talked, me and him havent spoke in 3 years and then i randomly got false attraction over him, like could it have been false attraction in the past?
@ocdinglehopper I think there is definitely some confusion involved and maybe false attraction.
@realjordie i mean now, there is no attraction, nothing, like i genuinely hate this guy and think hes hideous. but he has an attractive feature, his arms. but what do u mean confusion?
@realjordie like rn, i know its 110% false attraction. because of the thoughts and everything, but the past no idea
@ocdinglehopper Confusion meaning you are thinking so much about him that you believe that you like him when you actually just like his arms thatās it
@realjordie oh, so you think in the past, well not now, bc now ik its false attraction, but that i took a little attraction i had to his arms, and made myself interested in him? simply bc of that?
@ocdinglehopper Yes
@realjordie oh, so like a little attraction can turn into that whole situation i explained? like me homewrecking, and everything and just messing with him for the chase and thrill??
@realjordie like simply because of that?
@ocdinglehopper I donāt think false attraction can create home wrecking
@realjordie i did the homewrecking because i enjoyed the chase, and the secretness of doing it? like can false attraction cause that?
@realjordie here let me explain it better, i homewreckrd him alot, because j wasnt ever shown alot of male validation at the time, and he was super easy, so i kept homewrecking; and everything. i was just like pure evil to him
so, my intrusive feelings started over a thought about a guys arms being attractive, and i still think big arks are attractive, but i hate his face? and his personality, so would it still be false attraction? if i like his body but not his face or personality because i have every single false attraction sign, but i just like his arms/body. someone please lmk!!
Just curious, how does the false attraction feel to you? I believe people say they are different. Iām not reassuring, just interested in other peoples experiences. Mine feels like my chest is crushed with anxiety, when I notice a good looking male, it feels like Iāve just missed being hit in the car (that fear sensation). I feel sick after the thoughts. I also feel my face screw up which may be a compulsion which Iām trying to stop.
okay, so when i first started getting involved with guys, i wasnt really the nicest person when it came down to it and so, i started talking to this guy. His name in this is gonna be James well I liked this guy, and yk I was just there, I didnāt really like relationships or anything. Wasnāt big on them whatever. Well his friend Jeremy starts taking an interest into me. So Iām like why not? And go for it. And when I did he wasnāt my type at all. I wasnāt attracted to him, like maybe at the time I like had to convince myself he was attractive. And you know, he wanted to get together, this was my first sense of a relationship at all. But I didnāt fantasize about being with him or anything and like hardly thought about him also But we wasnāt together? Just talking. And heād like talk to other girls. And just everything like that whatever. Well he got with this girl named Mallory and I like was upset. And so I homewrecked it. But when I did I was glad the attention was back? But he asked for a relationship I didnāt want it. And I homewrecked a few more times, and well then. Me and this girl became friends. I forgot about this guy for like months. And then randomly one time I was at his cousins house for an event. And he was there with a different girl. And I was just hanging out with him? I wanted him to find me attractive and what not. But I didnāt want romantically involved with him? well, then we go out of contact for a year, I meet other guys, donāt think about this dude at all. Whatever I get in a relationship with a guy and then break up, and i talked to this guy who slightly looked like jeremy and my sister brought it up. but i only talked to the guy because i wasnāt supposed to? so it made me want to more. and i thought about jeremy once, not missing him or anything still not thinking about Jeremy then I get with my current boyfriend, who Iāve been in love with for two years now? Been together 5 and our past was really horrible a lot of girls and what not guys too? But then. We get together whatever, I love it. I was always worried about other girls, if Iām in love, if this is what I want?, and everything like that, and then it was like everything I did? Iād tell him, talking to a guy, getting intrusive thoughts about them whatever. Then I get an intrusive thought about Jeremy. and it was like horrible. something about his arms? And itās like my boyfriend told his friends. And his girlfriend found out. the same one I homewrecked my bestfriend, and then it was horrible like the past coming back, and I hated it and I avoid seeing this dude, talking to him, Iād look at him just to see if Iād get the anxiety in my stomach like I couldnāt look at pictures videos or in person without getting sick but Iād feel the need to look? For the feeling of anxiety and the sickening feeling, and Iād tell my boyfriend everytime I looked at him or anything it was horrible, well then it gets horrible, intrusive thoughts about leaving my boyfriend, or comparing him to my boyfriend, or wondering things, or that itās feelings, and Iād just drive me crazy, like i wont get phone cases, he had or looked similar, emojiās he used. or anything like that i wont wear his favorite color absolutely nothing. like crying on my boyfriends chest over it. And we broke up over it. The thoughts went away for the couple of hours, I didnāt think of them or anything but as soon as me and him broke up I looked at a pic of Jeremy to see how I felt then I didnāt think of anything else I just wanted to be back with my boyfriend, now we are back together and itās still happening and the guys name just pops up if Iām like āI love my boyfriendā his name pops up. Or randomly out throught the day, I forgot about it for a little then Iām fine but I went to a therapist and she said intrusive thoughts and ocd and another said that plus anxiety but I need help. I need answers or what other people think. Iāve looked into everything Iāve puked and made myself sick over it so much itās been a little over a month now. itās died down after he got a buzz, and school let out. But idk what it is. and my mind constantly wants to figure out the past? and tell me that if i unblock him it will get better? idk. i think in the past it was a false crush?? or something. or i just enjoyed the validation and attention from him.. but when he called me nicknames id be like āomg!!ā and freak out? like i cant rmb in a good or bad way. i didnt remember it until my friend mentioned it. please help me.
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