when you dont get anxiety from false attraction thoughts, does it feel super real to you guys? like you want that? and if you do get the anxiety sometimes, does it tell you that your only bugged by it because your not with the person? even tho you dont wanna be with them??
I am not sure I know much about false attraction, but I understand what you are describing. My therapist once told me that feeling attraction toward other people, even when you are in a relationship, is completely normal—especially when you are young. Wanting to come across as smart, beautiful, or pleasant to others is okay. It is natural. While some people do not care as much, others of us do. Personally, I like to label what I believe are intrusive thoughts about other guys as unwanted thoughts because they don’t feel as heavy as other OCD thoughts, and I think I would feel much happier and calmer if I only had thoughts about my boyfriend. I am also very open with my boyfriend—maybe a bit too much at times. However, the thought of other guys or the happiness I sometimes feel when I sense that people like me makes me feel gross now. I am pretty sure that is just the OCD talking. You are okay. You are simply stuck in a loop of not trusting yourself and feeling like a cheater. But you are not a cheater unless you cheat. OCD has a way of making us feel that way almost by default.
@issphra 🫶🏻 it happened when i was in a relationship, and now when im single i still get the thoughts, except ive never acted on hitting this dude up, and the idea of it makes my skin crawl? but my mind tells me that its because i wont get with him? but i dont think thats it at all.
@ocdinglehopper I think I know what you mean. Is it possible that your mind has hyper focused/is obsessing over someone you might find interesting but it doesn’t really go past that? My therapist also mentioned that finding someone interesting and thinking of them repeatedly is normal. It doesn’t have to mean more than just thoughts even if it feels like it might be more. It’s all so confusing, trust me I completely understand
@issphra 🫶🏻 me and him used to talk forever ago, but i literally woildnt take it further, and that was 3 yrs ago, and it started over his arm. bc i like big arms, but and thr excitment and thrill i got from homewrecking etc, but other than that. i hate his personality hes so icky, and his face
@issphra 🫶🏻 like the thougts ick me out so bad, and tell me im attracted to him n everytbing
and like, before this false attraction, maybe its ocd. but i have this very bad habit of seeking male validation. and id like snap this guy off my friends phone, but id tell my boyfriend absolutely everything to do with it, because i felt so guilty? but i enjoyed the attention, and the idea of me even thinking about doing it now makes me so sick and gross feeling. and then its like my mind always told me i needed to impress him, or get near him, and even with other guys, but i got an intrusive thoughta about his arms, and it just caused so much drama, and i overthought it sm.
False attraction has been killing me ive had it for months with the same person. I have a boyfriend so having false attraction makes me feel so guilty. And lately theyve felt so real and ive been so anxious. What if I do like him bla bla. Ive only ever saw him as a brother and we have a good connection and he is one of my good friends but even sometimes when im having a conversation I feel like im cheating. Sometimes I get excited like oh yay he is gonna be here and then I get scared that it’s romantical because I get excited when he is around because he is a funny. Im so scared thats its real attraction because I love my boyfriend I would never do such a thing. And lately my minds done stuff like oh grab his attention stuff like that and it feels like I have done those actions but I dont want to. Sometimes when he is like idk sitting near Im like oh is he looking and my minds like oh do something to empress him bla bla. Recently he was going thought stuff and my boyfriend was there and I was I can give him a hug because I think he needs it but after I thought of it as bad because he is a guy and I had this false attraction what if I did it because I like him bla bla. I am freaking out idk why my mind makes me do compulsions that I have acted on like oh go talk to him and I do its weird urges that I do not want to do. I am scared that it will come true
Can anyone give their experience on FALSE ATTRACTION? At this moment, mine has become worse. Soon as I see a male my anxiety shoots up, I can feel this in my chest and my OCD is telling me I’m attracted. But I continue to look back or stare and the disgust comes over me and my body shakes and I feel my face screw up. I can’t listen to music I use too or watch movies which was a favourite thing of mine to do. I just feel disgusted and not who I am when it happens. It’s like a different me. P.S. I had a very good week few days ago where I knew this wasn’t me and these feelings/ thoughts isn’t me.
actual attrcation. i’ve decided im gonna just let the false attraction happen, not try to stop it or question it. is it wrong for this erp to juts when i watch a video and get a false attraction just experience the false feelings and scroll? because i feel like the longer i sit with it the longer i begin to question whether its real or not.
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