false attraction

does anyone elses false attraction go away like, the anxiety of it? and become comfort? but then the thoughts still give you the ick sometimes later? like mine will give me comfort and make me think its going away but then i still get sick seeing him?? anyone else like because i think its going away, and everything but the idea of finding him attractive drives me insane, because hes genuinely hideous. and it started over his arms? and we talked forever ago, and i just liked the attention he gave. i dont even think i had feelings, we just talked off and on for 4 months spreaded out, and so toxic, maybe it was false attraction then? idk. but ive had this thing where one little attractive trait will make me think i want the person. and everything. its so bad someone please help

megfamilyguy

Date posted: 32w

Hello sister, I can see that you’ve been asking this same question or variations of it quite a few times. I want to let you know that I understand how you feel and how scared you must feel, but also that this is most likely reassurance-seeking. OCD will convince you of any and everything, so don’t put any thought or idea past it. I can tell this is causing you a lot of anguish, but I promise it is safe to not find an answer to this question. I’ll leave you with this though, attraction is typically something that makes you happy to think about, and I don’t think this is bringing you any joy.

ocdinglehopper

Date posted: 32w

@megfamilyguy its not, it drives me insane. and i overthink absolutely every thought. ☹️

ocdinglehopper

Date posted: 32w

@megfamilyguy and i have no idea what to do, i need help in relationshipships, because i have really bad confessing. and idk if i tell my partners or not, bc then i think it just gets worse?

ocdinglehopper

Date posted: 32w

@megfamilyguy and, does false attraction happen to people you are attracted to? or arent?? because i used to have attraction to him forever ago, like 3 years ago. but idek whaf jt was then. arms have just always been a big thing for me. pls lmk

Darkacademician

Date posted: 32w

@ocdinglehopper - Hey there- this comes from someone who is currently facing so-ocd too. I hope you don't try to find answers. It's not very healthy to feed the ocd, you are going to hate me for this. But don't try to connect your past behaviour with your current ocd. First of all you did not have ocd then, second ocd is not to be trusted. Whenever you ruminate or try to give it answers, you are feeding a monster which might godforbid never leave you. So you have to attack it back by feeling the anxiety and uncertainty by not asking questions to anyone, not the forum and not even to yourself. I hope you start recognizing this urge to find answers as OCD because it is. It's a fake urge to find absolute certainty about what something in the past meant. Don't give in. I hope you get through this cheers!

megfamilyguy

Date posted: 32w

@ocdinglehopper I believe you mentioned that he’s now dating your best friend, right? That might be why this has been so stressful for you because I’m sure you feel a loyalty to her too. Just take a moment to ask yourself if you were experiencing any of this distress with the first attraction. Probably not, right? You have to take small steps to not engaging in reassurance, confessing, analyzing, etc. You have to be okay without trying to solve this problem, but it will take time.

ocdinglehopper

Date posted: 32w

@Darkacademician thank you so much! but so even with not bringing it up, no matter how guilty i feel, i shouldnt tell anyone or my partners? or that will feed in?

ocdinglehopper

Date posted: 32w

@Darkacademician can i know rhis atleast

megfamilyguy

Date posted: 32w

@ocdinglehopper If you’re doing it with the intent to solve, or relieve your anxiety, you should not ask for reassurance or confess.

ocdinglehopper

Date posted: 32w

@megfamilyguy its like, i feel guilty if i dont tell them, and it gets the weight off my chest? and then i think everytime it just makes things worse.. but confessing is also a really bad thing of mine, it has been since i was a little kid

ocdinglehopper

Date posted: 32w

@megfamilyguy and like, its my mind telling me im lying to them or something like that

Googlyeyes34

Date posted: 23w

False attraction

False attraction has been killing me ive had it for months with the same person. I have a boyfriend so having false attraction makes me feel so guilty. And lately theyve felt so real and ive been so anxious. What if I do like him bla bla. Ive only ever saw him as a brother and we have a good connection and he is one of my good friends but even sometimes when im having a conversation I feel like im cheating. Sometimes I get excited like oh yay he is gonna be here and then I get scared that it’s romantical because I get excited when he is around because he is a funny. Im so scared thats its real attraction because I love my boyfriend I would never do such a thing. And lately my minds done stuff like oh grab his attention stuff like that and it feels like I have done those actions but I dont want to. Sometimes when he is like idk sitting near Im like oh is he looking and my minds like oh do something to empress him bla bla. Recently he was going thought stuff and my boyfriend was there and I was I can give him a hug because I think he needs it but after I thought of it as bad because he is a guy and I had this false attraction what if I did it because I like him bla bla. I am freaking out idk why my mind makes me do compulsions that I have acted on like oh go talk to him and I do its weird urges that I do not want to do. I am scared that it will come true

What is happ...

Date posted: 17w

YOUR EXPERIENCE IN FALSE ATTRACTION

Can anyone give their experience on FALSE ATTRACTION? At this moment, mine has become worse. Soon as I see a male my anxiety shoots up, I can feel this in my chest and my OCD is telling me I’m attracted. But I continue to look back or stare and the disgust comes over me and my body shakes and I feel my face screw up. I can’t listen to music I use too or watch movies which was a favourite thing of mine to do. I just feel disgusted and not who I am when it happens. It’s like a different me. P.S. I had a very good week few days ago where I knew this wasn’t me and these feelings/ thoughts isn’t me.

Sexual Orientation OCD

ocdinglehopper

Date posted: 15w

false attraction/impulsibe feelimg

so, my intrusive feelings started over a thought about a guys arms being attractive, and i still think big arks are attractive, but i hate his face? and his personality, so would it still be false attraction? if i like his body but not his face or personality because i have every single false attraction sign, but i just like his arms/body. someone please lmk!!

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