Thanks for your thoughtful answer, i really appreciated your insight.
You're overall right, but I can't adopt this mindset, I really can't.
For the first question, it depends, because my moral scrupolosity is connected to pocd, aside for some contexts, certain mistakes are not tolerable and you should be accountable for life, especially me because i cannot tolerate those things. So my untolerance in regards to moral scrupolosity is focused on that theme.
I'm just surviving because of the hope that it is ocd or that i'm overestimating things that happened or remembering wrongly, or that it was not my fault depending on certain circumstances.
It's the uncertainty that's keeping me alive.
I pray that all those triggering episodes that happened to me were influenced by ocd and not me because I cannot tolerate the fact that I could felt attraction.
I don't consider myself a good person.
I don't think I deserve to be loved or to have a partner because of the stains I have after ocd and before in my past, real event ocd, when I was a kid and i was immature and there are things that i thought that currently disturb me and I cannot rationalise, and im still trying to compulsively "solve".
I do have excessive moral scrupolosity to the point that my friends make fun of me, they poke fun of me having big morals.
Like recently i stayed outside of a strip club while my friends entered because I didnt like the idea of women being exploited in that field of work, and I was made fun of.
For what happened to you, I'm very sorry, I can't judge you at all for something like that, no one does, you had all the right in the world and you were so young, and you choose to not be consumed by the anger.
I think that person that tried to do that to you would have deserved to die. Also for some reason I don't like bad people regretting their actions because it humanises them. Certain actions like that are not mistakes, they are voluntary actions that they partake in, and are unforgivable.
My point of the post was also that I love my mother and i consider her pure, she's very kind and empathetic and a good soul. I'm afraid of the doubt, I'm afraid that this intrusive doubt that is very probably false not real is going to make me see her differently and I don't want that.
"But what if is true, it could be".
That's what bothers me, I cannot tolerate it, and I'd hate it.
I also would hate that I'm accusing a pure and guiltless person of something based on no evidence and only due the fear of my ocd.
I love my mother, ocd is trying to ruin her. but im also scared because of the chance that it could randomly be true all along.
i don't know what to do.