Last night I was staying at my boyfriend’s house and couldn’t sleep. I felt like i desperately needed to go back to my parents and clean and organize my room. This has happened a few times before when I was staying at his place. Since then he’s been very upset with me. Does anyone else’s partner do this? Any advice? It’s been hard. He’s made me feel so shameful for having OCD. As if it’s not tough enough /:
If he’s doing this then he is not the one for you. You have no reason to be ashamed, you’re dealing with a serious disorder that is not your fault. You are deserving of a loving and supportive partner and from what I gathered here he isn’t. Save yourself and run.
@AnonCat227 Thank you much! I agree.
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@AnonCat227 i’m so glad people are saying this cause honestly it’s a lot of people that actually they do care about people in our loving you’ll find one of those people he’s really not worth the time. I feel like you could just honestly dump him. It’s not easy but to me people likeshow that they don’t care.
@korey Mitchell I’m really passionate about helping people break away from unsupportive people. No one deserves to have to deal with not only struggling mental health and toxic people.
Try to have a conversation about it. Pull up the Nocd site with examples of OCD and try and explain your side. Sometimes people just don't understand certain behaviors.
Yeah. Of course, put yourself first. Sometimes it takes a break to realize you are in a bad spot with someone. Take some time to focus on yourself and if your partner can’t except that than it’s his loss.
I haven’t had a deal with this, but I have had to deal with family members like this and why do people get with people knowing they have certain things and then get mad at them when they have those certain things honestly beats me put yourself first and maybe talk to
@korey Mitchell Honestly, tell you what to do with your relationship, but people like personally don’t deserve to be in your life and I don’t care enough to be understanding personally for me. I will take those people out of my life.
If he knows you have ocd, it won't be because of you. It's just an expectation he had not being met and that's frustrating for everyone. If he let's go of the attatchment of expectations, this would be healthier for him. Equally, you had a chance to do erp with this. I'm being brutally honest here and saying both are you are responsible for what you can do, and both things are tough. Erp has lots of educational info on it and resources, letting go of expectations is something I find harder to find info for and we are raised in a generation that is almost built on them (which is insane to me). So give both yourselves a break or out the work in. You can't control how he reacts but you can change how you do. Stay strong
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OK, I do agree with the people that are saying that you have to put in the work into make your OCD better and better yourself and that yes I also do believe that people have expectations but why with someone knowing they have something and not doing the research yourself or being understanding it is so frustrating and I’m not saying it’s not stressful for everyone when you’re nerd divergent or you know or more pacifically have OCD but straight up just being irritated by the symptoms of OCD is weird. Why would you get with someone and not do your research or being understanding?
And I don’t hate your partner I have nothing against him, but it seems like OCD is a big part of your life and something that you’re really struggling with and if you’re working through it, that’s when someone should be their most understanding and put their damn ego aside.
Do not allow him or anyone else to make you feel ashamed. It is about chemicals in your brain. Press forward, be strong because you are!!!!!!! Your boyfriend should read about OCD and learn how it affects a person. If he’s not willing to do so, move on!!!
Can anyone share advice on how you differentiate between actual relationship issues and ocd issues? And also how to stay connected with your partner during a hard time? I get really frustrated with my partner (disclaimer: he’s a great guy and his heart is in the right place) but he’s not aching the way I want him to (I recognize how that sounds haha) one of the things is that he doesn’t show much expression or excitement when talking to me so it’s really hard for me to feel loved through that. I’ve expressed that time and time again (which could be a compulsion) and when he tries to improve it just feels disingenuous, furthering my frustration. It could just be that nothing feels good enough for me, or that I’m just fed up but then idk if I should make myself hang out with him as an exposure, or just be alone. I fear that I’m not going to get my point across efficiently, or that it’s just the way he is and it’s something I’ll have to put up with. When do I decide to take action and when do I sit back and deal with it as ocd?because for me it feels like there’s no way of knowing! i don’t want to sacrifice my needs but I try to resist a lot of what I’m thinking due to the possibility of it being a compulsion. On the other hand however, I could just be silencing myself and in turn being quiet and he is ok with that but I like a lot of communication as it makes me feel connected. This could be a real issue that persists, or it could be an ocd spiral…idk and I hate that because I just don’t know how to move based off that info so Im open to any advice!
i’m having really bad relationship anxiety & OCD idk how to get past it :( it ruins my mood & affects the way i view my partner. i want to cry
hey, my boyfriend recently came to me and opened up to me about him thinking he has ROCD. i am trying my absolute hardest to understand it all, and came to the realization that i might have it too. we have been dating for almost 2 years now and we’ve been on such a good streak lately if that’s what you want to call it. the bad times aren’t truthfully bad at all. but i get so anxious when he goes out to the bars without me every weekend. and then he gets anxious because of how i respond too it. so basically im just asking for some tips i guess, because i truthfully do think he is the one and could spend the rest of my life with him. but there has got to be an easy way to get past this.
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