Pocd intrusive associations during s3x :( HELP

@girlwhoyearnstofeel11 Really?!! How do you handle? I been praying for help. Any advice

@Anonynmous19 Im sorry, i dont have any..

@girlwhoyearnstofeel11 How do you cope?

@Anonynmous19 It helps to know someone struggles with the same. Hope youll be ok

@Anonynmous19 Tbh, i don’t. I just suffer through it. Thats why I’m also hoping one day to get some good advice!

@girlwhoyearnstofeel11 Maybe this article can help?! Its like we recognize its ocd and we knownthe symtpoms of guilt distress and anxirty disproves the ocd thougjts we know its unwanted yet ocd makes me us till suffer

@girlwhoyearnstofeel11 Its veen distracting me from work lately. See the article for tips https://www.treatmyocd.com/what-is-ocd/info/related-symptoms-conditions/intrusive-thoughts-during-sex-is-it-ocd

@TexasOCD41 Thank you very much!! This was so relieving and helpful. I dont even think the daughters attractive not to sound mean but just saying yet ocd says since i find the pornstars attractive and she looks like my neighbors whose an adult and i think theyre both pretty than ocd says what if i think the daughters pretty since im arousing over the pstar and if in arousing over my friend than and i had the intrusive thought of the kid than what if means i was arousing or fantasizing over the kid but thats ego dystonic and not who i am and i dont even think the kids pretty and its tormenting me and distracting me from work and life. Plz help!

@TexasOCD41 Thank you again

@Anonynmous19 Plus neutralizing shows i dont want these thoughts of the kid. I got anxiety because i csrried on as im supposed to and its uncomfortable. It makes me distressed and torments me so i know im not a pedo and its unwanted or i wouldnt be on hear worrying a ton

@Anonynmous19 Especially since that wasnt my intent my intent was just to look at fit women. That literally what i searched than the intrusive associations came after and there were mant otjwrs only this prticular one bothered me because instead of neutralizing it as a compulsion i didnt change the video or avoid it which is what my therapist said which explains the anxiety

@Anonynmous19 You’re over explaining and trying to neutralize again. Take a breath

@TexasOCD41 Thank you. Im really struggling. I made my own erp. I looked at the pornstar and said shes pretty. I went separately and looked at my friends picture and said shes pretty. I looked at her kids picture and told ocd “im disproving you. Im not aroused. Not attracted. Theres no association. Its ocd. I guess whenevwe rhe ocd tries ro attack me i gott do erp And i had the thougjt im not attracted to the kid. I was still anxious to look at the kid and i get anxious around all kids even my own because of pocd. I am disproving the ocd and challenging it at face value and i know its classic ocd and thought number one million. Ive had these same intrusive ideations for years yet everytime ocd tries to make the next one harder than the last even tho ive been through this hundreds of times

@Anonynmous19 - wellllll you actually should not be trying to disprove your OCD. that is arguing with it, and it compulsive, you actually need to agree with your OCD, so a better ERP would be " this porn start is pretty, so is my friend and her daughter, but none of that is important, I'm not going to pay it anymore direct attention" and just move forward. Trying to disprove OCD is a compulsion, this might be way it keeps persisting, you are not actually treating it, you are just using a covert compulsion to get rid of each individual thought rather than applying the tool or ERP to the entire situation which is not about the thoughts, it about the compulsions. OCD will never go away until you stop the compulsions.

@TexasOCD41 Thank you for explaining!!

@TexasOCD41 Sucks because moments like this i dont feel worthy of my family

@Anonynmous19 - OCD does that, it makes us feel guilt and shame where it doesn't belong. When i had ROCD/False Memory OCD/Real Event OCD i felt i didn't deserve my husband. Its just another lie OCD adds to the pile of bs.

@TexasOCD41 Thank you for the advice

@0CDeez Im sorry hang in there

@0CDeez Literally the sane thing? If you dont mind sharing?

@Anonynmous19 Intrusive thought during cl1max to something totally unrelated. It was right at the peak point and I hated it. It's super distressing and I can't wrap my head around it. It wasn't even a like "damn I'm into this" and it feels like I had the wind knocked outta me.

@Anonynmous19 Chrissie Hodges on YouTube seems to have some good resources. I hope ur feeling better man

@0CDeez Thats the worst ive had that too

@0CDeez Thank you i follow her any videos u recommend? I know its ocd just hard to kick it out of my head

@Anonynmous19 I'd scroll through her channel, see what u find. For pure ocd, they all hit pretty close to home. You've got this

@0CDeez Sucks because moments like this i dont feel worthy of my family

@Anonynmous19 You are. It's a part of OCD. Don't forget that.