Lillo2000
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Struggling
I’m struggling really bad with ROCD lately like having the urge to confess and having extreme guilt. Does anyone have any tips please I feel like my life is falling apart
issphra 🫶🏻issphra 🫶🏻
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It’s really tough, but try your best not to confess. However, if you feel like you absolutely need to, keep it as vague as possible. I only suggest this because it’s important for those in your life to know a little bit about what’s going on, if you choose to share. For example: ‘I’m struggling with a lot of intrusive thoughts from OCD. They cause me a lot of anguish and doubt. It’s best if I don’t go into specifics because it makes things worse, and even though they distress me, they’re ego-dystonic thoughts. This can apply to anything that feels important to me.’ My therapist used the analogy of someone asking you how you made your lasagna because it tastes so good. You wouldn’t give them exact measurements or list every ingredient and step; you’d just say it’s your grandmother’s recipe and maybe mention something like she uses chicken broth, but you wouldn’t go too deep into it. You don’t have to share every detail, basically, if that makes sense.
Lillo2000Lillo2000
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- 44w
@issphra 🫶🏻 Yes it does make sense but I want to confess things like how I had a crush on a guy I worked with in the beginning of our relationship. I would never cheat on my bf so the fact that I had a crush gives me extreme guilt and I feel like I need to tell him everything
issphra 🫶🏻issphra 🫶🏻
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@Lillo2000 I completely understand how you’re feeling, and the guilt is such a heavy burden to carry. I’ve been through something similar, and it can feel so overwhelming. My boyfriend tends to get irrationally jealous sometimes, which only makes my guilt worse. I truly know how much this weighs on you. But I want to encourage you not to confess everything, even though the temptation is strong. I started confessing, and at first, it seemed like a way to relieve the guilt, but it only made things worse. Now I feel like I have to tell my boyfriend literally everything—even small things that seem so insignificant, like almost making a typo or leaving a couple of specks of rice on my plate. It’s a vicious cycle, and I end up feeling even heavier with guilt. I know it sounds strange or even ridiculous, but trust me when I say that trying to hold back from confessing will be better for you in the long run. I really wish I hadn’t gone down that path. When someone feels like your safe space, it’s even harder to resist the urge to confess, and the love they show can make you feel even worse because of how much you care about them. So please, do your best to avoid it, even if it’s hard. I’m saying this with nothing but love, because I truly understand what you’re going through.
Lillo2000Lillo2000
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@issphra 🫶🏻 I try so hard not to confess to him, but when it comes to me feeling like I’m cheating on him even though I’m not I feel like I have to tell him. Like if I followed a guy I thought was cute on Instagram or posted on my Instagram and hoped the guy saw it like I feel like that kind of stuff I need to tell him right? I’m so confused he’s my first bf
.Anonymous.Anonymous
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Hi! I also suffer with this type of ocd. It’s so time consuming and draining. Please know you’re not the only one!
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