cnv
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goyategoyate
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You cannot change what or who you are attracted to, that is the fundamental make up of who you are as a human being, you cannot just switch it off...... there is nothing wrong in finding someone attractive even if they are the opposite sex, it doesn't mean you will have a relationship with them or that you are gay....as we go through our lives we experience many different emotions....it's part of who we are as human beings.... don't be so hard on yourself.
goyategoyate
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Maybe now you are at a point we're it's time to fight back....
cnvcnv
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I know, but it feels like I have no power sometimes
goyategoyate
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Why don't you write a list, of all the things you wish for if you didn't suffer OCD, and another list containing all the things OCD stops you from doing....and then work towards removing just one compulsion or reassurance behavior a week, gradually retraining your brain not to react
cnvcnv
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Thank you
goyategoyate
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Wouldn't...not would . Predictive text
honorroll1honorroll1
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Thanks so much. It feels better when you have someone to talk to. Even if hocd is still there. What type of ocd do u have?
honorroll1honorroll1
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Thanks you too
EsosaEsosa
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Me too
goyategoyate
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Your welcome...
honorroll1honorroll1
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Me too. I so afraid that i'll find out that ive been lyibg to myself thr whole time. Ik it's not true deep deep down. But i dont believe it. Im accepting/open towards lgbt but thats not the life i want to live. I have always wanted a husband. Always found girls attractive, sexy etc but never in a I want a relationship. Now HOCD is reversing everything to my being apart of that community. Idk what to believe anymore. I'd rather be alone for the rest of my life than be in a relationship with a woman. I just cant do it, and i'm sad and scared that i'll have to accept that I am gay and have to be with girls or that i am gay and going to be alone. I just dont know anymore..... ok rant over. Sorry guys
honorroll1honorroll1
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@goyateI Thanks, it's just so hard trying to be normal. But feling like im hiding somethi g (sexuakity). Always reminding myself it's ok to find people of the same sex attractice. But how is that possible w/o being lgbt. I cant even sit or dress w/o analyzing myself for gayness sometimes.
goyategoyate
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I don't know your age....but if you are a teenager who experience many emotions throughout our years, it's all part of life.....enjoy the journey you will only make this journey once....what is normal....no one is "normal"....you are you, just as I am me.... don't be so hard on yourself friend
goyategoyate
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Oh and it's perfectly normal to find some attractive from the same sex....it doesn't mean you are gay or anything else....it's just a feeling that you are experiencing....when I was younger I had a lot of gay friends and some were very attractive....but they were friends only...
honorroll1honorroll1
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Thanks im 23 never dated anyone almost did but it didnt work out. so i thInk thats part of it too
goyategoyate
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You are still young and learning about yourself.....many things don't work out in life, that's because something better will enter your life one day...
honorroll1honorroll1
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True but it's so frustrating always questioning mysrlf when Ive always dreamt about having a husband etc. Now the whole thing seems like one big lie but its not a lie if you know what i mean. Is it really hocd ir am i just really deep in denial... so idk
goyategoyate
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Enjoy learning about yourself....it's surprising what comes into our lives when we stop searching...
goyategoyate
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It's great that you have dreams and aspirations.... don't be so hard on yourself....you should always learn to walk first before trying to run......if you were gay you wouldn't question it and you would want a husband ..... life is a marathon not a Sprint....you have many wonderful things to experience as each year passes...
goyategoyate
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Your welcome....I have the OCD that likes things to be straight and neat and tidy....so sometimes I turn a picture on the wall off centre and sit and look at it until my anxiety drops....hey you can always message on here if your struggling.... don't think your alone....sharing a problem helps see it from a different angle....have a good day
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