When OCD affects relationships

It brought me and my husband closer. When I finally was able to open up to him about all of my scary thoughts about our kids, he didn’t judge me but tried everything to help me. He got to see me at my worst, not eating, not sleeping, crying all the time, asking for reassurance constantly. Now a year later from when it first flared up I can say that moment was my most vulnerable and I’m glad we were able to get through it together.

I always feel like he’s gonna cheat on me or has cheated

At its strongest—awful. I was latched onto everything my wife might want that wasn’t me. I had no confidence, no hope, because I was hung up on the possibility that I wasn’t enough for her.

It was scary! I knew I should be with this person but OCD kept telling me to leave. Along with negative self talk. I felt like we were on the verge of divorce for a whole year but when I opened up about it to my husband I was so wrong. OCD was lying to me!

It is absolutely the worst and most horrible experience. Feeling like now this other person is being affected by my ocd and feeling like I have the most wonderful person by my side and ocd dosent let me enjoy them or be with them and not being able to be sure about anything is so scary and disappointing to the relationship

Well, for one thing, I’ve never had a girlfriend. But I haven’t tried real hard to get one out of fear that women would laugh at me for having the severe degree of OCD that I have.

Having ROCD it has definitely shown up and I think it brought my wife and I closer than before!

Yes, this was a terrible experience for me. OCD would give me intrusive thoughts about hurting those that I loved most but I knew that it was just OCD and not me. In the beginning, I was very scared and embarrassed to open up to my wife about it, but when I finally did, it was a huge weight off my shoulder, and she was very understanding and supportive when I was at my worst.

Yesssss It told me to break up with her. It told me she had demons. It told me she’s the reason my son crashed his car. It still keeps trying but I’m ignoring it.

Im struggling on deciding whether or not to end things with my partner, myROCD thoughts are telling me to just end it.

I ruminate on doubts and uncertainties and get scared to have vulnerable conversations for not only fear of the past (dysregulated) but because of intrusive thoughts and feelings telling me what x means and what y means in the relationship which made me not want to be vulnerable because of fear it got paralyzing. So I have had to have vulnerable conversations and share my fears. He has shown me compassion and we have grown in trust because I have the conversations.

I always think he’s going to randomly breakup with me or hates me. So then I get into a pattern of fighting to prove he loves me

Unfortunately, it ruined a potential relationship and caused both parties a lot of emotional stress. I didn't know it when we first started talking, I just thought maybe I wasn't attracted to her. Or maybe it was jumping into a relationship too soon. Or maybe it was my mental health. So each time I kept calling things off but would try to call things back on thinking that I wouldn't let whatever doubts push me away but ultimately it became too much and by the time I realized what relationship OCD was, she had already crippled me with words I'd never heard before. It has made me hesitant on future relationships, but talking with my NOCD therapist, I know when the next opportunity comes at a relationship, I will work hand-in-hand with my therapist to not let OCD jeopardize another thing of my life.

ROCD put me in a really dark place. I wasn’t sleeping or eating. It made it really hard for me to go to work. My relationship stayed strong and he gave 90% while I gave 10%. I felt guilty because I didn’t know what was going on. After weeks of googling I found NOCD and it all made sense to me. It’s been a little over a year since this initially started for me and I have grown so much from it. My therapist helped me see through my reassurance seeking behaviors and gave me tools for combating them. The thoughts are still there now and then….but now I know how to handle them.

It’s awful. Especially paired with BDD. I have trouble even thinking there’s any hope or attraction to my partner and I am so tempted to believe that I just don’t love him. It feels so tempting to believe that I’m just trying to force feelings. It’s so difficult and so very painful. I can’t describe it and wouldn’t wish it on anyone.