I found this, and it’s really triggering. Like because I don’t feel love as intensely, does that mean I’ve lost feelings? Is this relationship screwed because of my traumas, that I am currently trying to work on?
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@undeserving of life Thank you! I’ve been going in a spiral lately. And caught myself on google. This is what I get for it. Lol
As an applied psychology student, who has been going to the same therapist for 4 years? I feel the need to scream for her....DONT LISTEN TO GOOGLE. Please. That post is a prime example. You are ALWAYS going to find the bad within the good, and the good within the bad, and sometimes both at the same time. Its important to focus on the best treatment for you and the most accurate thing for YOU. Not the most accurate thing for someone else. The person in that post feels that way because of their experiences. You feel uncomfortable with that post because of yours. Dont go by other people, kt isnt worth your time, honey.
@Nlombardo Thank you!! I am still struggling with the idea of having Rocd. Even tho I’m going to therapy for it. My brain tries to convince me that I’m just lying to myself and that it’s not a thing, or if it is, that I don’t have it. I’m slowly realizing love is a choice. And I love my boyfriend. Some days it feels like I have tunnel vision tho, and that this hopelessness won’t go away
@Ladybruh Honestly? Im right there with you. Ive been having such a terribel few weeks it clouds my judgment on if i feel anything towards my girl. And its absolutely a CHOICE to keep that love alive!! You can care about someone forever, but to nurture a life together even when youre not okay? Is a powerful choice to have. I just talked about this in therapy today. That choice to leave and chose something else? Is always there. We all have it. But just because that choice is there? Doesnt mean its appropriate. When you wanna leave? You wont be sad, anxious, upset. Youll be annoyed and done with it. And i truly cant stress that enough. Long term relationships are BUILT to last, not willed to last. And its important to note that any married couple will tell you....yes....rhere have been times they didnt know if they should stay/wanted to stay. But they made it, right? You stick through it. Always remember that no matter what ocd does? You always have the power to realize it isnt your relationship, or your partner thats the problem. Its your ocd. And thats a fantastic/useful power to have.
@Nlombardo Thank you!!!
@Ladybruh Absolutely! Want anything else you let me know!
I don't want to give reassurance either, but if what you are worried about is that having a less intense feeling of love means something bad about the relationship, I don't think that's the case. Everyone has times where they don't feel love, and it isn't logical to think that the people in any relationship would constantly have a feeling of love. But that's natural and okay! I think love is a choice. I don't always have a feeling of love for my family, but that doesn't mean I don't. That being said, I know it's still easy to have doubts, and I'm sorry about that. Sometimes I wonder if I love my family enough or if I take them for granted, and I know it's difficult to wonder something like that! Anyway, I hear you!
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