I feel so lonely

I feel like I will never find a boyfriend. I have to many issues, with my ocd, my anxiety, self sabotage, fear, scars of commitment. Is he the right one is he not. I don’t know where this comes from but I feel like it has to do a lot with insecurity. I don’t like my body and I think I’m just big in every way. Nothing wrong with being bigger I just don’t feel confident this way. I’m tall and overweight and I feel so uncomfortable with the fact that one day I will get personal with someone you know. I think people around me think I’m gay becuase ive never had a boyfriend or any romantic connection at all, no hand holding or anything. I feel like a loser and everyone who knows I’ve never had a boyfriend just give me this ohhhh kinda look, like I’m hiding something. I hate it especially since I have Hocd . It definitely doesn’t help, at alllllllll. Im afraid I will always find fault or a reason not to like a guy. Ughhh I have a feeling I’m going to be single forever at this rate. It just all freaks me out, plus my friends try to get me with there friends and it feel forced and I hate it. All the guys that I like don’t like me and I can’t picture myself with them. Well I can’t picture myself with anyone unfortunately. Idk why it’s so easy for other people and not for me. What is wrong with me.

Lizethh

Date posted: 25w

Well I'm here to tell you that feeling insecure about yourself won't stop someone from thinking you're the most beautiful person in the world, finding faults in guys is okay too, it's okay to not like every guy or to be picky about them, I had really bad hocd too years ago, I am overweight, I have ptsd from childhood trauma, gad, and ocd, and I used to feel the same way, but I've been with the best guy for 7 years now who understands me, supports me, and helps me through my ocd, it's okay to be single too, the right person for you will find you when you least expect it, when you have ocd it's never easy and it might take a little longer to find someone suited for you but you will find that person, the best way to approach these fears and negative questions is to say "who cares" every time the thought pops up in your head also you're NOT a loser i promise, sending you big hugs ❤️

Anonymous

Date posted: 25w

@Lizethh Thank you so much I really appreciate it ❤️❤️

TexasOCD41

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 25w

The idea that its easy for other people is just a common misconception that things like tv and social media put out there. Its hard for everyone and I'm sorry you are going thru this. Im currently married but i even feel the same thing you say, I'm overweight too. Mu husband says I'm perfect but that doesn't mean much to me because i don't care for the image in the mirror. I firmly believe that until you can love yourself, you can't love someone else. I love myself but i don't like my image so i have been working on it, improving my diet going to the gym, even positive self talk about the way i currently look. You talk about a lot of things that are our of our control but your health is in your control. Maybe try to shift your attention away from what others think about you and work on improving how you feel about yourself. Make some life style changes. When i lose weight i ALWAYS feel better about myself and my relationship with my husband and friends improves. Work on what you can control and put everything else on the back burner.

Anonymous

Date posted: 25w

@TexasOCD41 Thank you so much. I’ve been trying to make some lifestyle changes. I’ve been more conscious of what I eat and I try to get outside everyday. I think you are right tho. I need to love myself and feel confident and comfortable in my own body. I’m doing intermittent fasting and I really like it so I hope it goes well. Thank you for giving me so well needed advice. I thought it was just me who felt this way. I really appreciate it

TexasOCD41

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 25w

and also to add to worrying you wont ever find anyone who would love you. There is someone out there for everyone. I have OCD, GAD and some health issues, it took years of trial and error and just when i was ready to give up... i found my husband and he loves me despite my OCD and anxiety, he is very understanding about all of it and helps me improve myself to be the best person i can be. Be patient, work on yourself and i wouldn't be surprised if when you stop looking for Mr. Right, he trips and falls right into your life when you least expect it lol.

Anonymous

Date posted: 25w

@TexasOCD41 Thank you ❤️I hope I’m able to find someone as kind and understanding as your husband.

Anonymous

Date posted: 23w

Struggling😢

Can having socd make you lose attraction. I have never be the girl to obsess or chase after boys does that mean I’m gay. I had crushes on them but I would rather die then have them know I like them. Plus I knew they were out of my league so even if they did like me I feel like I would say no for some reason. I have been single all my life and thinking of being in a relationship feels so weird and scary and foreign. Like I feel like I won’t be in a relationship. I won’t look good with anyone or I will feel like an imposter. Idk how to explain it. I want to feel love but all this is making me feel like I never will.

Anonymous

Date posted: 22w

Advice

As someone who has never been in a relationship it’s hard for me to envision myself in one and know what it will feel like. I feel like being 21 I’ve protected myself a lot due to insecurity. I want a boyfriend and yet I don’t it’s just all really scary for me. I never had the stupid relationship to break the ice and now I’m putting so much pressure and emphasis on things and finding the RIGHT person. Also have hocd definitely doesn’t help. I’m working on myself and doing my best. But my current feelings are: I don’t like the way I look, I can’t imagine myself with someone, and I’m never going to find someone I click with and feel good with. Any advice??????

Gato0z

Date posted: 22w

Any advice?

I feel completely unlovable. I have a difficult time getting close to people because of my OCD and I have to force myself to not compulsively seek reassurance. I feel like I’ll never find my person. I’m worried I’ll be an awful wife because of my inability to do anything. I want to show up for my partner, but I feel stuck because of my OCD. I think it’s safer to just be alone.

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