Now on edge … it’s over but it’s not

@dee012 Responding to * not responsible Lol.

@dee012 Excellent point💯

@dee012 Yeah friend I’ve been trying to find a way to get in contact with you … ( not in a stalkerish way ) but that was I was wondering about too because I think it’s the same person that ran the I’m confused account and blocked me the first time … not trying to offer my own self reassurance lol

@Blueberrycows Any thread I’ve commented on you can respond to me and I will be summoned lol! Have to hurry cus I have to BRB but pls still respond But yes, it is those accounts. I tried to be as compassionate as possible, as I do not think they are a bad person at all. Every time I read their post, I think “typical OCD “also mixed in with some childhood trauma. But they don’t want help at least not at the moment. I mean, they do not want to take the active steps to get help, and that is in none of your control. You did everything you could!! I respond to that account daily, I do find myself getting frustrated, everyone has their own boundaries. Some people may not feel they can respond to them anymore, some people can. We’re not obligated to do either, but can choose as we can control our actions, but not others actions if I am making sense

@dee012 No you’re good friend and I promise I wasn’t trying to be rude in the end before they blocked me …. But like being nice and listening wasn’t helping so I tried to be more blunt but still understanding … apparently that didn’t work … so that’s why I felt at fault but it’s like NO MATTER what we said if we reassured them if we said we understood etc they kept repeating themselves and even the most patient people will get annoyed eventually… I think I’m going to have to step back for a bit

@Blueberrycows Yes, it’s OK. Just step back. I don’t know if they blocked me too, but maybe they are just going through a hard time. Once again it has nothing to do with you. Use this as an exposure, maybe you did something to get blocked, maybe not.

@dee012 Thanks friend

@Someonemaybe Yeah possibly but I just feel bad for being blunt … but I mean … assuming it’s the same person … people have tried for months and it’s still not good enough and they block me which I don’t care but I don’t want to be responsible for someone’s unaliving and I really don’t want to sit with this thought

@Blueberrycows Absolutely, that would be horrible. Well you can only share and help how you know. Some times we’re no help and need to be aware of that. Some times we could save the world, it seems. But when it’s evident nothing is going to change, well…a flat tire is still flat despite our efforts to fill it with encouragement and care. I’ve been told at times “you’re not helping.” That’s ok, thank you for telling me, I’ll back off. The fact that you reached out, that’s just good stuff. What will come of that will come of that, positive or neutral. And there’s times when we are the ones needing advice, and need to hear things like wake the fuck up and do something when we’re not catching on. Blunt indeed, but isn’t it needed some times? Good on you for trying💯

@Blueberrycows By the way, may i ask, what does the tw mean lol?

@Someonemaybe Sure friend it means Tr!gger warning … it might set of your OCD type or subtype

@Someonemaybe Thankyou friend I truly was trying to help but they weren’t listening…. They said they wanted advice but it didn’t look like it

@Blueberrycows Thank you! I’ve been wanting to ask but felt a little dumb for not knowing lol.

@Someonemaybe Nope all good

@Blueberrycows Aren’t we’re all like that at times. Perhaps it’s more seeking reassurance that their thoughts are correct rather than facing they could be wrong. I don’t know honestly. But i know I’ve done that.

@nae nae So not sure if you were around … and I promise im not trying to start anything just explaining… so there was this person a few months back that was talking about self-ham and just horrible things they went through… and the community of people helped them with advice and even reassurance at times … well they kept posting the same stuff over and over again … hopefully its the same person… because the posts were very similar to the other posts … just on a different topic … and it got so frustrating… so im sure many people started reporting that person for reassurance seeking and it was calm for awhile and then they came back and i was a little harsher this time (assuming this was the same person ) but still as respectful as i could be and they got upset and assumed stuff and end up blocking me which whatever but now im worried that ive pushed them over the edge

@Blueberrycows Ooh, I see. Thank you for explaining! And I don't think you're trying to start anything lol To be honest, I don't think anything people say will help them. You didn't have to, but you tried to help. It's up to them now what to do with that advice (and anything else people offered them). They're clearly trapped in a bad cycle of seeking reassurance. It's rough, but I don't think you've pushed them over the edge. You didn't have bad intentions, and if they took what you said the wrong way, that's okay! That's their choice, you know? :) Try not to stress about it too much.

@nae nae Thankyou friend ❤️

@Blueberrycows I think if they were serious, rather than harming them you tried to help them, look at it that way. You have no responsibility for others in that way, and you sound like a very nice person who wants everything to be okay, but no, don't worry about it. It's not worth breaking your head, sorry to say but many of us here or most of us are in a not very well mental state, so those reactions from someone can come because of that, not because of your or anyone's fault. You already carry a lot with OCD, it's not fair that you carry other people's issues too ❤️