Any ideas out there to help get motivated?

Any ideaa,on how to mire consistantly get motivated with dealing with my ocd and depressuon??? Some days I get more accomplushed and then many other days I cannot sçeep at night so I am up till 3am or later and tben djring the day I am dragging and oxten have to sleep a bit. I most my best friend....who I always,confided in. She knew all about my ocd and,luztened when I needed to talk and was happyxor me when I made accimplishments! My whole world has,tyrned upside down withthis,loss and it has made me mire,depressed and,dealing with ocd has been harder most ofren. Thanks in advance for any ideas you mught have.

OCD Helping ...

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4w ago

I'm really sorry to hear about your best friend. That's so awful and it makes sense that something like that could really affect you and your motivation. My advice would be that, when you feel able and ready to, try talking to a therapist who specializes in OCD; whether here at NOCD or elsewhere. When we are at our lowest, having someone else -- especially a professional -- who can motivate us and hold us accountable is so important and valuable. Not to mention having a therapist of any kind would be helpful as you navigate such a tough time... Hang in there and keep at it, you'll rediscover that motivation in no time!

Anonymous

Date posted: 29d ago

Thanks. The weird thing is that I dont know what happened. We had not talked after s,conversatuon but bith if us had phone issues and she kbew i was sock. I waited to go to do tor lije a whole month. Went on Christmas Eve and had bad infection. Once before in our lives,when tjings got busy we drifted away for a bit abd found our wsy back to one another. Now tjough she does not answer sny texts, messages, etc... I dont know what to tjink but she wss lije my confidant, my close friend, and someone who kbew all aboit my ocd and really my whole life and visa,versa. Sge even contacted my son at school to see if i was ok snd he told her it was probably my phone. In Febrruary it was her birthdsy.and we planed telepgobe and text game of leavi g messages but agtee that we never reslly spoke to one another. This was one whole year ago!!!! It was jyst a year aho sonce I called her for her birthday. I dont know if she got a new number since she too had phone issues vut if she did,she may have list all contacts. She has nit respinded to another mutusl friend either. Don't know wjat to do! This is,not helping my ocd for sure.

Andrea Wells

Date posted: 29d ago

I recently lost one of my best friends. It's so painful and shook up my depression and OCD a lot. I'm sorry to hear you are experiencing this too. Something that helps me a lot when I'm struggling to get motivated is to tell myself that it's okay to not be motivated. Especially in difficult times. It makes sense that we feel more compelled to slow down and rest. Rest is so important. So I try to be easy on myself. Are you in therapy with an OCD specialist? They are great at being someone to listen and understand and also they can help you overcome OCD and find relief from symptoms. My OCD therapist has been immensely helpful to me during this time. Sending a big virtual hug to you! You are not alone in this. Be gentle with yourself and just take care of yourself as best as you can each day.

Anonymous

Date posted: 29d ago

It is a year later and she has never responded nor did the few people in her family I tried to reach out to. They are not big social media people amd I can tell that none of them have read what I write to them. A she wondered ago it me a year ago and called mynson, I tried calling her sister and message two others family members but nothing. So....like she wondered about me...I wonder if she died! It is all so upsetting!😭😭😭

Andrea Wells

Date posted: 28d ago

@Anonymous - That is so heartbreaking. I'm so sorry you can't get in touch with her or get answers about what happened. I know OCD really hates when we can't find something out for certain too, and I can only imagine that's making things more distressing. Big hug to you. Do you have an OCD therapist to help support you?

Anonymous

Date posted: 29d ago

Thanks for reaching out to me.I am sorry for your loss as well!!! Was it a death or was it some loss that lije me you don't know why it happened? I am in a state of depression I tried not thinkibg about it and sometimes it works especially after a lot of times webt by but we have been friends sibce high school...tokd each other everything, a party of each other's,lives so much that I blame myself for not cobtactibg her when this first happened. However, I was getting g sick and we were on pho e and obcephone died out and woukd not charge or work I just had no energy to go out for a bew pho e or phone repair. She reached put to my son who was away at college and he told her it was pribably my phone again. After I got better after seeing the do for on Christmas Eve and was on medication for bad infection, I still has not reached put. I was stull depressed...maybe sonething with the holidays, my ocd...I dobt remember. But I live the holidays so I doubt it was cuz of it being the Christmas season cuz I love it!!! Last February in reached put to her for her birthday but she did not answer. I figured sge was with familynand tried her next day. She was at her sister's and said if it was not too late she would call me the following day. However, she did not call me back that day and I missed her call the next day. She texted me two days later and then I got back to her through text. Everything seemed fine between us but then we list touch! It made my ocd GO THROUGH THE ROOF!!!😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

Bruce M

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 28d ago

OCD can certainly affect sleep. Try to get this under control by using ERP and as you get better you might find that it is easier for you to get good rest. Contact NOCD for a free 15 minute call to discuss further. They can offer more detail than I can here. https://www.treatmyocd.com/about-us/contact-us

Ironborn

Date posted: 22w ago

Is this beyond ocd?

I'm reaching out in hopes of finding others who might relate to my experiences or offer insights. I'm dealing with a complex interplay of OCD, depression, and existential anxiety, and I'm struggling to make sense of it all. Here's what I'm experiencing: I have OCD with various manifestations, along with episodes of depression. I find myself in a cyclical pattern where, after a few weeks, I start to remind myself about my depressive tendencies. This reminder seems to trigger a cycle that actually makes me feel more depressed or at least more aware of depressive symptoms. When this happens, I often experience feelings of nihilism and existential dread. I try to think about my family - my two young boys and my wife - to find motivation or a sense of purpose, but this strategy often backfires, making me feel even more anxious and depressed. I constantly check my feelings, wondering if they're depressive or anxious. At the same time, I fear that my feelings of anxiety and panic might spiral out of control. I think about my emotions and thoughts on a meta-level, which means I'm not just experiencing feelings, but I'm also constantly analyzing the fact that I'm experiencing them. There's an existential component to my struggles, a fear of depression and anxiety itself, and a sense that this might be a self-fulfilling prophecy. Perhaps most frustratingly, I often have feelings, thoughts, or sensory experiences that I can't explain or put into words. I feel like I've never heard of these before, which leaves me feeling deeply misunderstood. Does anyone else experience something similar? How do you cope with this complex web of symptoms and experiences? I'm particularly interested in hearing from those who've found ways to break the cycle of meta-cognition and self-fulfilling anxiety. Any insights, shared experiences, or strategies would be deeply appreciated. Thank you for your time and understanding.

mjabel25

Date posted: 19w ago

Advice for a bad time (TW for depression)

Going through a ready hard time rn. Anyone have advice for how they get out of rough patches with their ocd. It’s completely taken over my life the past two days and I feel like all I do is sleep and have this knowing anxiety.

Evieb123

Date posted: 15w ago

urgent help needed

Hi everyone, I’m reaching out here because I know this community understands the daily battles of living with OCD. Recently, I hit a really dark place and tried to take my own life. It’s been hard to admit, but I’m still here, and I’m trying to find a way forward. OCD feels relentless sometimes—the intrusive thoughts, the constant doubt, the cycles that never seem to end. It became so overwhelming that I didn’t see a way out. I know I need help, and I’m working on reaching out to professionals, but I also wanted to connect here. To those who’ve been in a similar place: What helped you keep going? How do you manage the darkest moments when OCD takes over? I feel like I’m holding on by a thread, but I’m holding on. Any advice, words of encouragement, or personal experiences would mean so much to me right now. Thank you for reading this, and for being part of a space where we can be honest about our struggles.

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