Is this normal behavior??

So I get sexual images of this guy doing sexual things to me and the way he looks turns me on and my mind keeps on telling me that I want to have sex with him instead of my boyfriend. Whenever I try to think of my boyfriend in a sexual way, my mind has me think about the guy instead, and whenever I kiss or do anything sexual with my boyfriend, then I get aroused because I imagine it to be the guy instead of my boyfriend that I’m doing sexual things with. I’m just so confused and curious at the same time. I have a very high sex drive and I’m always aroused by thinking of this one guy. Could this mean that I don’t want my boyfriend and that I want him instead? If so, I don’t want that to be true. I don’t want to think of this guy sexually, but it just happens and it feels natural to me. Like I feel like I crave sex with this guy instead of my boyfriend.

SpareTheLashes

Date posted: 24w

Your not alone ❤️

Somewhereona...

Date posted: 24w

When me and my bf were doing sexual things it felt like the guy was doing those things to me and I felt very aroused like I wanted him to be doing it instead of my bf. Also in the middle of me and my bf having sex, I felt turned off for about 1 minute.

VoiceInYourHead

Date posted: 24w

So this is the way I see it and bear with me it’s sorta involved lol. But think of it like this: you can’t not think about something. If I tell you not to imagine a purple elephant, you’ll picture a purple elephant. This is the equivalent of that. You’re trying not to think about it, but doing so makes it more likely you will. I’ve dealt with similar stuff and what helps in those moments is to just push it aside, ignore, and keep going. Also don’t equate high sex drive with being into that guy. You have a high sex drive, and you think about that guy. Any feeling during that will make you think it’s because of that guy, when really it’s just being hypersensitive and picturing it. I believe it’s called a groinal and it’s common with types of OCD. Hope this helps

Somewhereona...

Date posted: 24w

I just feel so guilty because my boyfriend was doing sexual things to me and I imagined it to be the guy and when I thought about him doing it then I felt aroused and I felt like I wanted the guy to be doing the sexual things to me instead of my bf. Also in the middle of me and my bf having sex, I felt turned off for about a minute. I felt unattractive to my bf in the middle of it😫😫

VoiceInYourHead

Date posted: 24w

@Somewhereonabeach That’s normal with this. I’ve dealt with it and truly the best advice is try to power through it. Because the more you stop sex because of it, the more you train yourself to do that every time

Somewhereona...

Date posted: 24w

@VoiceInYourHead - Why does it feel like an urge to get with this guy? I’m confused on what I want. I want my bf but at the same time this guy won’t leave my mind and I always think about him sexually and get aroused, and feel like I rather have sex with him and not my bf. It’s so so hard to deal with.

VoiceInYourHead

Date posted: 24w

@Somewhereonabeach But the thing is, you’re not getting with him and you are doing things with your bf. If you wanted to, you can go confront the other guy. But you’re not. You’re choosing to be with your bf, and that matters more than urges. I felt attraction to an old crush and thought my partner wasn’t the one, and then those feelings faded and I realized I wanted to be with my partner. This will pass, just try to do bonding things with your bf

Somewhereona...

Date posted: 24w

@VoiceInYourHead - It’s been this way for 9 months😞I just want it to get better asap. I want to only focus on my bf and not be confused on what I truly want. When me and my bf first started dating, this guy didn’t even cross my mind, but now it’s an everyday thing.

Somewhereona...

Date posted: 24w

I feel confused

Do our minds imagine someone to look more attractive than they actually are in real life? I get aroused when I get images of this one guy and it feels like I really want to have sex with him but at the same time I try to push it away. I feel like there’s a part of me that is curious and wanting to explore, but I have a boyfriend and I love him and I only want him.

Em2003

Date posted: 22w

Brain Confusion?

I already made a post about this but I have theory over what might’ve happened because I can’t really stop freaking out about how much like me it felt. My boyfriend told me his cousin grabbed his other cousin’s girlfriend’s boob while drunk. Later, I started imagining it happening to me, with my boyfriend getting defensive (I love drama-filled moments in stories). Then, I thought, “Why couldn’t it have been me?” and got scared. I know I like attention, and I’m worried that’s why it felt so real. I almost felt excited. I’m wondering if it was just an intrusive thought or if my brain was mixing up the daydreaming feeling with that. Later that night, I started thinking about how I could position myself to make it more likely to happen, and I immediately felt horror. I’m into things like CNC, and I’m wondering if my brain got confused, mixing the daydreaming excitement with that preference, which is why it felt so real? I don’t know. I’m feeling scared because it genuinely felt like me both times. Has anyone else experienced this kind of brain confusion? Is that even possible?

misereri

Date posted: 22w

Hi, please reply to me

I frequently feel the need to test myself with sexual scenarios with a guy jn my class, im jn a relationship and i keep testing if I find him hot attractive or whatever and i have many crisis about it likw i pray to god to not make me attracted to X person, sometimes I avoid going to school i avoid looking at him I skip periods and truly yall idk what to do anymore. Can someone give me suggestions? I'm scared I don't wanna be attracted to anyone else besides my boyfriend i don't wanna cheat on him I don't wanna do anything I just wanna live a quiet happy life with him . I'm worried I know the truth and just don't wanna accept it jm super worried I need suggestions pls

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