ocdinglehopper

Date posted: 24w

intrusive feelings

hey, so i’ve had these insane thoughts about like, this dude. and i assumed it’s intrusive feelings, but it also has happened w the fact o think i like girls? but i don’t? like, i get the gronal response, and everything, and like, it sometimes feels like i actually like them, but it always makes me sick? same way w the false attraction guy, and it even started happening w my bsf of like 9 years? and it’ll tell me the most insane things like “maybe u are attracted” “maybe if u got w them the thoughts will stop” someone please help.

Estrellaorange

Date posted: 24w

Attraction is an extremely fluid and complex thing. Just because you are attracted to one guy doesn’t make you any tell attracted to girls. The other fact is that maybe some days you’ll have these thoughts about this guy and the next you won’t and it will go in waves. Also, these feelings don’t necessarily mean you’re fully attracted to all of him, maybe just aspects and that is completely okay. I’m no expert but I’ve felt this way before.

ocdinglehopper

Date posted: 24w

@Estrellaorange okay thank you, and the intrusive thoughts are mainly his name? and stuff, and like i think his face is ugly, but he has an attractive body? and my mind blows it out of proportion saying i’d cheat on my bfs w him, and imma talk to him again? and that i miss him. and what not

ocdinglehopper

Date posted: 24w

@Estrellaorange and i have really bad intrusive feelings (false attraction) about this guy

cindyjo

Date posted: 24w

It happened to me too. Along with intrusive thoughts, you can also get intrusive feelings and body responses. It’s your brain that controls this, but you cannot control the brain. Don’t try to!! You are a good person, not the thoughts. I know it’s hard but these thoughts and feelings are fake, damn good liars 😂

ocdinglehopper

Date posted: 24w

@cindyjo i get those and the intrusive thoughts are mainly his name? and stuff, and like i think his face is ugly, but he has an attractive body? and my mind blows it out of proportion saying i’d cheat on my bfs w him, and imma talk to him again? and that i miss him. and what not and it literally drives me insane, bc like why? and it started over an intrusive thought of his arms😞

cindyjo

Date posted: 24w

@ocdinglehopper Oh yes it is hard. Sometimes I get it about older people. It’s ok, this is all l want you to know. It doesnt mean you are a cheater, it means ocd is a bitch 😂

ocdinglehopper

Date posted: 24w

@cindyjo thank you, but do you know why intrusive feelings happen? like i never understood it? is it something we want? and why does it stay even when i get single

cindyjo

Date posted: 24w

@ocdinglehopper It ia definitely not something you want, hence it is called “intrusive”. It stays bcs you have ocd and it wants to bug you, you try to avoid it (you dont want it) and it persists

ocdinglehopper

Date posted: 24w

@cindyjo okay, but the dude it’s happening with, i used to have a talking stage with? and everything so it throws me off

cindyjo

Date posted: 23w

@ocdinglehopper So what?

ocdinglehopper

Date posted: 23w

@cindyjo like i used to be attracted to him? so the intrusive feelings/false attraction throws me off? well i actually rlly dk if i was. it always threw me off i never knew if i was actually attracted to him. I think it was just his arms, and the attention he gave? so i convinced myself i was, by getting hyper fixated on him. which idk

ocdinglehopper

Date posted: 23w

@cindyjo because then when he’d want something, i’d say no ew, and just not want anything

cindyjo

Date posted: 23w

@ocdinglehopper Again, so what? Why does it matter if you are attracted to him or not?

ocdinglehopper

Date posted: 23w

@cindyjo well, because he has a girlfriend, and it’s my bestfriends boyfriend. and he made my life hell in like 2023

cindyjo

Date posted: 23w

@ocdinglehopper So I still don’t understand why it is a problem to have intrusive thoughts about him

cindyjo

Date posted: 23w

@ocdinglehopper He is now you bsf’s boyfriend?

ocdinglehopper

Date posted: 23w

@cindyjo yes, because in the past they dated and i did her dirty, and me and this dude had a terrible homewrecking past, pls look at my most recent post and lmk what u think

ocdinglehopper

Date posted: 23w

after the intrusive feelings

do u get a fear that after the intrusive feelings (false attraction) that you will Get romantic feelings after this all ends? because i do. especially bc i was hyperfixated on the guy in the past

Googlyeyes34

Date posted: 21w

False attraction

False attraction has been killing me ive had it for months with the same person. I have a boyfriend so having false attraction makes me feel so guilty. And lately theyve felt so real and ive been so anxious. What if I do like him bla bla. Ive only ever saw him as a brother and we have a good connection and he is one of my good friends but even sometimes when im having a conversation I feel like im cheating. Sometimes I get excited like oh yay he is gonna be here and then I get scared that it’s romantical because I get excited when he is around because he is a funny. Im so scared thats its real attraction because I love my boyfriend I would never do such a thing. And lately my minds done stuff like oh grab his attention stuff like that and it feels like I have done those actions but I dont want to. Sometimes when he is like idk sitting near Im like oh is he looking and my minds like oh do something to empress him bla bla. Recently he was going thought stuff and my boyfriend was there and I was I can give him a hug because I think he needs it but after I thought of it as bad because he is a guy and I had this false attraction what if I did it because I like him bla bla. I am freaking out idk why my mind makes me do compulsions that I have acted on like oh go talk to him and I do its weird urges that I do not want to do. I am scared that it will come true

Mags2002

Date posted: 21w

Intrusive feelings: someone insights?

I would love to have some insight in this in general I deal with thoughts but for me it is the feelings that make ocd this difficult The feeling of disgust for my partner, the feeling of wanting the content of the thoughts , the feeling that this is the real me , the feeling that i am lying to myself and my partner, the loss of attraction,... Because when i write it like that ,that that these are feelings, it seems very much that i am just in drnial and i am bi but i cant love men anymore, or that i am not attracted to my bf and so on

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