do u get a fear that after the intrusive feelings (false attraction) that you will Get romantic feelings after this all ends? because i do. especially bc i was hyperfixated on the guy in the past
Yes! It’s all an ocd trick,it’s not true though.
@sophia70 okay thank you, also do you know if ppl actually gain feelings after tho?
@ocdinglehopper Nope! All thoughts are intrusive and go against what you actually feel.
@sophia70 but it feels odd, because me and this dude talked in the past tho? and i think i was just super hyper fixated on him, not even a crush
Girly pls calm down. It is alright, let them thoughts be 😂 we’re all here going through the same thing : I experienced when I was 10 yo all your thoughts and intrusive feelings. So trust me when I say this. Please calm down, you’re ok
@cindyjo it’s been 11 months, and they still haven’t
@cindyjo You’re talking to someone who hasn’t recovered yet so they have no idea this isn’t true. They just need to learn that these are ocd thoughts and go against them, so they are therefore false. Calm down is a poor choice of words.
@sophia70 No worries, me and ocdinglehopper have talked before and I’ve told them things beforehand, so that’s why I used the terms I used, as if I am talking to a friend. I appreciate that you are so considerate and thoughtful tho 😊
@ocdinglehopper I know, l know, but I always wanted to have someone telling me that it’s gonna be ok because they know for a fact it will be. That’s why I am trying to be that person. Please trust because I know exactly what you are going through and because I know there is a way out
@ocdinglehopper I’ll say it once again: l understand the distress you are feeling, but you also gotta listen to that small rational voice that’s telling you there is nothing wrong with that. You could be attracted to that guy or not, you can like some aspects of him and dislike others. Your brain just decided to get hyperfixated on these things because of OCD. Now you said it yourself “false attraction” cause that’s what it is. Intrusive feelings come from the thought “I dont wanna feel that” and BOOM you feel it. Ocd is trying to make you doubt yourself, your intentions, even have you feel like you are losing control. The thing is - no need to control anything 😊
@cindyjo yeah, but it just causes me so much stress because in the past, me and him talked, and i never knew if i was attracted to him then? and i just i was just super hyper fixated on him? because i never missed him, when we quit talking and i talked to his other friends before him? and then talked to him? and idk it just bugs me now; he’s icky and gross and all this started was bc i overthought that he had nice arms, because i loveee arms it was nothing about his face or anything
@cindyjo and i’m worri d that like instead of a crush, i could get hyper fixated on him, again? and i really don’t want that
@ocdinglehopper What they do in ocd therapy is they practice uncertainty. So you could or not. (Between us, I’m pretty sure you won’t get hyperfixated) 😘
@cindyjo okay, but i mean i don’t understand why i would get hyper fixated again, if i’m having this whole big ordeal over one thought of him, and this has never happened before?
@ocdinglehopper Because it’s ocd, simple answer
@cindyjo so, im probably not gonna get hyper fixated again? even especially after this? because i didn’t even think abt the dude for like two years? and i mean we spoke one time in 2023 and after that never again? and idk why i’m overthinking this sm. i just want nothing to do w this guy
@ocdinglehopper Ocd is hyperfixated, not you
@cindyjo like in the past? back in 2022? and 2023? it was ocd making me hyperfixated? and not me? what? and like i’ve ran back to every guy i’ve ever talked to? and i’m scared i’ll do it with him? even tho i went two years without contact, and never took him seriously. at all. i would just become all consuming obsessed for 2 weeks, then randomly get so bored and hate him? then block him then just redo that over and over again
False attraction has been killing me ive had it for months with the same person. I have a boyfriend so having false attraction makes me feel so guilty. And lately theyve felt so real and ive been so anxious. What if I do like him bla bla. Ive only ever saw him as a brother and we have a good connection and he is one of my good friends but even sometimes when im having a conversation I feel like im cheating. Sometimes I get excited like oh yay he is gonna be here and then I get scared that it’s romantical because I get excited when he is around because he is a funny. Im so scared thats its real attraction because I love my boyfriend I would never do such a thing. And lately my minds done stuff like oh grab his attention stuff like that and it feels like I have done those actions but I dont want to. Sometimes when he is like idk sitting near Im like oh is he looking and my minds like oh do something to empress him bla bla. Recently he was going thought stuff and my boyfriend was there and I was I can give him a hug because I think he needs it but after I thought of it as bad because he is a guy and I had this false attraction what if I did it because I like him bla bla. I am freaking out idk why my mind makes me do compulsions that I have acted on like oh go talk to him and I do its weird urges that I do not want to do. I am scared that it will come true
I would love to have some insight in this in general I deal with thoughts but for me it is the feelings that make ocd this difficult The feeling of disgust for my partner, the feeling of wanting the content of the thoughts , the feeling that this is the real me , the feeling that i am lying to myself and my partner, the loss of attraction,... Because when i write it like that ,that that these are feelings, it seems very much that i am just in drnial and i am bi but i cant love men anymore, or that i am not attracted to my bf and so on
Can anyone give their experience on FALSE ATTRACTION? At this moment, mine has become worse. Soon as I see a male my anxiety shoots up, I can feel this in my chest and my OCD is telling me I’m attracted. But I continue to look back or stare and the disgust comes over me and my body shakes and I feel my face screw up. I can’t listen to music I use too or watch movies which was a favourite thing of mine to do. I just feel disgusted and not who I am when it happens. It’s like a different me. P.S. I had a very good week few days ago where I knew this wasn’t me and these feelings/ thoughts isn’t me.
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