after the intrusive feelings

@sophia70 okay thank you, also do you know if ppl actually gain feelings after tho?

@ocdinglehopper Nope! All thoughts are intrusive and go against what you actually feel.

@sophia70 but it feels odd, because me and this dude talked in the past tho? and i think i was just super hyper fixated on him, not even a crush

@cindyjo it’s been 11 months, and they still haven’t

@cindyjo You’re talking to someone who hasn’t recovered yet so they have no idea this isn’t true. They just need to learn that these are ocd thoughts and go against them, so they are therefore false. Calm down is a poor choice of words.

@sophia70 No worries, me and ocdinglehopper have talked before and I’ve told them things beforehand, so that’s why I used the terms I used, as if I am talking to a friend. I appreciate that you are so considerate and thoughtful tho 😊

@ocdinglehopper I know, l know, but I always wanted to have someone telling me that it’s gonna be ok because they know for a fact it will be. That’s why I am trying to be that person. Please trust because I know exactly what you are going through and because I know there is a way out

@ocdinglehopper I’ll say it once again: l understand the distress you are feeling, but you also gotta listen to that small rational voice that’s telling you there is nothing wrong with that. You could be attracted to that guy or not, you can like some aspects of him and dislike others. Your brain just decided to get hyperfixated on these things because of OCD. Now you said it yourself “false attraction” cause that’s what it is. Intrusive feelings come from the thought “I dont wanna feel that” and BOOM you feel it. Ocd is trying to make you doubt yourself, your intentions, even have you feel like you are losing control. The thing is - no need to control anything 😊

@cindyjo yeah, but it just causes me so much stress because in the past, me and him talked, and i never knew if i was attracted to him then? and i just i was just super hyper fixated on him? because i never missed him, when we quit talking and i talked to his other friends before him? and then talked to him? and idk it just bugs me now; he’s icky and gross and all this started was bc i overthought that he had nice arms, because i loveee arms it was nothing about his face or anything

@cindyjo and i’m worri d that like instead of a crush, i could get hyper fixated on him, again? and i really don’t want that

@ocdinglehopper What they do in ocd therapy is they practice uncertainty. So you could or not. (Between us, I’m pretty sure you won’t get hyperfixated) 😘

@cindyjo okay, but i mean i don’t understand why i would get hyper fixated again, if i’m having this whole big ordeal over one thought of him, and this has never happened before?

@ocdinglehopper Because it’s ocd, simple answer

@cindyjo so, im probably not gonna get hyper fixated again? even especially after this? because i didn’t even think abt the dude for like two years? and i mean we spoke one time in 2023 and after that never again? and idk why i’m overthinking this sm. i just want nothing to do w this guy

@ocdinglehopper Ocd is hyperfixated, not you

@cindyjo like in the past? back in 2022? and 2023? it was ocd making me hyperfixated? and not me? what? and like i’ve ran back to every guy i’ve ever talked to? and i’m scared i’ll do it with him? even tho i went two years without contact, and never took him seriously. at all. i would just become all consuming obsessed for 2 weeks, then randomly get so bored and hate him? then block him then just redo that over and over again